As someone who enjoys anal, at the same time I feel dirty and ashamed. I can tell that my husband isn't crazy about it, which adds to the feeling of shame and paranoia ("does he think I'm a pervert for wanting it?" "I hope there's not poop on the condom..") Sadly, these thoughts interfere with my ability to enjoy it somewhat. I'm not saying the shameful feeling is because of him--I felt this way with my ex, who was VERY open, and I feel this way even when I'm using toys. But it doesn't help! How many people also feel shame when doing any kind of anal play?