Not really sure it is a myth, but do you think that for many guys, it is the pressure and worry about work/school/career (or lack thereof) that can hang on to the end of a penis like a brick?

Bignuf Bignuf
I wonder how much ED is actually LIFE STRESS, more then blood flow? I know that life stress hits woman as much as men, and if they have families, maybe more, but woman don't depend on an organ that works or does not work. My own wife has said that there is no "failure" in her system...even if she is totally uninterested in sex at the moment, "that a bottle of lube cannot address". SO my question today is more to the guys.

Do you think that work/life stress have impacted or can significantly impact your performance in the bedroom?

I am NOT minimizing the reality of MEDICAL ED. I know it exists and is serious. I am just saying I bet a LOT of issues men have may be STRESS related as well, and for many men, it may well BE the cause of these issues. What do YOU think?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, no question it can and has.
34
Yes, I think it can, but have not experienced that issue before.
13
No, I leave that all behind when I am in a romantic mood.
2
Other?
3
Total votes: 52 (52 voters)
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02/22/2012
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DreamWolf DreamWolf
Yes, stress is a great issue... It can pretty much effect anything in your life, especially if you are much of a psychosomatic type of person... (Meaning that stuff on your mind goes on your body, you get sick, ill because of that, etc...)

And the same stands for females too btw, myself a typical example of it - my brain goes with a million miles per second that, especially topped off with some stress or worries, I can hardly focus on anything else, even feel all numb and froze up, you know, when you are so much into thoughts and worries that it makes you all stiff and heavy, so it is pretty much something what is my greatest greatest greatest worry in O/our L/life, because without an understanding, wonderful mate it can easily be all sources of disharmony, stress, arguments, and what not, and I bet that there are males out there too who have similar experiences - it is totally natural, and the cure for it is to be as balanced and happy in your daily life as possible, and lots of patience to solve it... With a loving mate it is the easiest way, and it still takes a lot of time for some I bet! ~smiles frowny and warm
02/22/2012
Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Absolutely yes, stress can cause ED. Alan went through that for a couple of years in his mid thirties, and it was all about stress. Once he changed jobs and started taking time out to do more of the things he wanted to do, everything "sprang back" to normal
02/22/2012
cectru cectru
Our sex life used to be AMAZING! But when he got into grad school, it drastically decreased and we have yet to get it back to the point it was before. Higher Education = Lower sex drive
02/22/2012
kawigrl kawigrl
I think it depends, but stress does
02/22/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
No offense to you ladies - but getting and keeping an erection is way more difficult than working up some lube to prepare fro penetration - mostly because a little lube solves the problem for you - if it exists.

As a young man I could usually put aside stress issues. But now the stress combined with ED issues has a compounding effect. Anxiety is a bigger erection killer than even stress!
02/22/2012
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
No offense to you ladies - but getting and keeping an erection is way more difficult than working up some lube to prepare fro penetration - mostly because a little lube solves the problem for you - if it exists.

As a young man I could usually ... More
No, it doesn't. Applying lube makes things more slippery, but it doesn't make the vagina contract to allow the penis (or toy) in. The vagina needs to contract and expand to allow insertion, otherwise, the only end result is a lubed up, tight vagina.

That's a huge issue that women with vaginismus face. One possible problem that these women face is the ability to handle stress, which is why they aren't able to open enough to allow penetration. However, there are many other causes of vaginismus as well. Men aren't the only ones that have problems with sexual function and stress.

Stress affects both sexes; I know it's hard for me for to want and have sex when I'm under a lot of pressure. When I was younger, I couldn't open up even with the assistance of lube. I didn't know how to handle stress well, and it made it hard to have sex.
02/22/2012
SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
I wonder how much ED is actually LIFE STRESS, more then blood flow? I know that life stress hits woman as much as men, and if they have families, maybe more, but woman don't depend on an organ that works or does not work. My own wife has said ... More
I have to agree thena gain i also think everything is so pill related tehres apill foreverything which is frusterating
02/22/2012
jmex83 jmex83
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
I wonder how much ED is actually LIFE STRESS, more then blood flow? I know that life stress hits woman as much as men, and if they have families, maybe more, but woman don't depend on an organ that works or does not work. My own wife has said ... More
Its definitely a concern. I know that my wife and I tend to not have time or energy to even have a sex life when it comes to stressing about finances or things that have to be done/ We are always so worried about getting things in order that we rarely have time or energy at the end of the day. My work doesn't stress me out, but it kicks my butt by the time i get home!
02/23/2012
kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
I wonder how much ED is actually LIFE STRESS, more then blood flow? I know that life stress hits woman as much as men, and if they have families, maybe more, but woman don't depend on an organ that works or does not work. My own wife has said ... More
OK first, if a woman's stressed enough it absolutely does affect her. Just because the hole is ALWAYS a hole and never closes up involunatarily does not mean that a woman doesn't have the problems that affect and can even be extreme for her sexual experience. During very stressful times, I've had the problem of not being able to O, no matter how long and how hard we try. It's very rare, but it has happened. A woman who's gone through something extremely stressful or devastating can have very awful problems when it comes to the bedroom. Men can't get it up sometimes, even when they want to, but women can't orgasm sometimes even when they want to. Very similar!

Maybe I'm far different from your love, but a bottle of lube can't make me come and it cannot take away something that's bothering me so badly that I can't O. That's just me though.

As for your question about men though, yes stress can do some real damage there. My partner thankfully hasn't had the problem, but enough stress can do it. It could very well be health problems too though. If you've never had it happen and it came on suddenly or without stress then it can sometimes me an indication of underlying health problems. Best to really think about what could be causing it and possibly try something to relax you for a while and see if that helps. At least you can eliminate *some* causes by doing things like that. Some say diet can affect that for men, but it has never affected my partner.

Medications seem to be the biggest causes of ED! If you're on any, I'd bet that's it unless this is a common thing. My partner hasn't ever had problems getting it up, but there have been a few times where it takes FOREVER for him to come. This was always when he had been on meds. Pain meds don't affect me that way, but they make it harder for him to get there sometimes. I can take my anxiety meds and have no problems where I've heard men taking the same meds cannot O on them. Now, there was one time my partner could not O no matter what and it was when we used Dragon Creme and I was unable to as well. Simply being tired can completely stop you too! It's hard to believe, but the 4-5 times I've not been able to O at all were due to being exhausted or when I was going through something really bad, or the time with the darn dragon cream.

I'd say try sleeping really well and spending time de-stressing and then try. It's amazing how being just a tiny bit sleep deprived can affect you like that.
02/23/2012
dks210 dks210
I'm sure there are many factors that play into ED, stress and unhealthy habits being a big cause.
02/26/2012
corsetsaurus rex corsetsaurus rex
Stress is a big factor even with one-off inability to get it up. We've all heard of "performance anxiety" being a big issue for male virgins, after all.
02/28/2012
fredacarl fredacarl
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
I wonder how much ED is actually LIFE STRESS, more then blood flow? I know that life stress hits woman as much as men, and if they have families, maybe more, but woman don't depend on an organ that works or does not work. My own wife has said ... More
Yes, no question it can and has
02/29/2012
PeachieClean PeachieClean
Voted for the boyfriend, but he's complained about it before.
03/01/2012
curious kitten curious kitten
yes, but medical is extremely consistant and difficult to deal with; where outside factors can be eliviated if you address them properly.
03/13/2012
tiggle biddies tiggle biddies
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
I wonder how much ED is actually LIFE STRESS, more then blood flow? I know that life stress hits woman as much as men, and if they have families, maybe more, but woman don't depend on an organ that works or does not work. My own wife has said ... More
it happened to my boyfriend :/ when your mind is on other things, you just cant get it up sometimes
03/16/2012
Lover of Leather Lover of Leather
Yep, stress can be a mood killer.
03/18/2012
ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
I wonder how much ED is actually LIFE STRESS, more then blood flow? I know that life stress hits woman as much as men, and if they have families, maybe more, but woman don't depend on an organ that works or does not work. My own wife has said ... More
I've been with men who become too stressed (loss of job, death of family member) and can't perform.
06/18/2012
giftdgecko giftdgecko
Stress is proven to effect health so much, it makes sense that it would effect performance as well
06/20/2012
HusbandandWife HusbandandWife
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
I wonder how much ED is actually LIFE STRESS, more then blood flow? I know that life stress hits woman as much as men, and if they have families, maybe more, but woman don't depend on an organ that works or does not work. My own wife has said ... More
Stress has got to be a major factor with ED. If your head aint right it's hard to focus on anything!
06/20/2012
Vaginas Vaginas
my man gets nervous (like about my parents hearing or him not being skilled enough or something) and then he thinks about it too much, and it tends to affect his erection. which does get to me sometimes, but I think he'll just get over it eventually.
06/21/2012
CinLuvsBre CinLuvsBre
Stress is always a major factor that can effect from mental health to physical health!
06/21/2012
Tuesday Tuesday
All I know is ever since my son moved home from college with his pregnant girlfriend I can no longer have G-spot orgasms. :-( I'm hoping this is just temporary.
06/21/2012
brevado brevado
Depends on the person. I leave it all at the door.
06/21/2012
lemony lemony
Of course, stress can effect women as well and hinder sexual pleasure.
07/05/2012
Pinkshirt Pinkshirt
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Originally posted by kendra30752
OK first, if a woman's stressed enough it absolutely does affect her. Just because the hole is ALWAYS a hole and never closes up involunatarily does not mean that a woman doesn't have the problems that affect and can even be extreme for her ... More
I agree.
07/05/2012
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