I would probably love a big, flesh-like, penis shaped dildo, but have stayed away from penis shaped all together for fear my hubby would feel a little hurt, like that I felt like he wasn't big enough... I'm new to toys, and haven't even actually mentioned the ones I have, or the fact that I want him to use them on me! I'm going to start with my Mimi as a "massager" and slowly work my way up to my glass toys. I really want him to know that I got them to make both our lives easier, not as any kind of replacement for him. He's usually done pretty quickly, snd I usually don't finish from sex alone, and it usually takes a while for him to "do it manually" as he puts it.