Is bigger always better?

SexyySarah SexyySarah
This is always a question I wondered and I always said no to this. But I think that there are many factors that go into this. My hubby is average size and we use a quite large dildo for me and I absolutely love it, but I still enjoy sex with my hubby as well because he knows exactly how to move it. So, does size matter to you?
07/18/2010
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Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by SexyySarah
This is always a question I wondered and I always said no to this. But I think that there are many factors that go into this. My hubby is average size and we use a quite large dildo for me and I absolutely love it, but I still enjoy sex with my ... More
Size doesn't matter to me, if I'm in the mood for something bigger than my fiance, I'll do what you do and just grab something bigger
07/18/2010
trios trios
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyySarah
This is always a question I wondered and I always said no to this. But I think that there are many factors that go into this. My hubby is average size and we use a quite large dildo for me and I absolutely love it, but I still enjoy sex with my ... More
Hey sexyysarah,

I am a guy who is average or below with both length and circumference. I would love for my wife to respond to girthy dildos while I orally pleasure her, it visually gets me jealous and I enjoy watching the action too! Do you find that girthy toys make your orgasms stronger? How is it different from your husband?

I recently bought the Lonestar and it is kinda intimidating really. It dwarfs me and anything my wife has encountered so far! But I wanna see how she reacts to it...

What about the size that gets you happy? Did you have to build to the thick ones? Any suggestions for introducting the two? She hasn't seen it yet!

Maybe we'll try it out tonight...
07/18/2010
TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
I prefer my toys to be on the smaller side usually. Granted, sometimes I want the full feeling, so I do have a few that are larger, but generally I don't mind the smaller ones.

I prefer actual cocks though to be larger than average. I like the feeling of a large real cock and how it stretches and sometimes hurts.

Just my preference though.
07/18/2010
Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I have a very short and narrow vaginal canal and therefore am really most comfortable with someone of average length and girth. I've been with bigger and had it lead to tearing, bleeding, and bruising - none of which are particularly sexy in my book! On the rare occasion that I desire something a little longer or girthier, I have a few very plush dildos that do the trick for me - the fulfill the size requirements without being rigid or putting pressure on me.
07/18/2010
YoungCouple YoungCouple
Nope, size doesn't matter as long as it's within the middle 80% of the curve. Really tiny or monster huge probably wouldn't work for me.

Hubby and I have some really large toys too, but I don't think using large toys has anything to do with the size of your partner. Most of our big toys are large enough that there might me like 10 guys worldwide that size, MAX.

What do you mean by quite large dildo? 6 inch circ, 7, 8?
07/27/2010
Envy Envy
Not always. I can be in the mood for something big, but to take the time to stretch and all that, it can kill the mood sometimes, so I prefer average most of the time, which my bf is too. It also depends on how ya use it, too, size doesn't always matter.
07/27/2010
Annemarie Annemarie
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Originally posted by TitsMcScandal
I prefer my toys to be on the smaller side usually. Granted, sometimes I want the full feeling, so I do have a few that are larger, but generally I don't mind the smaller ones.

I prefer actual cocks though to be larger than average. I ... More
Same thing, pretty much. I have a wide array of sizes, with a couple larger ones.

My partner is rather large (in both aspects, long and girthy), but sometimes it's frustrating. He usually can't get it entirely in me, and even general insertion requires a lot of warming up and getting ready.
07/27/2010
PolyGirl PolyGirl
Size doesn't matter, but it is appreciated.
07/27/2010
Love Buzz Love Buzz
I hate the fact that sexual prowess is often gauged by size, I guess because its easy to measure what we see, as opposed to having to experience technique to judge it.

For me, girth is much preferable to length, yet I've been with great guys with amazing, orgasm inducing technique that were below average and larger guys that both hurt & honestly didn't know what they are doing. So technique is more important by far and is something that can easily be improved.

However agter being with a larger partner, upon returning to a smaller one It feels like it takes a few days for me to shrink back after being stretched, don't know if others experience the same thing.
07/28/2010
shepegs shepegs
Bigger is not better in all cases.
07/28/2010
YoungCouple YoungCouple
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Originally posted by Love Buzz
I hate the fact that sexual prowess is often gauged by size, I guess because its easy to measure what we see, as opposed to having to experience technique to judge it.

For me, girth is much preferable to length, yet I've been with great ... More
Maybe we could invent a system where previous lovers would tattoo a 1-10 rating on a lover's shaft. Or just post it on their facebook wall... Could help women everywhere.
07/28/2010
SexyySarah SexyySarah
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Originally posted by trios
Hey sexyysarah,

I am a guy who is average or below with both length and circumference. I would love for my wife to respond to girthy dildos while I orally pleasure her, it visually gets me jealous and I enjoy watching the action too! Do you ... More
Well my husband is probably similar to you in size, but he can still move it can make me cum like no dildo can. Though he has taught me to use my mind for pleasure rather than rely on a toy, and that has taken me a long time to learn, but it's amazing.

To answer your questions, yes I do find that girthy toys make my orgasms stronger and faster. They make me squirm more and want more and hubby loves watching me squirm. The only difference from my hubby is the size and the fullness. He isn't as big therefore doesn't fill me up as well as a girthy dildo, but like I said before he knows how to move it and make me cum! The size that I like needs to be about 2-2 1/2 diameter here is one I love link We have gone bigger and smaller, but this seems to be my favorite. Also I want Randy link but have not experienced him yet. I also prefer the realistic dildos because they feel better then ones that are hard or possibly too soft. I did have to build up to the big ones, suggestions on how, you need to be very patient and willing to wait, there were some nights I was not willing to do it at all and it hurt, so if it hurts her STOP! As for her, just have her relax. You can have her lay on her back or what I like is doggy style while I'm giving hubby head, that way we are both getting pleasure! Sorry it took so long to get back to you on this, but if you have any other questions please feel free to message me! Good luck!
07/30/2010
Gallowraven Gallowraven
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Originally posted by SexyySarah
This is always a question I wondered and I always said no to this. But I think that there are many factors that go into this. My hubby is average size and we use a quite large dildo for me and I absolutely love it, but I still enjoy sex with my ... More
I feel that size does matter to a degree, while I don't mind toys that are a bit more girthy, my partner has to be within a middling range, and not too long.
07/30/2010
Alura Une Alura Une
I have only had one sex partner in my life so I can't say from a few experiences what I prefer. But I do know I am very pleased with his size--he has a lot of length and is a little thick. Sometimes we've played with things to make him even wider, or wider toys--and that is really exciting on the rare occasion! But I don't think I could handle more width often. Some days his length is a bit much for me, also. If I found another boyfriend and he ended up being a little smaller, I doubt I would feel much disappointment. I might find the change very pleasant. One size does not please all.
07/31/2010
trios trios
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Originally posted by SexyySarah
Well my husband is probably similar to you in size, but he can still move it can make me cum like no dildo can. Though he has taught me to use my mind for pleasure rather than rely on a toy, and that has taken me a long time to learn, but it's ... More
My wife still won't take a larger dildo. I don't push the issue, but bring it up occasionally. I would love to see her squirm like you describe and moan with a large dick!

She said she doesn't want to be "ruined" as in, only able to cum with larger cocks/penes/dildos. She makes an analogy to vibrators. How can I defuse her fear?
09/13/2010
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
nope. been up and down the scale and the larger guys SUCKED. seemed like they thought it was feeling good just cause they were in me. and it doesnt work like that. hub is average and the best i ever had.
10/19/2010
pinkzombie pinkzombie
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyySarah
This is always a question I wondered and I always said no to this. But I think that there are many factors that go into this. My hubby is average size and we use a quite large dildo for me and I absolutely love it, but I still enjoy sex with my ... More
Size does not matter to a certain degree. Average is good but ive been with smaller than average and it made me feel ackward.
11/11/2010
Shellz31 Shellz31
No - size isn't everything. As long as he knows how to use it!
11/11/2010
BadassFatass BadassFatass
To me, it's more about the owner of said penis...and if he has a clue.
01/19/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyySarah
This is always a question I wondered and I always said no to this. But I think that there are many factors that go into this. My hubby is average size and we use a quite large dildo for me and I absolutely love it, but I still enjoy sex with my ... More
Size doesn't matter one bit to me.
01/19/2011
ninaspinkturtle ninaspinkturtle
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyySarah
This is always a question I wondered and I always said no to this. But I think that there are many factors that go into this. My hubby is average size and we use a quite large dildo for me and I absolutely love it, but I still enjoy sex with my ... More
yes...you dont want it to big or to small
01/23/2011
indiglo indiglo
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Originally posted by mrs.mckrakn
nope. been up and down the scale and the larger guys SUCKED. seemed like they thought it was feeling good just cause they were in me. and it doesnt work like that. hub is average and the best i ever had.
That is so true! lol
01/24/2011
Mlee Mlee
I dont think that the size really matters. i think that it is how you use it and not the size of what you are using.
01/28/2011
BadassFatass BadassFatass
I think that it really comes down to the guy knowing what to do with his equipment, be it large, average or smaller. I have come to enjoy sex with men that are well endowed but I think that's just because I've gotten used to it, as my boyfriend is on the large side. That's not to say I couldn't enjoy sex with someone smaller.
02/07/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by BadassFatass
I think that it really comes down to the guy knowing what to do with his equipment, be it large, average or smaller. I have come to enjoy sex with men that are well endowed but I think that's just because I've gotten used to it, as my ... More
I agree, it's how he uses it that counts!
02/08/2011
ninaspinkturtle ninaspinkturtle
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyySarah
This is always a question I wondered and I always said no to this. But I think that there are many factors that go into this. My hubby is average size and we use a quite large dildo for me and I absolutely love it, but I still enjoy sex with my ... More
well if its too big or small its kinda a deal breaker but for the most part it really doesnt
02/09/2011
Miss Voluptuous Miss Voluptuous
Nina Hartley made a great post about this: link
02/11/2011
NaughtyNikki420 NaughtyNikki420
I like anywhere in the middle. There can be a too big and a too small. Big hurts alot for me. Very happy with the man I'm with, he is on the bigger side but not to big...This one is just right
02/14/2011
toxie m toxie m
Bigger is not always better but can be fun every once and a while. I just got one of the replica pornstar dildos from the Colt line (I can't remember which exactly, it's one EF doesn't carry) and it's HUGE. By far the biggest thing I've ever tried to take. We've only used it once so far and my boyfriend loved watching me trying to handle it, but it's definitely too big for use on a regular basis. A special occasion kinda thing, to switch it up. I can't imagine how I could ever have a normal sex life if my boyfriend was that well-endowed, I'll gladly take his normal-size cock over a monster for everyday sex.
02/14/2011
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