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Okay, even though we are in a D/s (I'm the s and female) and enjoy spanking, some pain play, role-play, etc...and have been for years, but anal is new for us. I am frustrated (I think because I am a submissive and this is not something that I am
Okay, even though we are in a D/s (I'm the s and female) and enjoy spanking, some pain play, role-play, etc...and have been for years, but anal is new for us. I am frustrated (I think because I am a submissive and this is not something that I am getting very well..make sense???) We have had some successful attempts. He does not want to push things too quickly and therefore we have never had full penetration, but only half way. Other times it has been too painful to accomplish much of anything!
He says to give it time and that he is okay with taking it slow. I want to learn how to do this right like yesterday!
Can any experienced anal lovers offer a newbie some advice? Positions, timing, etc...
There is certainly no need to get frustrated.
Anal sex is highly enjoyable and the beauty is that you can train it very well. What helps with the preparation is of course solo training and for that you could use a number of toys like:
I'd suggest for the warm-up and solo play:
Pure Skin Player jr
The silicone alternative is:
VIP Super Soft
However what you could do to cut things a bit short is to wear a butt plug around the house let's say 30 minutes before or even longer. That way you make sure that your sphincter is totally relaxed and receptive. For that my choice is absolutely the Ryder
For training an DP games my favorite is the Gapers Organic
So all in all you should have a lot of fun in solo training over the next week or two and you will be fit for the games with your partner!
I hope it helped!
P.S. I'd also suggest to take a closer look on the Blush UR3 ballsy dong
it gave me a big kick start after I was an intermediate...