Need suggestions on spanking implement

Well, if this is your first toy of this sort and you have no experience, I will warn you that the Ruff Doggie Styles paddles are pretty darn firm. I'd start with something a bit softer.

I really think it depends on the individual, and moreso the receiver than the giver. I LOVE a good swift hand, but sometimes I like a cat o' nine tails for playful spanking. I actually used a leather (lead filled) slapper once which left my ass pretty sore! There's usually no law against trying them on your forearm in the store, or even some light smacking on each other's asses (clothed) in the store. Try some out. Then come here for the best selection

I don't mind something that stings, but I do watch for leather items that have sharp edges, because if the giver is off just a hair then that can hurt or even cut my delicate tushie skin, heh!

Wood generally has a good weight on it (like a weapon, an evenly weighted spanking implement works better) and has fewer edges.

Everyone is different. I would recommend talking with your partner first and trying some light experimenting. I'm not sure if you are going to be giving, receiving or both but there are a variety of sensation from slappy to thuddy to name two of them.

I personally liked using the double-heart slapper that is available on Eden. You can vary your sensation depending on your needs or wants.

Oops, sorry Alpine Subdreams, didn't mean to make that a reply to your comment!

Damn, I totally missed the boat on this one. Although it has cut outs, I really recommend this one: link

It's not tooooo flexible (but not ridiculously hard), has a leather side and a suede side, so it feels softer if you'd like, and worked really well as a first for me and my ex, neither of whom were experienced. It's also cheap enough that you can see if you both like it before you start shelling out more bucks.

-EE

Something we started out with was a ping pong paddle, and a small lexan paddle from the dollar store. Eventually we moved up to light weight wooden paddles, although you have to be careful - they carry more sting than thud! I would never recommend starting out with "heavier" implements, as they could cause physical damage you may not be prepared for. Those should be "worked up to."