It has been a while since I last tried anal and even before hand it wasn't often. But now that it has been at least half a year to a year I thought that it was strange that I was struggling with my toys now. I usually use a 1 inch beaded wand but I recently got a 1.3 inch stringed bead (kegel beads). It isn't that much bigger than my other toys but it was much harder for insertion and retrieval. Should I stay away from the stringed beads or is the extra .3 inches actually a bigger difference than I thought and I need to train myself more to accept it. It was fine when inside but when it came time to retrieve it... I was worried that it wasn't going to come back out and I had to really pull on the string hard. I am worried about using stringed beads at that size or stringed altogether now. When it is a wand attached and beaded it comes out easily so I may just stick with that but it seems like such a waste now that this Christmas I received so many new toys that I wanted to try out but I am just too worried to try them after not doing it for so long and having this much trouble now.