Let's get this meeting on the road!
Being a sex blogger requires the forethought to think about privacy before you start your blog. After all, while we all want to have an online identity, I doubt most of us, when our mother's search our name, want our sex blogs to pop up. For me, I don't want it popping up because A) it possibly limits my choices for employment and B) It's impossible to write candidly about my sex life if I know my mother is reading about my sexual experiences.
So how do you go about protecting yourself from being discovered?
Separate Your Screen Names!!
This is easily the most important aspect of staying anonymous. When you start up a sex blog, start up all new things (if possible). Most of us can't have two PayPal accounts, but you can easily start up new e-mail addresses, a new Twitter, new social network accounts, and any other account you associated with your blog. Someone with some sleuthing skills may attach your kinky account to your “non-blog” account and cause problems if you don't watch it.
Watch Your Pictures
You'd be surprised how much you can figure out by someone just by checkin' out their pictures. Usually it's not too easy to figure out someone's identity just by pictures, but it's probably pretty easy, from some of us, to figure out if that's our “friend/best friend/classmate” from looking at pictures. I know my ring appears in a lot of my review pictures. In other pictures, you can see the background of my apartment. Both of those are pretty big identifiers, and while they are pretty harmless on their own, they will “confirm” someone's suspicions if they do happen to come across your blog. Try to keep obvious identifiers and backgrounds out of your photographs, but even I admit that I'm pretty horrible about it. Along with that, use the common sense rule of no personal pictures
such as one that shows a nearby street identifier or your car license.
Fake Your Name (When You Can)
I hate encouraging people to use fake names, but honestly, sometimes I don't trust adult site's security. It's like they don't come under scrutiny sometimes just because of the nature of the websites. This was made further a problem by the time when, while posting on-site reviews, the company posted my full name along with every on-site review. That freaked me out. So unless you plan on making an order from that specific company, I highly recommend using a fake name; even if it's just a couple letters different than your “real name”. This will keep Google from indexing it which is the real worry. However, when it comes down to billing/payment issues, Paypal, or your shipping address, you need to use your full, real name.
Watch Your PayPal Account
A lot of us do business with one another and with companies for advertising, affiliate payments, and things like that. Since PayPal requires your real name to actually function, be careful who you send payments to since your full name will show up when you send or receive payments. To protect yourself, choose not to do business with untrustworthy people (including some bloggers; always try to make sure you know the person or others have spoken highly of them), or upgrade your PayPal account to a Business account to hide your name on outgoing and incoming transactions.
Even now, I'm impressed by how a search for my old websites will bring up my full name and address. This is because the “Whois” information on a domain will include this information. For that reason, I highly, highly recommend purchasing a private domain when you choose to go out and buy hosting for your blog. If you already own a blog, use the Whois Look-Up
to make sure your information is private.
If you're like me, you hate searching Google with your full name for fear of finding some sex blog-related thing on there that you let slip between the cracks. However, it's important to you continue to search Google just in case something like that does slip through. Some people use Google Alerts
to automatically notify them when new search results pop up with their name. If something does pop-up, don't worry; Google caches do update, and if the content is removed from the website it was posted on, Google will remove it with time.