Used to have anal regularly but now it hurts

CutiePatootie CutiePatootie
When I met my husband we used to have anal all the time and I could take it like a champ. Now it usually hurts and can cause light bleeding etc. He loves it, but now I'm usually too worried about it to mess with anal.

Any suggestions on how I should get back into it? Or how to go about deal with the issues it can cause?
10/23/2013
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EastCoast36 EastCoast36
Others will likely have better advise, but outside of the obvious (ample thick lube), I'll suggest "take it slow." My wife has tried a few times, but she has told me afterwards that it was uncomfortable. So, right now she isn't too interested. Usually the times we made an attempt, she would say she was up to try, but she wasn't interested in a lot of warm up. If I tried a well lubed finger or small toy, it seemed she just wanted to get it finished. As you can imagine, it did not lead to her being able to relax, and that's why I think she didn't enjoy it. She was doing it for me, with no intent of enjoying it herself.

Also, a tip I've seen a few times, and I've suggested in our attempts, is to gently push during penetration. It should actually loosen the pucker a bit. Good luck.
10/23/2013
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by EastCoast36
Others will likely have better advise, but outside of the obvious (ample thick lube), I'll suggest "take it slow." My wife has tried a few times, but she has told me afterwards that it was uncomfortable. So, right now she isn't ... More
I agree with all of this.
10/23/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by CutiePatootie
When I met my husband we used to have anal all the time and I could take it like a champ. Now it usually hurts and can cause light bleeding etc. He loves it, but now I'm usually too worried about it to mess with anal.

Any suggestions on ... More
Sorry, I disagree with all the above. If you could enjoy it before and not now, something has changed. That something should be looked into. It may be you have something as simple as a hemorrhoid, or there may be other things going on. I hate to turn this into a worry session...it shouldn't be. However, why would your anus be fine prior and now have pain and "bleeding"? Something is obstructing and that means some tissue changes. I would strongly suggest a simple, screening colonoscopy and make sure all is "well" down there, before worrying about how to get back into anal play. I hope all is well.
10/23/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
By the way, I don't know your insurance situation, but many companies cover a "screening" colonoscopy as a "free" covered, wellness screening.
10/23/2013
charmedtomeetyou charmedtomeetyou
I second ( or third I guess ) that it could just be that you aren't relaxed or into it. I know there are times when it just doesn't work for us because I'm not relaxed and can't get in the right headspace. Maybe just try some gentle play back there with some good lube and see what happens.
10/23/2013
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