No matter what I do, I just can not get him to interact with me, no noise, no dirty talk.. We have had almost 14 years and no change. Anyone having the same?
Do you have a hard time getting your partner to get loud with you?
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Not at all. We are both very vocal during sex.
02/13/2013
Both my partner and I aren't loud, but we do both communicate and make noises (just not yelling).
02/13/2013
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Just let him know it turns you on when he moans. You will have him screaming high notes.
Originally posted by
MrsandMrbunnysoffun
No matter what I do, I just can not get him to interact with me, no noise, no dirty talk.. We have had almost 14 years and no change. Anyone having the same?
02/13/2013
My Man is usually quiet during sex. He may give a soft moan when we start or when he comes, and uses the occasional "dirty talk" but when he is quiet, I respect that that is what is working for him at the moment.
I've never "tried" to get him to do anything that wasn't in his nature.
I'd say after 14 years making noise simply isn't in your man's nature. If the sex is good otherwise, why worry?
I've never "tried" to get him to do anything that wasn't in his nature.
I'd say after 14 years making noise simply isn't in your man's nature. If the sex is good otherwise, why worry?
02/13/2013
I said yes, but it wasn't my partner. It was me!
When my husband and I met, I was ridiculously open with him. I even went so far as to let him know that I have a rather high libido, and I will go searching for sex elsewhere if he can't keep up. Not cheating, mind, but an open relationship.
Then, when we got down to it, I was way too embarrassed to express my pleasure vocally.
One day, M (hubby) said to me, "I can't tell if you actually like sex with me, or if you just endure it because you want to be with me on an emotional level."
So we talked about it, and I promised to give being vocal a try. And I liked it! Imagine that.
Talk to your partner. Maybe it's just not their thing. If that's the case, there are other ways of knowing your partner's into it.
When my husband and I met, I was ridiculously open with him. I even went so far as to let him know that I have a rather high libido, and I will go searching for sex elsewhere if he can't keep up. Not cheating, mind, but an open relationship.
Then, when we got down to it, I was way too embarrassed to express my pleasure vocally.
One day, M (hubby) said to me, "I can't tell if you actually like sex with me, or if you just endure it because you want to be with me on an emotional level."
So we talked about it, and I promised to give being vocal a try. And I liked it! Imagine that.
Talk to your partner. Maybe it's just not their thing. If that's the case, there are other ways of knowing your partner's into it.
02/13/2013
I find loud sex a turn off, but I do appreciate it when my partner loses control and expresses himself verbally during sex.
02/13/2013
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my husband is not very vocal, but when the kids are gone he will a little.
Originally posted by
MrsandMrbunnysoffun
No matter what I do, I just can not get him to interact with me, no noise, no dirty talk.. We have had almost 14 years and no change. Anyone having the same?
02/13/2013
I am very vocal, him on the other hand not at all
02/13/2013
He is very quiet but I'm loud enough for both of us.
02/13/2013
Like many with kids - you spend years 'sneaking' sex - or at least trying not to make it obvious. Now that the kids are grown my wife's new found 'verbal freedom' has been a pleasure to behold.
When the kids are around she will want to wait to have sex so she will not have to hold back - that's a little annoying, but I'm willing to work with her on it.
Me on the other hand am the 'strong silent type' - starting to make a few noises - and do more if I thought it mattered to her.
When the kids are around she will want to wait to have sex so she will not have to hold back - that's a little annoying, but I'm willing to work with her on it.
Me on the other hand am the 'strong silent type' - starting to make a few noises - and do more if I thought it mattered to her.
02/13/2013
I really hate it when a guy is completely silent
02/13/2013
hes quiet. i dont mind though.
02/13/2013
My hubby isn't silent, but he isn't loud either.
02/13/2013
There weren't enough options. My husband does sometimes, but not as much as I would like for him to.
02/13/2013
Aw, not at all. He's not very loud, but probably more vocal than most guys (at least, for me)
02/13/2013
Nope! She's a screamer
02/13/2013
No. He's a loud one. XD
02/13/2013
No, I don't.
02/13/2013
I had the opposite problem. I'm very quiet and my boyfriend wanted me to be more vocal. But I'm just not a vocal person usual. I'm very quiet.
02/13/2013
We both make noise and moan as well as talk dirty here and there. I am use to having to be quiet but when we are alone just us its game on.
02/13/2013
no she gets loud before me
02/13/2013
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Nah.
Originally posted by
MrsandMrbunnysoffun
No matter what I do, I just can not get him to interact with me, no noise, no dirty talk.. We have had almost 14 years and no change. Anyone having the same?
02/13/2013
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He never gets loud and he usually only says one or two things to me (dirty talk). I like to get loud and talk dirty but he shushes me...I guess he can't concentrate when I am telling him to ram he hard..LOL
Originally posted by
MrsandMrbunnysoffun
No matter what I do, I just can not get him to interact with me, no noise, no dirty talk.. We have had almost 14 years and no change. Anyone having the same?
02/14/2013
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I am the loud one and he isn't. I have expressed that it turns me on the hear him and he said that he has always been quiet. Hoping he will try and be a little vocal now and then.
Originally posted by
MrsandMrbunnysoffun
No matter what I do, I just can not get him to interact with me, no noise, no dirty talk.. We have had almost 14 years and no change. Anyone having the same?
02/18/2013
My guy will very rarely whisper very dirty things to me when he's very turned on. o.o It's shocking because it doesn't happen a lot, but so sexy. It wouldn't be so special if he did it all the time. XD And he will make soft sounds very occasionally, too. I think it's cute that I get him to do these things sometimes and it makes it special that they don't happen all the time.
02/21/2013
My partner is very vocal in bed, and I love it.
02/22/2013
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