How would you react upon learning that your partner used the services of a pro in the past?

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How would you react upon learning that your partner used the services of a pro in the past?

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Contributor: M121212 M121212
I don't think it would bug me that much. It's hard to think hypothetically though.
05/31/2011
Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
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Originally posted by Kayla
I'd be none-of-the-above. I wouldn't really care all that much, but my concern is over diseases. If I found out that he had used a pro in the past, I would want an STD test (assuming we hadn't done one) ASAP. Morally, I wouldn't care, ... more
Agreed (as long as the transaction wasn't made during our relationship). Paying for sex is fine with me, but there are always diseases out there that you have to be careful of.
05/31/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by celibacysucks
This happened to me, and recently to a friend. It opened up a lot of discussions and I am curious how other's feel about it.
If it happened before we were together, I would have no right to get upset.

I think some people just look for things to "get offended" by and use them as ways to control their partners.

All new relationships should probably be tested for STDs. A Pro in the USA this day and age usually is very careful and no more likely to have an STD than most any one else. If he had been in Bangkok or overseas I'd be more worried about the STD issue, as many women in the sex industry there have been forced into it, and usually do not take precautions like using condoms and having regular check ups. Most sex workers in the most of the Industrial word do take these precautions.
05/31/2011
Contributor: Devz Devz
let the past be the past
05/31/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
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Originally posted by mama2007
agreed! id be super pissed off, upset, hurt, and in return for the stupid spilling about it he can forget bout sex for a few weeks *i like to have it a few times a week so id be suffering*. =/

my husband would not do that to me im sure
it would bother me and gross me out a bit but im sure i would get over it
05/31/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
My husband's buddies took him to the Mustang Ranch in Carson City, NV to celebrate his 18th birthday. It did gross me out a little, but it was ages ago before I even knew him.
07/06/2011
Contributor: sarki sarki
A little disturbed but it was the past
07/06/2011
Contributor: ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
By "in the past," I take the meaning of before the current relationship. Thus, I'd be quite curious to hear more about the experience!
07/06/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
there wasn't a more neutral option that involved being pissed about it but not making a huge deal out of it. that would be me. i would try not to get into it too much, but it would certainly bother me.


mostly because he is such an innocent sexual being. i'm only his 3rd partner ever and he just exudes that sense of loyalty. i dont think he would ever EVER do a one night stand. and i should know, i tried to get him to do me on our second date... he wouldnt until we'd been together longer!


if it was someone i was with who seemed a bit less innocent, i would have less of an issue with it.
07/06/2011
Contributor: newfoundlust newfoundlust
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Originally posted by celibacysucks
This happened to me, and recently to a friend. It opened up a lot of discussions and I am curious how other's feel about it.
Would depend on how far in the past. If a long time ago, no reaction at all other than curiosity. If recent, we would need to have a serious talk.
07/06/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
as long as he's clean, i'm not going to care. i've done some questionable things in my past, so i would never judge him over that. besides, he would be helping the economy? lol
07/07/2011
Contributor: PurpleCat23 PurpleCat23
I have a rule that we both get tested for STDs before having sex, just to be safe, but I would worry about something like AIDS, which may take some time to show up in a blood test. I wouldn't judge him for it, as long as he didn't do it while we were together.
10/03/2011
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
If I learned that, which I know I never would, he has made it very clear that he is NOT into that thing(all in his own, I didn't pressure him about it or anything)

but I would be very angry, I don't know if I would end the relationship, I would be hurt, I would be a wreck and cry a lot, get a little depressed even... but I love the man to much that I don't know that I could ever leave him no matter what wrong he did.
01/31/2012
Contributor: kawigrl kawigrl
probably a little shocked
02/01/2012