Eden Bloggers - February 24, 2011 at 7pm: Blogger's Club

Kayla Kayla
Hey guys! Our topic this month for the EdenBloggers club is going to being How to Stay Anonymous with your Sex Blog. It's going to focus on the sex-blogging aspect this month, but the suggestions would apply to any type of blog. We'll have suggestions on how to stay anonymous as well as discussions as to why you'd want to and your own experiences with the anonymity of sex blogging.

This month's club meets here, on this thread, on Thursday, February 24, 2011 at 7-8PM Eastern Time. Last time we had a great turn-out, and I'm hoping for a bigger turn-out this time. Plus, who doesn't enjoy learning knowledge while still having the chance to win prizes?
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Lady Venus Lady Venus
Woohoo! Can't wait!
02/22/2011
seaofneptune seaofneptune
I'll try to join if I can!
02/22/2011
Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by seaofneptune
I'll try to join if I can!
I hope you can.
02/23/2011
Kayla Kayla
I'm definitely really excited for this month's meeting!
02/23/2011
Epicurean Epicurean
Definitely something that's been on my mind - I'm looking forward to it! I wish we could meet at 8pm EST so us West Coasters could join right after work, but I'm gonna try to leave early
02/23/2011
El-Jaro El-Jaro
~bump~
02/24/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
Yay it's tonight
02/24/2011
namelesschaos namelesschaos
I'll try to make if I can, it is a really great topic.
02/24/2011
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
I really like this idea.
02/24/2011
Rainbow Boy Rainbow Boy
Sounds fun! I'll try to make it.
02/24/2011
Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by Rainbow Boy
Sounds fun! I'll try to make it.
We just have 50 minutes until the start of the meeting!
02/24/2011
Kayla Kayla
Just 30 minutes left now!
02/24/2011
Kayla Kayla
15 minutes until all sorts of sexy knowledge!
02/24/2011
NymphetamineKiss NymphetamineKiss
yay I'm here!
02/24/2011
Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by NymphetamineKiss
yay I'm here!
Yay! It's always great to see a friendly face!
02/24/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
Woo! A few minutes early, but I'm here
02/24/2011
Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by Jul!a
Woo! A few minutes early, but I'm here
Welcome, Welcome! Come one, come all!
02/24/2011
NymphetamineKiss NymphetamineKiss
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Originally posted by Kayla
Yay! It's always great to see a friendly face!
*waves*

I should SO be in bed though... I have Uni tomorrow and it is almost midnight here afterall.. oh what the heck.
02/24/2011
Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by NymphetamineKiss
*waves*

I should SO be in bed though... I have Uni tomorrow and it is almost midnight here afterall.. oh what the heck.
You guys have such a sad time zone. I'd hate to be sleeping while almost everything Ef-related goes on.
02/24/2011
NymphetamineKiss NymphetamineKiss
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Originally posted by Kayla
You guys have such a sad time zone. I'd hate to be sleeping while almost everything Ef-related goes on.
Yeah Though it's handy that it's just picking up in the states while I see everyone UK-based dropping off the net, for a nightowl like me!
02/24/2011
Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by NymphetamineKiss
Yeah Though it's handy that it's just picking up in the states while I see everyone UK-based dropping off the net, for a nightowl like me!
True. Everything at the same time would be horribly full.
02/24/2011
Kayla Kayla
Let's get this meeting on the road!

Being a sex blogger requires the forethought to think about privacy before you start your blog. After all, while we all want to have an online identity, I doubt most of us, when our mother's search our name, want our sex blogs to pop up. For me, I don't want it popping up because A) it possibly limits my choices for employment and B) It's impossible to write candidly about my sex life if I know my mother is reading about my sexual experiences.

So how do you go about protecting yourself from being discovered?

Separate Your Screen Names!!
This is easily the most important aspect of staying anonymous. When you start up a sex blog, start up all new things (if possible). Most of us can't have two PayPal accounts, but you can easily start up new e-mail addresses, a new Twitter, new social network accounts, and any other account you associated with your blog. Someone with some sleuthing skills may attach your kinky account to your “non-blog” account and cause problems if you don't watch it.

Watch Your Pictures
You'd be surprised how much you can figure out by someone just by checkin' out their pictures. Usually it's not too easy to figure out someone's identity just by pictures, but it's probably pretty easy, from some of us, to figure out if that's our “friend/best friend/classmate” from looking at pictures. I know my ring appears in a lot of my review pictures. In other pictures, you can see the background of my apartment. Both of those are pretty big identifiers, and while they are pretty harmless on their own, they will “confirm” someone's suspicions if they do happen to come across your blog. Try to keep obvious identifiers and backgrounds out of your photographs, but even I admit that I'm pretty horrible about it. Along with that, use the common sense rule of no personal pictures such as one that shows a nearby street identifier or your car license.

Fake Your Name (When You Can)
I hate encouraging people to use fake names, but honestly, sometimes I don't trust adult site's security. It's like they don't come under scrutiny sometimes just because of the nature of the websites. This was made further a problem by the time when, while posting on-site reviews, the company posted my full name along with every on-site review. That freaked me out. So unless you plan on making an order from that specific company, I highly recommend using a fake name; even if it's just a couple letters different than your “real name”. This will keep Google from indexing it which is the real worry. However, when it comes down to billing/payment issues, Paypal, or your shipping address, you need to use your full, real name.

Watch Your PayPal Account
A lot of us do business with one another and with companies for advertising, affiliate payments, and things like that. Since PayPal requires your real name to actually function, be careful who you send payments to since your full name will show up when you send or receive payments. To protect yourself, choose not to do business with untrustworthy people (including some bloggers; always try to make sure you know the person or others have spoken highly of them), or upgrade your PayPal account to a Business account to hide your name on outgoing and incoming transactions.

Private Domain
Even now, I'm impressed by how a search for my old websites will bring up my full name and address. This is because the “Whois” information on a domain will include this information. For that reason, I highly, highly recommend purchasing a private domain when you choose to go out and buy hosting for your blog. If you already own a blog, use the Whois Look-Up to make sure your information is private.

Search Google
If you're like me, you hate searching Google with your full name for fear of finding some sex blog-related thing on there that you let slip between the cracks. However, it's important to you continue to search Google just in case something like that does slip through. Some people use Google Alerts to automatically notify them when new search results pop up with their name. If something does pop-up, don't worry; Google caches do update, and if the content is removed from the website it was posted on, Google will remove it with time.
02/24/2011
NymphetamineKiss NymphetamineKiss
The private domain issue was one thing I totally messed up on at first - and felt a lot safer once I got it sorted!
02/24/2011
Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by NymphetamineKiss
The private domain issue was one thing I totally messed up on at first - and felt a lot safer once I got it sorted!
I know - I think it's something that a lot of people overlook. After all, most people don't even know anything about the WhoIs stuff. My host actually always purchases privately, so I'm thankful for that.
02/24/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Kayla
Let's get this meeting on the road!

Being a sex blogger requires the forethought to think about privacy before you start your blog. After all, while we all want to have an online identity, I doubt most of us, when our mother's search ... More
These are all really good tips. When I joined here I tried my hardest to do as much of that as I could, but I slipped up and used my own twitter account for something. It wasn't a big deal, but it still got noticed by somebody who knew me. Fortunately nothing's come of it.
02/24/2011
luna[KM] luna[KM]
I rely more on the fact that my family are idiots when it comes to technology and very few even own a computer let alone an internet connection.
02/24/2011
firekitten firekitten
I keep everything as separate as possible and do most of the things suggested. The only thing that bugs me is right now my review site is hosted on my main domain. Here in a few months or so I'll be transferring it to it's own domain though...I'm mostly paranoid because I don't want my parenting abilities judged.
02/24/2011
luna[KM] luna[KM]
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Originally posted by luna[KM]
I rely more on the fact that my family are idiots when it comes to technology and very few even own a computer let alone an internet connection.
Oh and I did a reverse look up and I'm not private at all. I'll have to hope the idiots don't learn how to do that or they will find all 30 domains I own.
02/24/2011
Kayla Kayla
What other suggestions do you have for keeping your identity a secret?
02/24/2011
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