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I wonder how much ED is actually LIFE STRESS, more then blood flow? I know that life stress hits woman as much as men, and if they have families, maybe more, but woman don't depend on an organ that works or does not work. My own wife has said
I wonder how much ED is actually LIFE STRESS, more then blood flow? I know that life stress hits woman as much as men, and if they have families, maybe more, but woman don't depend on an organ that works or does not work. My own wife has said that there is no "failure" in her system...even if she is totally uninterested in sex at the moment, "that a bottle of lube cannot address". SO my question today is more to the guys.
Do you think that work/life stress have impacted or can significantly impact your performance in the bedroom?
I am NOT minimizing the reality of MEDICAL ED. I know it exists and is serious. I am just saying I bet a LOT of issues men have may be STRESS related as well, and for many men, it may well BE the cause of these issues. What do YOU think?
OK first, if a woman's stressed enough it absolutely does affect her. Just because the hole is ALWAYS a hole and never closes up involunatarily does not mean that a woman doesn't have the problems that affect and can even be extreme for her sexual experience. During very stressful times, I've had the problem of not being able to O, no matter how long and how hard we try. It's very rare, but it has happened. A woman who's gone through something extremely stressful or devastating can have very awful problems when it comes to the bedroom. Men can't get it up sometimes, even when they want to, but women can't orgasm sometimes even when they want to. Very similar!
Maybe I'm far different from your love, but a bottle of lube can't make me come and it cannot take away something that's bothering me so badly that I can't O. That's just me though.
As for your question about men though, yes stress can do some real damage there. My partner thankfully hasn't had the problem, but enough stress can do it. It could very well be health problems too though. If you've never had it happen and it came on suddenly or without stress then it can sometimes me an indication of underlying health problems. Best to really think about what could be causing it and possibly try something to relax you for a while and see if that helps. At least you can eliminate *some* causes by doing things like that. Some say diet can affect that for men, but it has never affected my partner.
Medications seem to be the biggest causes of ED! If you're on any, I'd bet that's it unless this is a common thing. My partner hasn't ever had problems getting it up, but there have been a few times where it takes FOREVER for him to come. This was always when he had been on meds. Pain meds don't affect me that way, but they make it harder for him to get there sometimes. I can take my anxiety meds and have no problems where I've heard men taking the same meds cannot O on them. Now, there was one time my partner could not O no matter what and it was when we used Dragon Creme and I was unable to as well. Simply being tired can completely stop you too! It's hard to believe, but the 4-5 times I've not been able to O at all were due to being exhausted or when I was going through something really bad, or the time with the darn dragon cream.
I'd say try sleeping really well and spending time de-stressing and then try. It's amazing how being just a tiny bit sleep deprived can affect you like that.