Clenching legs to orgasm?

Saraid Saraid
No matter what I do I *have* to clench my legs together to come. This makes it difficult to come during sex, with any kind of penetration (which I love) and basically I can only come by myself.

Has anyone else had this problem? What could be causing it?
08/20/2009
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Rocky LaFemme Rocky LaFemme
I was like that. Why I am not sure? Now, it comes and goes though. I am only like that once every 2 weeks or so. I masturbate more often and with a wider variety of toys I really think that has helped.

For a while I had to lay flat on my back with nothing under my head and drop one leg off the bed. Now that phase has passed as well. I think of it as a position I can orgasm in. I really think for me using more toys in different angels and in different positions and just relaxing and not stressing about it help me get over that hump.
08/20/2009
Avery Dragon Avery Dragon
I have the same problem, to be able to get off in the end, my legs have to be straight and stiff. My partner gets frustrated because I've also lost some sensitivity so to be able to finish I have to do it myself.

I can have intercourse where I top, but I wont finish till I use my hand while laying back. It's rare that I'm able to do it in the shower, but it makes my legs hurt like that.
08/20/2009
Sammi Sammi
I've never had to do that - not sure if I learned how to keep them apart, or if it was just a natural thing.
08/20/2009
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
I clench a lot - so much so that sometimes I just shove a blanket or whatever between my legs as I masturbate. It's probably nothing more than habit by this point.
08/20/2009
Saraid Saraid
Maybe I should try the blanket thing. I can't decide if it's overstimulation making me close my legs or not.
08/20/2009
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
It's not usually over stimulation for me. IT feels more like effort
08/20/2009
sandman sandman
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Originally posted by Saraid
No matter what I do I *have* to clench my legs together to come. This makes it difficult to come during sex, with any kind of penetration (which I love) and basically I can only come by myself.

Has anyone else had this problem? What could ... More
Don't know if you've tried this or not but just a suggestion...have him penetrate from behind, then lay flat on your belly. You can keep your legs clenched together and he can still be inside you. If you need clitoral stimulation you(or he) can slip a hand underneath your hips.
10/08/2009
Lucky Luna Lucky Luna
He might like the tightness of that, too... ^

I noticed that when I'm playing on my own, I have a tendency towards using my right hand to stimulate and my left hand to grasp my thigh. For some reason, there are times when I just can't get anywhere without that. However, it hasn't been a situation outside of alone time.

Maybe it has something to do with the various nerve interactions that are occurring - I mean, some combinations work better than others for an individual. It might be similar to someone who can only get clitoral orgasm, or any other kind.
03/14/2010
Cherry TV Cherry TV
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Originally posted by Saraid
No matter what I do I *have* to clench my legs together to come. This makes it difficult to come during sex, with any kind of penetration (which I love) and basically I can only come by myself.

Has anyone else had this problem? What could ... More
I can orgasm with both my legs apart and clenched, but actually like the clenched feel a little better.

Another way, in addition to sandman's suggestion, you can replicate your clenching during intercourse is once he is inside you, put your legs straight with his legs straddling yours. Then, for stimulation, you grind against his penis -- basically using him to "masturbate with." Note though that you both need to make sure he's angled correctly so it doesn't hurt. Yet, in this position, with your legs straight, you are already primarily clenched, so when you come, it's just additional sensation for him.

Good luck!

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03/16/2010
Dusk Dusk
I have the same problem. In fact, I end up getting Charlie Horses when I'm masturbating....so so painful.
07/26/2010
Alicia Alicia
For me I find it's clenching the muscles that does it for me, not necessarily the legs being together. So, I clench my legs while still keeping them apart and that works. Sometimes it helps if my husband puts pressure on my legs to help them stay in place while I clench or if I am on top of him and I clench over his body.
07/26/2010
PassionQT PassionQT
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Originally posted by Dusk
I have the same problem. In fact, I end up getting Charlie Horses when I'm masturbating....so so painful.
Ha! Me too! I clench all the time. That is why if I'm with my partner and want to cum, I do reverse missionary or on my stomach. Works like a charm, but yea, those Charlie Horses are a bitch!
07/26/2010
Trashley Trashley
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Originally posted by Dusk
I have the same problem. In fact, I end up getting Charlie Horses when I'm masturbating....so so painful.
Ughhh, I know, me too. Worst. Mood. Killer. EVER.
09/24/2010
Bon Bon Bon Bon
Yeah, I'm the same way. I have to clench my legs. I can't orgasm standing up, really. I'm also in the habit of touching my stomach while I orgasm.
09/29/2010
butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
I'm the same way! It sucks!
09/29/2010
Bon Bon Bon Bon
I've found that to remedy the situation, I can usually clench my legs as much as possible when in positions that don't allow for the pointed-heel clench. It helps, most of the time.
10/01/2010
Tuesday Tuesday
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Originally posted by Bon Bon
I've found that to remedy the situation, I can usually clench my legs as much as possible when in positions that don't allow for the pointed-heel clench. It helps, most of the time.
What positions are you talking about?
10/01/2010
Bon Bon Bon Bon
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Originally posted by Tuesday
What positions are you talking about?
On top, or with my legs wrapped around his waist. I just clench my legs as much as I can without cutting off his circulation.
10/03/2010
PassionQT PassionQT
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Originally posted by sandman
Don't know if you've tried this or not but just a suggestion...have him penetrate from behind, then lay flat on your belly. You can keep your legs clenched together and he can still be inside you. If you need clitoral stimulation you(or he) ... More
I'm a clencher too and this position works very well! It's easier if your man is long enough to stay inside. I tend to squeeze really hard and have pushed him out. Try using a bullet or some other kind of stimulation on your clitoris too while in this position.
10/03/2010
alayamae alayamae
I don't have to, but it seems like i do it a lot, and my boyfriend loves it, so it's a win win.
10/03/2010
SomewhatSomewhere SomewhatSomewhere
I like to have my legs as close to possible, which my boyfriend doesn't understand, until I scream to him that it feels so good. Then he's all for it. I guess that explains random bruises on my inner thighs...
10/04/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
Lately I have been noticing that I need to clench my thigh and gluts to come. Not sure why the change, perhaps its the gym.
10/05/2010
alayamae alayamae
I hate those random bruises... but i know what you mean.
10/05/2010
Not here Not here
When I masturbate, my legs don't have to be clenched together, but I tighten the muscles up and my toes *have* to be curled in order for me to come. It's really weird.. but during sex it doesn't seem to affect my ability to come if I'm not clenching/curling.
10/05/2010
sbon sbon
Hmm...I don't have to clench my legs to come, but I often clench them as I come. I think it has to do with the tight feeling or something like that. Not really sure.
12/29/2010
idunshire idunshire
I think I unintentionally clench. A lot of the time after having a really good night I will find myself a bit limpy because a calf is sore. The charlie horse, though rare, is the ultimate mood killer.
01/17/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Not here
When I masturbate, my legs don't have to be clenched together, but I tighten the muscles up and my toes *have* to be curled in order for me to come. It's really weird.. but during sex it doesn't seem to affect my ability to come if ... More
If I curl my toes when I orgasm my foot cramps up, lol.
01/18/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by sandman
Don't know if you've tried this or not but just a suggestion...have him penetrate from behind, then lay flat on your belly. You can keep your legs clenched together and he can still be inside you. If you need clitoral stimulation you(or he) ... More
That's a very good idea.
01/18/2011
Miss Voluptuous Miss Voluptuous
People can condition themselves to only come in one way. Like if there's a masturbation technique that you figured out at a younger age, sometimes people stick with that. This can be for ladies or guys. I understand it is possible to "train" yourself to come in different ways, but it can be tricky if you've been doing it that way for a long time.

I've also read some really hot erotica in which the dominant partner "forced" their lady to come in a way that they wasn't their custom. Very hot power play scenario i.m.o.
01/28/2011
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