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So, I'm a chronic worrier. Despite the fact that I end up giving blow jobs for an hour, I still worry that when it's my turn, I take too long. Sometimes I even just turn it down. Do other girls worry about this?
Yeah, I worry about it a lot. I used to be able to come at the drop of a hat. I would ask my lover to slow down or stop and do different things so I wouldn't come to soon. I used to, also, only get one orgasm per session. I can have multiple orgasms now, but after a number of years of easy multiple orgasms my ability to come has slowed down.
In fact, this is what prompted My Man to buy me my first sex toy. He felt bad because not only was it taking a long time (although he was willing to do whatever it took most of the time) he was worried about me, because I was giving up without coming and then was really sad or crabby until I could finally have an orgasm with him.
What we usually do is have him go down until I'm "almost" there, then I grab the Wahl while he fondles and plays with the rest of my body, messes with a dildo in me until I come. This, we found, is a little faster and I have better luck and am less likely to give up.
It works for us.
I, too, have given hour long blow jobs and am willing to do it, but around the 20 minute mark sometimes I start to think, "Is he going to?" But, I'll go the distance if he wants to. If I get really tired we'll switch to a hand job, or he'll jerk off while I play with him. Sometimes he even gives up. As you get older orgasm doesn't always happen and although it almost always does, we have to live with the inevitability that sometimes it just isn't going to happen. BUt, when it does.....whew!