This has actually changed for me in recent years. I've been having sex with my husband since we were literally kids, like 14 and 15. I've also been masturbating since I was about 8 years old. Suffice to say for a good long time masturbation was the way to go, I knew what I wanted, and the clumsy 15 year old boy did not. Over the years though sex between us has really turned into something worthy of novels. We've been doing it for 10 years now, so I guess we've had plenty of practice. He knows my body probably better than I do at this point, and these days my orgasms are phenomenal during sex. Marathon long, knee shaking, breath taking, sweat breaking, orgasms... while masturbation is still the same old same old. It's nice to be able to masturbate, and have a quick no hassle orgasm on occasion, but I'd take the kind I get from sex any day.