Meeting others in BDSM

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Meeting others in BDSM

KinkyKrissy KinkyKrissy
What are the best methods or websites to meet other people in the BDSM lifestyle? My ultimate dream is to have a dom one day or be in a M/S relationship, but I know that takes time and patience. I've heard Fetlife mentioned a few times and heard of ALT.com as well. What suggestions or websites do you recommend? I know to be safe, meet in public, etc etc.
07/08/2011
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MaryExy MaryExy
I have met some interesting people on Fetlife...
07/08/2011
KinkyKrissy KinkyKrissy
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Originally posted by MaryExy
I have met some interesting people on Fetlife...
uh oh, is that a good or bad thing?
07/08/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
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Originally posted by KinkyKrissy
uh oh, is that a good or bad thing?
I see a lot of people who seem cool, and some of the doms that have contacted me didn't seem half bad (I'm not out looking for a dom, though, so I always cut the conversation short when they express that they aren't looking for just a friend). There are some creepers, but only one has really given me any hint of the heeby-jeebies, and it wasn't a "this guy wants to stalk, rape, and murder me" kind of vibe, just a "you sound kind of slimy when you talk about your kinks, which feels inappropriate when I told you I have a dom" vibe. I've seen 999999999999x worse in chatrooms.

It doesn't hurt to create a profile. The munches for different areas sound really cool (if I make a buddy at school who's into kink, I might go to one)
07/08/2011
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Fetlife is by far my number one recommendation for meeting like-minded people! I have been on that site for just over a year, and have met many great people through it!
07/08/2011
KinkyKrissy KinkyKrissy
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Originally posted by MaryExy
I see a lot of people who seem cool, and some of the doms that have contacted me didn't seem half bad (I'm not out looking for a dom, though, so I always cut the conversation short when they express that they aren't looking for just a ...
That clears things up a lot, thank you!
07/08/2011
KinkyKrissy KinkyKrissy
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Originally posted by qqqqqqqqqqqq
Fetlife is by far my number one recommendation for meeting like-minded people! I have been on that site for just over a year, and have met many great people through it!
I think I'm going to make an account tonight
07/08/2011
Dusk Dusk
I won't necessarily say I've met people on fetlife, but I have connected again with people I met at munches and such. I've also found out about munches and workshops via fetlife.
07/09/2011
Sir Sir
I wouldn't say that Fetlife is the place to meet the Dominant of your dreams, however, it is good for making connections. Go to a few play parties or events in your area, you may find someone who you like who is into the same things as you. I personally have not had any luck, but who knows? It could happen when you least expect it.
07/09/2011
KinkyKrissy KinkyKrissy
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Originally posted by Sir
I wouldn't say that Fetlife is the place to meet the Dominant of your dreams, however, it is good for making connections. Go to a few play parties or events in your area, you may find someone who you like who is into the same things as you. I ...
Thanks for your input!
07/12/2011
SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
I haven't been on fetlife for a significant amount of time at all, or used it much, but it does seem that people have had some luck meeting other kinksters there.
07/30/2011
KinkyKrissy KinkyKrissy
I ended up not making an account. Right now with school, studying abroad, and limited internet, it's just not the right time, although at some point down the road I will definitely give it some more consideration.
07/31/2011
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