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My partner is a relatively small girl, and her butt is tight. And by tight, I mean really really tight. I can barely even get my fingers in there without her complaining. It's not that she doesn't want it, but she just simply can't take
My partner is a relatively small girl, and her butt is tight. And by tight, I mean really really tight. I can barely even get my fingers in there without her complaining. It's not that she doesn't want it, but she just simply can't take it. She doesn't really seem to interested in wearing a plug with a decent diameter neck though, so what can I do?
Okay, take it from this girl who is an anal fanatic and so very tight that every time I have a colonoscopy, I am asked if I have trouble with pain from bowel movements and I even had one gastroenterologist tell me that I might need "anal dilation". If only he had a clue how often my tush enjoys fingers, toys and a penis, he would have croaked.
Anyway, being very, very tight, I can tell you personally, this is all about maximal relaxation (that means trust and being comfortable about the act) and then it is about finding the right lube for you. Some just do not work for me. Period.
Next, position is everything. I know you read all over about Doggy Style. I cannot do it. It hurts. Never could. Have tried...more then once. However if I am on my back, supine, with my legs over my guys shoulders (usually with my butt off the edge of the bed and maybe even on a pillow) while he stands between my legs), he can penetrate me anally with zero pain (I don't do pain...at all). It is all intense, immense, incredible pleasure and intense orgasms for me. He can reach my clit and vagina that way too...all good.
Also, sometimes laying on my left side, with upper leg bent forward, (spooning okay, but best, again if hubby is standing by edge of bed and my butt is hanging off), he can enter me easily.
Next is our cardinal rule. SLOW, SLOW, SLOW, and LUBE, LUBE, LUBE...and when you have had too much lube, add more. I do have the ability to take him (sometimes, if it feels right to me), in one slow direct "go", but it MUST be MY call. In short, the person receiving calls all the shots. "slower, faster, deeper, stop or pull out please" and the "giver" needs to listen and do what is asked, immediately. No questions, period.
When I use a plug or toy, same rule applies and it is always something small in diameter. I don't do big or wide. Essentially, my hubby is the biggest thing that goes in my tush and usually a finger is what comes prior to that, if anything.
She can do it, but it takes trust, patience and a lot of testing of what lubes work best for her. (I have friends who swear by certain anal lubes and they don't do squat for me. Meanwhile, I now have some "go to" lubes that are a must in my night stand).
GOOD LUCK TO THE BOTH OF YOU. Have Fun.