How long did you take from your beginning anal play until you were ready for anal sex?

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How long did you take from your beginning anal play until you were ready for anal sex?

Gracie Gracie
How long did it take you from your beginning anal play until you were ready for anal sex? I'm still just thinking about it, but I'm starting to wonder if I'm really missing out? Also feel free to share how much time and how often you engaged in anal play before you were ready.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
a few minutes
Coralbell , Bignuf , HouseWench , angel142stx , prttynink , bayosgirl , Nightfademusic , Azule , abbylover , Iron Man , Mistress Sassy , potstickers
12  (52%)
a few hours
Chou Wang
1  (4%)
a few days
Rossie , RonLee
2  (9%)
a few weeks
Slickdick
1  (4%)
a month
a few months
PDXlady , AzealiaB
2  (9%)
longer than that
I am content with anal play and don't want to try anal sex
sunkissedJess
1  (4%)
I don't want anal play or anal sex ever
other
godweensatan , (k)InkyIvy , PassionateLover2 , Pi
4  (17%)
Total votes: 23
Poll is closed
02/15/2012
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Coralbell Coralbell
I basically jumped right into having anal sex, there was just a minute or two of warm up with fingers first.
02/15/2012
Rossie Rossie
It took me a few days to go from using fingers and anal plugs, to actually have anal sex. Please take your time to get comfortable with fingers and toys first, do not rush into anything. AND don't forget plenty of lube!
02/15/2012
Slickdick Slickdick
It took a few weeks for me to learn to relax and get my breathing down...but now i can lube up and take it right away!! and in my opinion u are definatly missing out!!
02/15/2012
RonLee RonLee
Wouldn't that depend upon, the size of the cock you're going to be fucked by?
Many years ago I dated a guy who was HUGE. We were both relatively inexperienced and didn't use near enough lube. I thought that I'd prepared enough, I hadn't... it REALLY hurt. Learn from my mistake. Lube, lots of lube and dilation. Your partner should help, that's part of the fun!
02/15/2012
spineyogurt spineyogurt
I think youre missing out!
02/16/2012
PDXlady PDXlady
A few months, and yes you are missing out!
02/16/2012
Gracie Gracie
Thanks for the answers y'all! I really didn't expect anyone to chose the first 2 responses, but I decided to put them in just in case. I am glad I did. I guess I am kind of clueless still. I guess it doesn't take as long to get ready as I thought!
02/16/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Gracie
How long did it take you from your beginning anal play until you were ready for anal sex? I'm still just thinking about it, but I'm starting to wonder if I'm really missing out? Also feel free to share how much time and how often you ...
My first real lover was very gentle and I trusted him well before then. Once, when we were alone, with lots of time, he started playing with my tush, then turned me over and kissed/licked it for half an hour. I actually asked him to "have sex with me there, please", I was so hot. I had read about anal sex in the little "Forum Letters" magazine and it was obvious he could school me. He spent another half hour using his finger and lots of lube in me, while bringing me off twice with his tongue on my clit.

When he finally penetrated my anus, it was slow, gentle and easier then my first vaginal penetration...and I REALLY enjoyed it.

I have been an anal fan ever since.

My darling hubby was likewise schooled by some woman who KNEW what they were doing and so when we met and started dating, we were both big into oral/anal/vaginal play and the rest, as they say, is history.
02/16/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Gracie
Thanks for the answers y'all! I really didn't expect anyone to chose the first 2 responses, but I decided to put them in just in case. I am glad I did. I guess I am kind of clueless still. I guess it doesn't take as long to get ready ...
It was less then thirty minutes between his tongue in my butt to his finger in my butt to his cock in my butt and indeed, once he WAS in there, he moved SO slow, SO gently and I was SO well lubed and relaxed (NO alcohol or drugs), that it was...amazing.
02/16/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
It took me a few days to go from using fingers and anal plugs, to actually have anal sex. Please take your time to get comfortable with fingers and toys first, do not rush into anything. AND don't forget plenty of lube!
That is the key. TONS of lube. More then you ever think you need...then extra.
02/16/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Gracie
How long did it take you from your beginning anal play until you were ready for anal sex? I'm still just thinking about it, but I'm starting to wonder if I'm really missing out? Also feel free to share how much time and how often you ...
Yes, you are missing out...but as I have posted here a hundred times, DON'T buy into the DOGGY STYLE hype of porn. YES, a lot of folks here DO enjoy it that way, but for ME it never has worked. I know others too, who enjoy anal, but ONLY if laying on their left side or missionary with legs WAY up (over his shoulders). Best done if HE is standing by side of bed (thus stable) and you are at edge of bed, butt right at edge and legs up.

USE THICK lube...and twice as much as you THINK you might need...then use more. This is all about LUBE. Also, FORGET the porn movie thrusting stuff. GO SLOW. YOU control his movements. In fact, often he should go a TINY bit..then just STOP until YOU say "go". It is still incredibly intimate and tight for him...so he won't mind.

Enjoy.
02/16/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Coralbell
I basically jumped right into having anal sex, there was just a minute or two of warm up with fingers first.
BINGO
02/16/2012
prttynink prttynink
Quote:
Originally posted by Coralbell
I basically jumped right into having anal sex, there was just a minute or two of warm up with fingers first.
ditto!
02/17/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
I don't know, my experience is kind of weird.

I played with a dildo anally, briefly, at age 16. Three years later (give or take) I had anal sex for the first time. I can't remember if he rimmed me before or after. There was definitely no toy insertion for those three years, which makes me surprised I could take a cock with so little pain.
02/17/2012
Gracie Gracie
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Yes, you are missing out...but as I have posted here a hundred times, DON'T buy into the DOGGY STYLE hype of porn. YES, a lot of folks here DO enjoy it that way, but for ME it never has worked. I know others too, who enjoy anal, but ONLY if ...
Bignuff I really appriciate all your encouragement and advice! Thank you!
02/17/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Gracie
Bignuff I really appriciate all your encouragement and advice! Thank you!
Just calling it the way I see and experience it. You are SO welcome. We really enjoy anal as part of our regular love life and I will be honest, we are not at ALL into "pain"...so it has been all about PLEASURE from the get go. Anal sex is amazing and can make me GUSH, a real "anal orgasm" some times. Just take it at YOUR own speed. YOU control the show and you can then BOTH enjoy what may be the MOST "intimate" of "secrets" and the most intense and trusting love gift you can give him (or he to you). Enjoy!!!!
02/17/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
I don't know, my experience is kind of weird.

I played with a dildo anally, briefly, at age 16. Three years later (give or take) I had anal sex for the first time. I can't remember if he rimmed me before or after. There was definitely ...
If I ever had pain, we STOPPED whatever it was and switched gears. We are simply NOT into pain at all. For ME the key is getting the right position. When that is right, anal is simply an amazing, intense sexual thrill ride.
02/17/2012
(k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
When I was a kid, I sortof experimented with anal play because I found it interesting. But it was more experimentation than anything sexual to me back then.
02/17/2012
PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
Quote:
Originally posted by Gracie
How long did it take you from your beginning anal play until you were ready for anal sex? I'm still just thinking about it, but I'm starting to wonder if I'm really missing out? Also feel free to share how much time and how often you ...
In my opinion, I will never force myself; it depends on whether or not a woman wants the experience or not!! I am more of a cunnilingus expert! And I know I can satisfy the woman!
02/18/2012
ScottA ScottA
Don't worry about how long anyone else takes - it's going to happen (or not happen) on your schedule. You need to learn to enjoy it, to relax, and to trust you and your partner 100%.
02/18/2012
Gracie Gracie
This is all great help! Thanks!
02/18/2012
Nightfademusic Nightfademusic
We pretty much skipped any play and went straight to sex.
04/17/2012
Azule Azule
It was only a few minutes from what I remember.
04/17/2012
lisasharrer lisasharrer
Quote:
Originally posted by Gracie
How long did it take you from your beginning anal play until you were ready for anal sex? I'm still just thinking about it, but I'm starting to wonder if I'm really missing out? Also feel free to share how much time and how often you ...
it took a min
04/17/2012
abbylover abbylover
it happened so fast and now i cant go back
04/22/2012
abbylover abbylover
Quote:
Originally posted by abbylover
it happened so fast and now i cant go back
because its too good
04/22/2012
Total posts: 27
Unique posters: 17