Ladies, is it a "myth" or "truth" that a lot of woman "fake orgasm"?

Bignuf Bignuf
I am a woman who never has, and never will. My question is...if YOU do, why? What is the real reason you feel compelled to do that? Please explain.
02/25/2013
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deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
I am a woman who never has, and never will. My question is...if YOU do, why? What is the real reason you feel compelled to do that? Please explain.
I've done it because I didn't want to make my partner feel bad.
02/25/2013
Chilipepper Chilipepper
I don't. I'm honest enough up front to admit that it's always hit or miss for me, so it's okay for him to go on for himself when it's time. Having a Pleaser personality helps a lot. The only one who didn't take advantage of it was C ... because he's a gentleman like that and had made it a goal to get me off without me using my hands (pity we're on break right now and probably won't get back together, as we were making headway on that).
02/25/2013
Mwar Mwar
I don't lie about orgasm, but I will sound a little more enthused than I am to speed him along.
02/25/2013
laflauta laflauta
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Originally posted by Mwar
I don't lie about orgasm, but I will sound a little more enthused than I am to speed him along.
I've also done that. Never faked an actual orgasm, though.
02/25/2013
solitudinarian solitudinarian
I have in the past when guys would put a lot of pressure on me to reach orgasm when I was unable to. I found someone patient and caring, so now I don't need to.
02/26/2013
js250 js250
I used to years ago. With my hubby--never had to. If I do not get off, which is rare, then we finish later. And same for him...usually when we 'edge' too long.
02/26/2013
MrWill MrWill
I'm not a woman, but I've faked one to the fullest extent possible by a man. Pain pills for a broke finger had me completely numbed and I was tired of trying.... It's the only time it's ever happened and it certainly wasn't the woman involved's lack of skill or effort.

As far as women faking with me: I'm sure it's happened, but I would rather a woman look me in the face and just say hey... it's not happening, than to fake one (effectively lying to me).


IMO: A woman doesn't HAVE to get off for playing to still be fun, but I do try to make it my goal to satisfy a woman however I can sexually.
02/26/2013
hillys hillys
I don't do that on purpose, if they have me close they might think I am but I just react to what's happening you know?
02/26/2013
Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
I've never faked it. I don't see the point. It's much better to be honest and get what you want next time. Otherwise, he's going to think he's doing it the way you want and he's doing enough to get you off. Then you're stuck with subpar sex and not reaching your full pleasure potential!
02/26/2013
Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
I've done it in the past.
02/26/2013
ShadowedSeductress ShadowedSeductress
I don't, there's no reason to. I have tried to make it as clear as possible to my partner that even if I don't get off, it doesn't mean I didn't enjoy it.
02/26/2013
loveme loveme
Unfortunately a lot do. I personally don't understand why. He thinks your having an orgasms so he thinks he's doing something right. This encourages him to keep doing the same thing, which really isn't working. I would want him to do something better and different, that is if what he's doing really isn't enough. Which it obviously isn't if you have to fake it.
02/26/2013
Chastity Darling Chastity Darling
I have faked it to end an encounter but never with my hubby. I don't need to
02/27/2013
Edeneve Edeneve
I did in my early sex years but once I reached 30, I stopped. I did it to get him off me cuz I wasn't enjoying it & I wanted him to think I did.
03/05/2013
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I never have and refuse to. I would rather be honest with him and have us work at it than for him to have a false feeling of accomplishment while I'm still wanting more.
03/05/2013
shorejen9 shorejen9
I don't and I don't understand faking it. If I fake it then he thinks he did something right and I will have to keep faking it lol
03/05/2013
TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
I did a couple times when I was single. I knew it wasn't going to happen, so I'd put on a show. I don't now. Nothing gained by faking it.
03/05/2013
jennifur77 jennifur77
Never have, never will.
03/06/2013
hyperfemmepony hyperfemmepony
It's true. I did it a lot in high school because I didn't know how to communicate with my partner.
03/12/2013
kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
I am a woman who never has, and never will. My question is...if YOU do, why? What is the real reason you feel compelled to do that? Please explain.
Never have done it! Just like the (mostly) myth of "bigger means better," I think this too is mostly a myth for more women than not. I haven't ever had the desire to fake an orgasm and have always seen it as something that would only do myself damage since my partner would think I was enjoying something that I wasn't. And if I'm talking about my partner, if he notices me enjoying something, he ain't gonna forget it and chances are, he'll continue to do it if he thinks I enjoy it. So I'd only be hurting myself by faking orgasms. Plus, I've never seen much use in it. I don't have to fake them though since they come easily for me through intercourse (or foreplay, or oral and many others!) with my partner.

Great topic! Glad you brought this up. I'm interested to hear about other ladies too!
03/12/2013
kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by Edeneve
I did in my early sex years but once I reached 30, I stopped. I did it to get him off me cuz I wasn't enjoying it & I wanted him to think I did.
Aha! This makes sense to me. I'm glad you shared this. I never considered this reason before. I am sorry, though. It's no fun to be having sex and not enjoying it and I can understand doing it to get someone off of you, especially if they were pushy or wouldn't leave you alone. I can't imagine it was easy to be in that situation though. Kudos to you for being brave enough to share! I was one of the people curious to know reasons behind faking it.
03/12/2013
mpfm mpfm
I've never faked it. I figure he needs to know when he has it right.
03/12/2013
KinkyKatieJames KinkyKatieJames
Never have faked one. Doubt I ever will.
03/15/2013
Msmueller Msmueller
I never have and dont plan on it
03/24/2013
karenm karenm
I've never faked one and I don't plan to. I can understand it more with a non-serious relationship or if you feel pressured.

But my boyfriend and I tell each other everything so I have no reason to lie to him. Plus if I were him, I wouldn't want to be lied to.
03/28/2013
kaylajoy89 kaylajoy89
i don't. it makes him try harder.
04/09/2013
Miss Morphine Miss Morphine
I don't see the point. It's quite difficult for me to get off; so I don't like to encourage behavior that won't get the job done.
04/13/2013
snowminx snowminx
I would say may women do at least at one point in a sexual encounter unless they are easy to make orgasm. I admit I've done it before but it was really because the guys would feel like they weren't doing a good enough enjoy when really I'm just hard to make cum sometimes.
04/13/2013
Deeder Deeder
Never faked one, because I wouldn't know how.
04/13/2013
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