My Man is usually quiet during sex. He may give a soft moan when we start or when he comes, and uses the occasional "dirty talk" but when he is quiet, I respect that that is what is working for him at the moment.
I've never "tried" to get him to do anything that wasn't in his nature.
I'd say after 14 years making noise simply isn't in your man's nature. If the sex is good otherwise, why worry?
When my husband and I met, I was ridiculously open with him. I even went so far as to let him know that I have a rather high libido, and I will go searching for sex elsewhere if he can't keep up. Not cheating, mind, but an open relationship.
Then, when we got down to it, I was way too embarrassed to express my pleasure vocally.
One day, M (hubby) said to me, "I can't tell if you actually like sex with me, or if you just endure it because you want to be with me on an emotional level."
So we talked about it, and I promised to give being vocal a try. And I liked it! Imagine that.
Talk to your partner. Maybe it's just not their thing. If that's the case, there are other ways of knowing your partner's into it.
No matter what I do, I just can not get him to interact with me, no noise, no dirty talk.. We have had almost 14 years and no change. Anyone having the same?
He never gets loud and he usually only says one or two things to me (dirty talk). I like to get loud and talk dirty but he shushes me...I guess he can't concentrate when I am telling him to ram he hard..LOL
My guy will very rarely whisper very dirty things to me when he's very turned on. o.o It's shocking because it doesn't happen a lot, but so sexy. It wouldn't be so special if he did it all the time. XD And he will make soft sounds very occasionally, too. I think it's cute that I get him to do these things sometimes and it makes it special that they don't happen all the time.