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I don't believe there should be any kind of shame associated with sex. Yes, there are sexual mishaps that can be incredibly embarrassing, but it shouldn't be shameful. Sex is about pleasuring not only yourself, but your partner, and I think
I don't believe there should be any kind of shame associated with sex. Yes, there are sexual mishaps that can be incredibly embarrassing, but it shouldn't be shameful. Sex is about pleasuring not only yourself, but your partner, and I think that only good feelings should be a product of that.
If you feel shame, it may be a good idea to analyze what makes you feel this way. If necessary, talk to a close friend or a therapist, if you can afford one. Talking about it can help remove the negative stigma you feel and help you enjoy yourself.
I personally don't like anal sex, but I never had any negative feelings about per se (except I thought it was physically uncomfortable). Sex is meant to be a wonderful bonding agent, and it would be sad if shame affected that!
I hope this helps
I agree with this 100%. No one should ever be ment to feel shame when it comes to a sexual activity - analyzing and finding the reason(s) for why this may be may help to broden your sexual horizon, and make you feel more empowered, but also help in understand why these totally normal behaviors are not shameful in the least.
While anal sex can be frond upon in some circles, and made uneasy to talk about, it's a normal behavior that many people engage in and there is nothing taboo or shameful about the act. I was a little embarrassed (to say) when telling my partner about anal fantasies, or talking about it with friends, but i realized i was not alone when it came to wanting/enjoying anal penetration or sex. It's something i can now talk about freely and openly with those i choose to share my sexual history with and nothing i am ashamed of.