Head holding

sexyintexas sexyintexas
My guy grabs my hair and controlls my head when I am performing oral sex on him. Does yours do this? And your thoughts on the matter.
03/19/2011
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Quote:
Originally posted by sexyintexas
My guy grabs my hair and controlls my head when I am performing oral sex on him. Does yours do this? And your thoughts on the matter.
Does your guy watch much porn because it happens a lot, it can be quite unpleasant to see in my view.
Vary your rhythm and or pressure and note his reactions, and of course talk to him about it if you have a problem with it.
I don't think men and women are so different that what pleasures you in terms of rhythm and pressure won't roughly do the same for him.
Good luck R
03/20/2011
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
I only put my hand on her head to hold her hair back. I do not try to control her movements in any way, that is what communication if for. She does fine on her own.
03/20/2011
PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
My guy does that when I am going too slow for him and he wants me to start going at a faster rhythm. I don't really like it, but I just take his hand off and change things up.
03/20/2011
mandiegk mandiegk
I really hate this. I brought it up and my guy said he didn't even realize he was doing it. He has almost completely stopped doing to it since then and when he does slip I just remove his hand.
03/21/2011
mkhotshot mkhotshot
Quote:
Originally posted by sexyintexas
My guy grabs my hair and controlls my head when I am performing oral sex on him. Does yours do this? And your thoughts on the matter.
My lady holds my head while I eat her. Caressing when we start out, directing when she is ready for something more forceful and holding me tight when she explodes. I really get to know what she likes and when. That is I you get better.
03/22/2011
Pleasure Piratess Pleasure Piratess
I used to be with someone who was terrible for this. So whenever he would do it, I would just stop and not continue until he let go. Eventually he quit.
BTW... I am refering to forceful holding that caused gagging, etc... not gentle caressing or soft guiding.
03/22/2011
BlueDog BlueDog
I'm surprised to see that so many people dislike this. I agree that it isn't something that should take place in all sessions but I think there is a place for it. Out of my very small selection of partners, I have found it hard to convince them to even try a little bit of forceful head holding.
I agree though with above comments about communication though. A simple talk would probably solve this (if it doesn't and the guy has no care for your preferences, something is really wrong anyway). I think forceful head holding could be very easy to do without even realizing it.
03/24/2011
Erotica Explorer Erotica Explorer
Quote:
Originally posted by sexyintexas
My guy grabs my hair and controlls my head when I am performing oral sex on him. Does yours do this? And your thoughts on the matter.
It seems somewhat too forceful and ... controlling for my typical preferences.

Of course, with a conversation beforehand ... and a willing partner who finds this a turn-on ... hmm.

(My views on some of these things is changing since meeting someone who doesn't believe sex and sexuality are "nasty" and "dirty.")
03/24/2011
Dusk Dusk
My partner does it but it bothers me quite a bit, too. I'll usually stop until he gives me control back, unless we're in a specific D/s scene or something.
03/24/2011
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
Depending on the mood we are feeling (particularly D/s mood), it is perfectly acceptable. Sometimes he pulls my hair for me to go faster or deeper. Never extremely forceful, more playful. When he is going down on me, sometimes I hold his head tighter to me when I need just a bit more pressure. I understand that maybe sometimes he might need that as well.
03/24/2011
Lithaewyn Lithaewyn
My partner only does this when we are engaged in very rough sex and more often during PIV/PIA when I'm on my stomach or we're in some form of doggy, but even then he's far from being as rough as he could be. I think he knows how much it hurts to have your hair pulled or be thrown around too roughly!
03/24/2011
mama2007 mama2007
Quote:
Originally posted by sexyintexas
My guy grabs my hair and controlls my head when I am performing oral sex on him. Does yours do this? And your thoughts on the matter.
YES and it annoys the hell out of me, my husband does it. not my hair but if im not going "fast enough" i guess is when i notice he does it. it makes my neck hurt and obviously doesnt make me enjoy it any better unless we are 69ing.
03/24/2011
mama2007 mama2007
Quote:
Originally posted by Dusk
My partner does it but it bothers me quite a bit, too. I'll usually stop until he gives me control back, unless we're in a specific D/s scene or something.
i do that too.
03/24/2011
hjtee hjtee
I really didn't know so many people were bothered by this. Nearly everyone I've been with does it, or had it done to.
I don't mind when he holds me. It's more of a laying his hand on my head until he's ready for more.
03/27/2011
sterculius sterculius
I like it when a guy holds on to my head and pushes it down onto his cock. I love being throatfucked!!
06/25/2011
lovemuscle n cookie lovemuscle n cookie
I don't like it, I prefer to have control. My husband knows not to hold my head.
06/25/2011
Screen Door Screen Door
I've stopped him when he surprised me with it once and he hasn't done it again. Wouldn't mind to try it again, seems kinda hot for him to show a little dominance every now and then
06/26/2011
SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
Love it as long as he doesn't force it to the point of choking.
06/26/2011
sexyintexas sexyintexas
I don't really mind it, unless the gagging gets excessive.
06/26/2011
Taylor Taylor
I like it when I'm feeling particularly submissive, and he's not doing it to the point where I'm choking. But if it was something he did all the time I'm sure I wouldn't like it.
06/26/2011
froggiemoma froggiemoma
i dont really like it all that much
06/27/2011
gladiola gladiola
Most times he just holds my head lightly or rests his hand on top of my head, but when he's being dominant, he grabs my hair and moves my head back and forth. I actually love it when he gets like that, and he knows not to make me gag.
06/27/2011
iveversxe iveversxe
I find it really hot with someone I can trust. If it's not negotiated beforehand and I'm surprised by it, I'd probably have a panic attack and not like it.
06/27/2011
salaciousrex salaciousrex
He does sometimes, a little less than half the time probably. I think it's more of he likes the control and being rough, not because he doesn't like what I'm doing. He'll hold or pull(!) my hair a lot, sometimes while controlling my head, sometimes not.
I really like it, but that's just my submissive side talking
06/27/2011
Kim! Kim!
I actually like it and find it rather hot. I've been disappointed sometimes when he doesn't do it.
06/27/2011
sexyintexas sexyintexas
I like it when he pulls my hair too but thats normally in doggie-style with his hands full of hair...damn I wish he was home...sigh
06/27/2011
Rossie Rossie
I guess holding your partners head while he/she is going down on you is a natural reaction. Me and my husband both do that to each other, as long as it's not rough, then it's all right.
06/28/2011
Karen Affeldt Karen Affeldt
Doesn't bother me at all. I like it when men take control. I've even put his hands there to give him a hint.
06/28/2011
teeny <3 teeny <3
My ex used to do it alot. I told him it bothered me and he complained it was just an impulse. So I enstated a no blow jobs unless he sat on sat on his hands policy. Eventually he got tired of feeling like he was in time out and changed his behavior.

The current man responds by rubbing my shoulders, holding up my hair and combing bangs out of my face so he can see my eyes. Such a sweetheart
06/29/2011
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