How involved should my boyfriend be in my toy choices?

hippie hippie
Personally I think it would be fun to get at least some input from my partner about what he thinks about my toy choices, or my hopeful toy choices, but he does not seem interested (although he is all for seeing me play with them over skype). Should I tell him i would like him to be involved?
03/01/2012
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Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
If that's what you want, then yes.
03/01/2012
sktb0007 sktb0007
Quote:
Originally posted by Ms. Spice
If that's what you want, then yes.
I agree with Ms. Spice. If that is what you want, then you should definitely bring it up to him.

My partner isn't involved in any of my toy choices... I don't mind though because if I want it, then I'm getting it (regardless of his thoughts on the product). I know what I like.

When it comes to toys both him and I use, well, we both make those decisions... but sometimes I'll get them without his input because he knows I usually choose things that we both will enjoy.
03/01/2012
Jul!a Jul!a
He should be as involved as you want him to be, but if he's not comfortable picking the stuff out then he's just not that comfortable picking the stuff out.

I would tell him that you want him to be involved. Maybe something like how it will make using them for him feel even sexier, or better, or whatever, if he helped you pick them out.
03/01/2012
Beck Beck
Definitely tell him you could use some help picking out items.

I wish my hubby would given me input before I bought my 02 Flurry, because he hates it and doesn't want me to use it. Of course I just don't use it with him, but it is awesome and a shame he hates it.
03/01/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
It's always good to have input, but you know your body and what you would potentially like. If he's not comfortable with it don't push it. Mine doesn't like the whole idea I use toys at all even when I try to use them as a couple.
03/01/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
My Man gave me a lot of input when I first started using toys. He bought most of them. But, as I learned more about safe materials, good brands, sizes I like and things that will work for me, I tend to buy what I need and we use them together.

Don't force him to be part of the decision making process if he is not interested in doing it. My Man and I do very little of any type of shopping together, we usually even grocery shop alone! As long as he's into your using them, I'd be happy with that.

He may just not feel that he knows what you will like, so if he has no interest in helping you pick, forcing the issue is only going to cause problems.
03/01/2012
Liz2 Liz2
Definitely tell him you would like his input. Perhaps he enjoys being a voyeur via Skype but bodily together could be much better for both of you.

My bf was initially intimidated by toys but now he enjoys them, and even buys toys, when away on trips, that he thinks I will enjoy.

And yes, we sometimes Skype when he is away and he enjoys choosing a toy for our Skype time.
03/01/2012
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I would ask him in a nice way to help you out a little bit. He likes to see you use them, then why not give some input.
03/01/2012
Nora Nora
I usually pick three of four items and then ask his input, mostly so that he can help me narrow down my choices!
03/01/2012
Coralbell Coralbell
You can ask for some input, but if he's not interested you can't force it.

My boyfriend has no interest in what toys I get, but that doesn't bother me. It's just not his thing, and I like picking things out for myself. He will occassionally have some input on what toys we use together, but it's mostly just to point out toys he doesn't like, like if he thinks a vibrators a bit too loud or something.
03/02/2012
Ansley Ansley
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
He should be as involved as you want him to be, but if he's not comfortable picking the stuff out then he's just not that comfortable picking the stuff out.

I would tell him that you want him to be involved. Maybe something like how ... More
My thoughts exactly.
03/02/2012
Swish Swish
yes tell him but don't be upset if hes just not interested my partner is not particularly interested in toys, he is fine with them but he just likes things mostly vanilla so don't be disappointed people are different.
03/02/2012
Dairygirl8808 Dairygirl8808
Quote:
Originally posted by hippie
Personally I think it would be fun to get at least some input from my partner about what he thinks about my toy choices, or my hopeful toy choices, but he does not seem interested (although he is all for seeing me play with them over skype). Should I ... More
Toys that you plan on using together should probably be decided on together. Makes it more fun and your partner will be able to get excited about what he's gonna do to you later when it gets home.
10/06/2013
Edeneve Edeneve
Quote:
Originally posted by Ms. Spice
If that's what you want, then yes.
he can't consider what you want unless you communicate about it.
10/14/2013
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
My man loves to pick out toys for me. I love to see what he picks.
10/15/2013
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