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Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
No lube? ouch..can't even imagine. I've had people try to finger me without lube and no way!...I think it's something you need to explore solo with slowly first...with lots of lube and then proceed to try it if you get any pleasure from it...and I think you will.
06/18/2013
Contributor: dancingduo dancingduo
Definitely do some exploration on your own...but prepare for it too. Guys can get carried away in the heat of the moment. Remember, turn about is fair play...maybe counter with pegging so both of you get a good feel for what anal is like.
06/18/2013
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
I think if you're starting to change your mind, do it alone first and with lots of lube, and see how you like it. It's actually really dangerous to do it without lube, and drunk sex can always be a potential danger depending on who it is with, so the two combined could be a disaster.
06/18/2013
Contributor: FieryRed FieryRed
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Originally posted by Woman China
Now. Make sure you come back here and tell us what happened!! Did you? Didn't you????
I know, right? Inquiring minds want to know!
06/18/2013
Contributor: babyrock babyrock
i think you have to make up your mind first. if you are up for experimentation, then take your time and go slow. just do what develops naturally.
06/25/2013
Contributor: Cinnyree Cinnyree
I doubt I will be buying anal toys now. Not high enough on the priority or even curiosity scale to spend money on.
06/25/2013
Contributor: LoveX LoveX
I picked other, I think yoy need someone you can trust enough to follow your lead. For instance, you need more lube, and they stop right then and get more lube, you have to go slow, so they go as slow as you need. You can't just go it to it all willy nilly, start solo or with a trusted partner, and just a finger. Work your way up and you may like it, but that's a personal preference that no one on here can say if you will or you won't.
06/29/2013
Contributor: Cinnyree Cinnyree
So to all of you that want to know.
I took the plunge(tehe). I found a guy that I totally trust and went for it. While I got further than my 2 drunk experiences, it hurt too much and I asked him to stop. I had enough that I could get the basic jist of it and how it will someday be pleasurable but it will take some effort.
I feel the need to add that it took me 4 tries to lose my virginity. Apparently I am a sissy when it comes to penises.
07/01/2013
Contributor: butts butts
Keep your mind open. When prepared, willing, and well lubed, anal sex is incredible. It's not about males being jerks, it's just a different sensation than vaginal, and I think most people can really love it when it's the right situation. Investing in a glass or silicone buttplug for "practice" is also a great thing!
07/01/2013
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
We don't have anal sex that often. We only do it if she asks. I would never force her to do something she does not want to. If we do I prefer to use a condom and Maximus lube. If you are planning on having anal sex, it would be a good idea to purchase an inexpensive small tapered plug to help open yourself and see what it feels like. A narrow tapered plug, like Naughty mood is easier for a first plug. If you liked it can afford a second one afterwards gets one a little larger like the Doc Johnson's with a wider neck. A wider neck will help open your rectum a little making it easier for his penis.

Remember it's your body not his. If he gets heavy about it, ask him if he would like to get pegged to see what anal is like.
07/02/2013
Contributor: leanright69 leanright69
I would explore anal play during self pleasure sessions. If you do not find any enjoyment during self pleasure then I would not try to incorporate anal play with another person.
07/02/2013
Contributor: SickOnSin SickOnSin
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Originally posted by Cinnyree
I have always been against Anal sex or play of any kind. I have heard way to many males make jokes about when the one hole isn't tight anymore...
I have only ever let it happen twice in my life and I was really drunk both times. No lube was ... more
It's not something you can jump into. Prep-work is kind of important and so is lube. It's going to hurt specially if you don't use lube. Your anus has no natural lubricant.
07/02/2013
Contributor: HarpAngel999 HarpAngel999
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Originally posted by Cinnyree
I have always been against Anal sex or play of any kind. I have heard way to many males make jokes about when the one hole isn't tight anymore...
I have only ever let it happen twice in my life and I was really drunk both times. No lube was ... more
I can see why you wouldn't want to dive into it after such dreadful experiences! I've done a tiny bit of dabbeling in it, and the key to it is to be relaxed, take it slow, use lube, and warm up so that you can gently work up to the size of whatever you're planning on getting it to. The initial ring of muscles that you have to get past are the hardest to get past, and if you're not TRULY relaxed, it just isn't gonna happen until you're used to it. For me, I think to be relaxed, you need to be with someone who is as concerned if not more concerned about how you feel as they are about themselves, and this will only come in a strong relationship, or by yourself. I'm absolutely not a "try anything once" kind of girl either, and I see where you're coming from.
It can absolutely feel great, but rushing it or trying to do it when you're not ready or lubed up just hurts. I'd say give it a chance, but give it a chance with a well lubed finger (and nice SHORT nails) first before you go all the way with it.
Best of luck- and it's not fair for a guy to joke about loose holes- they only have one to begin with!
09/23/2013
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Cinnyree
I have always been against Anal sex or play of any kind. I have heard way to many males make jokes about when the one hole isn't tight anymore...
I have only ever let it happen twice in my life and I was really drunk both times. No lube was ... more
Your initial experiences are coloring your thoughts about what is, in our relationship, the most intimate, sensual and physically erotic/exotic and intense activity we do. As a lady who gets her most intense orgasms via anal play, I assure you that to not try again, with the right partner, lots of lube and a totally not drunk, alert desire, would be to deny yourself a lot of potential pleasure. However, again, it must be with the right guy, in the right circumstance (YOU call the shots) and done well (slow, relaxed, lots of lube). Anal sex has nothing to do with pain. I play all gain, zero pain. Good luck. Have fun.
09/23/2013
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by HannahPanda
Try it with the right person and you might love it!
Exactly.
09/23/2013
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by never shy
I was completely against it but I found with a great partner willing to take it slow when your in the mood and with a good bottle of anal lube you may love it. If your not in the mood for it don't try it
Well said.
09/23/2013
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Zombirella
It's not for me. Vaginal sex only is fine with me! I have no desire to try it.
To each their own. That's why good ice cream shops have many flavors.
09/23/2013
Contributor: peppermintgal peppermintgal
First, don't let anyone talk you into something you are unsure of.

Second, I always thought I wouldn't like it but my partner slowly introduced me to anal and I love it. So much, that I think I'm addicted to wearing a plug or having a vibe in my ass. My partner told me that he had no expectations of having anal sex and we could go at my pace.

So, maybe try it again but with the right partner that won't force the issue.
09/23/2013
Contributor: cmm cmm
Quote:
Originally posted by Cinnyree
I have always been against Anal sex or play of any kind. I have heard way to many males make jokes about when the one hole isn't tight anymore...
I have only ever let it happen twice in my life and I was really drunk both times. No lube was ... more
Just keep an open mind.
09/24/2013
Contributor: Happy Kupple Happy Kupple
I had my first anal experience with my husband (before we were married though). I had always been nervous AND scared about it. But, he was soooooo slow and caring that I had an orgasm that very first time. Honestly though, I am not all that much into it. I would guess that we do it 3, maybe 4 times a year. I have had another experience with anal tho, but not for the forum. Maybe in message form. BUT, if you are the least bit apprehensive, don't let anyone push you into it!!!!!!!!!!!!!
09/24/2013
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
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Originally posted by Trysexual
No lube? ouch..can't even imagine. I've had people try to finger me without lube and no way!...I think it's something you need to explore solo with slowly first...with lots of lube and then proceed to try it if you get any pleasure from ... more
Agreed.
09/25/2013
Contributor: Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
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If it is something that turns you off or you have no desire to do, then do not do it. There are so many other ways to get pleasure, explore those first. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing something especially with the "well you did it before" pressure. If you did it before and found it wasn't for you or have changed your mind, then that is your right.
09/25/2013
Contributor: HappyInNJ HappyInNJ
Quote:
Originally posted by Trysexual
No lube? ouch..can't even imagine. I've had people try to finger me without lube and no way!...I think it's something you need to explore solo with slowly first...with lots of lube and then proceed to try it if you get any pleasure from ... more
I agree with you Trysexual. I believe you are on the right track. It sounds to me like Cinnyree you have had some inexperienced partners when it comes to this.

I also, agree with the others in that some solo exploration is a good idea.

It was solo exploration that had me find out that I like a little anal play.

To me the key is find out what you like and how you like it then you will be able to communicate that to some one else.
10/24/2013
Contributor: earthmama earthmama
If you try it with a partner who isn't a jerk, and with lube, Etc. ... then if you still dislike it then you know. But it sounds like what you've tried before was Worst Case Scenario for anal play.
10/25/2013