What is your safe word?

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What is your safe word?

daveysgirl daveysgirl
Ours is peanuts, since this is not a word that would never be used during sex? why did you pick the word you do?
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Madeira Madeira
Eggs, you can say it through a ball gag.
08/04/2011
ChaosBunny ChaosBunny
Ours is "Henry" lol.
08/04/2011
Errant Venture Errant Venture
'Journey'. I chose it because it's the name of her blog. Thought it would make it easy to remember. It's not...
08/06/2011
Ava5 Ava5
Quote:
Originally posted by daveysgirl
Ours is peanuts, since this is not a word that would never be used during sex? why did you pick the word you do?
doesn't peanuts sound too close to penis? lol
08/06/2011
clp clp
I use the traffic light system: Green, Yellow, Red. Green means great, yellow means whoaaa hold on we need to pause or renegotiate, and red means all play stops entirely and the scene is over. You really don't want to hear yellow and red is a pretty serious foul up. If gagged, the same idea is used with either holding up fingers (1 means fine, 3 means stop) or holding hands and squeezing. Its easy to integrate this system into play because you can just quietly ask 'color?' during play and continue. I think its also VERY important to have that medium level to check in at, because sometimes you can tell a scene is going downhill but if you don't hear a safeword, you assume you should keep going. Miscommunication 101.

Of course, this all depends on your level of play and your relationship with your play partner. I suppose some situations don't need such intense thought behind safewords--I love petnames over real names during vanilla sex, so if things get too rough, a quick bark of the Christian name ("DAVID! STOP!") usually does it.
08/06/2011
SomeGirl SomeGirl
Now, I use "red." Once upon a time, I chose something completely and totally off the wall when I was still *very* new to BDSM, and I needed to use it, but I forgot it. That was not the best experience. But you live and learn right?
08/06/2011
G.L. Morrison G.L. Morrison
Red. I play with a lot of people --traffic light system is best. Safeword is also the default for anyone who can't remember. Scream red or safeword and the dungeon monitor should come running.
08/06/2011
Vanessa Weiss Vanessa Weiss
We don't really have one even though we get super, super depraved. If I felt that I needed to use an actual safeword we're both pretty accustomed to the red/yellow/green thing or the use of the word "safeword" so I guess I'd probably use that.

The thing I use the most often if things get way too intense is "No, seriously. Stop."

If i'm gagged or otherwise unable to talk it's three grunts/taps on bed/taps on shoulder, etc.
08/06/2011
Endocott Endocott
She simply says stop, or she does a double tap somewhere on me.
08/07/2011
Pixel Pixel
If I'm playing with someone who isn't Master, I use 'red', or tap out, or just flat out tell my partner that I need the scene to stop, depending on who I am with.
08/09/2011
ScarlettSeraph ScarlettSeraph
I need to come up with one for my current partner, I've never liked any of the ones past partners have chosen. I know a few people who use banana, or bananaphone. I tend toward to the traffic light system, it works for me, and gives the person a chance to warn before having to call a total stop.
08/09/2011
dontbackdown02 dontbackdown02
Quote:
Originally posted by daveysgirl
Ours is peanuts, since this is not a word that would never be used during sex? why did you pick the word you do?
we don't have one.
08/11/2011
Kkay Kkay
Pizza.
08/11/2011
freakincage freakincage
Pineapple because there should never be a pineapple in the bedroom
08/12/2011
Tart Tart
I use red, but I want a new word. I don't like "yellow" so I'm in the market for a new word. Red is mostly used to stop all play. I usually don't want that. When I use my safeword it's because I have reached my limit for the moment, but it will pass, and then play can continue. Yellow is most appropriate, but it just doesn't roll off the tongue.
08/12/2011
Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
We use the red, yellow, green system too. It's easy to use with experienced partners and new partners.
08/12/2011
Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
Oklahoma....
08/15/2011
null null
Lorem Ipsum!
It's mostly just joking though because he's ridiculously gentle with me.
08/15/2011
AvianMinded AvianMinded
Quote:
Originally posted by daveysgirl
Ours is peanuts, since this is not a word that would never be used during sex? why did you pick the word you do?
We use poodle in honor of 'Choke'. If I'm gagged it's the rule of 3's. 3 large nods, 3 taps, 3 grunts... He also pauses every now and then to remind me that I know the safety word and can stop the action at any time. That lets me kind of take mental stock of the situation (I sometimes can get lost in subspace.)

You might think that something like this would interrupt play, but he uses a low sexy voice and if he's about to use something on me (paddle, vibrator, dildo, etc.) he'll drag it slowly across my skin to build anticipation.
08/15/2011
Ava5 Ava5
Quote:
Originally posted by freakincage
Pineapple because there should never be a pineapple in the bedroom
what if your girl's favorite food was pineapple and you were feeding it to her while she was blindfolded or something?
08/23/2011
PuddlePuppy PuddlePuppy
The theme to jaws.
You can hum or say it no matter whether you're gagged or in pain.
Duuuuuuudum. Duuuuuudum. <- gagged
dumdum dumdum dumdum dumdum dumdumdumdumdum BANANAHHHH!!! <- in pain.
08/26/2011
Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
Daisy. We picked something I'd never say normally, so he knows right away.
09/17/2011
geliebt geliebt
Banana. I don't remember anymore where it came from, but it's stuck over the years.
09/19/2011
domsub1993 domsub1993
Quote:
Originally posted by freakincage
Pineapple because there should never be a pineapple in the bedroom
That's the same one that we use! Now buying pineapples at the store causes all kinds of sexual innuendos to fly!
09/30/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
I use the stoplight system as well and I always use the 'pause to reassess' as a further humilitation as well as a true pause. My subs know it's coming and I rarely get a yellow or red...but it as happened, usually because they are either unable to reach subspace or the scene isn't working for them.
I always watch and listen though regardless of the agreed word, or gesture because it is so easy to slip into subspace and then things go horribly wrong. I am really big on building trust and one bad scene early on can really damage the trust.
09/30/2011
Angelica Angelica
We use banana in my circle. Its super easy for us to remember. I never heard of the stoplight system before last week. Weird!
09/30/2011
FemmeFlo FemmeFlo
Quote:
Originally posted by daveysgirl
Ours is peanuts, since this is not a word that would never be used during sex? why did you pick the word you do?
Banana fritters. It makes you stop and laugh.
10/19/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Madeira
Eggs, you can say it through a ball gag.
Smart!
10/20/2011
Missmarc Missmarc
cupcake
10/20/2011
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