S and M views.

Contributor: KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
I think there is an unhealthy level of sadism in a small amount of the population, but most people who engage in S&M are perfectly healthy and more well adjusted than many people I know.
05/27/2012
Contributor: Terri69 Terri69
You need a new professor...
05/27/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
A lot of it comes down to the fact that in a healthy S/M relationship, there is explicit consent and nobody wants to push their limit. There are people who do S/M unhealthily, but they tend to have other issues already. Your professor is a product of older knowledge.
07/07/2012
Contributor: little miss kinky little miss kinky
Not all sadists and masochists are crazy. But that doesn't mean they're all sane either! Just like anyone else.
07/09/2012
Contributor: marshmallow marshmallow
misunderstood!
07/10/2012
Contributor: jryder3891 jryder3891
Quote:
Originally posted by Mistress M.
So, my professor today decided to tell the class that if a person is into S and M they automatically want to go out, rape/murder/beat nearly to death women and men. Not only that, sadism and sexual sadism is back in the books again as being a ... more
Thats greatly stereo typing Im sorry
08/30/2012
Contributor: edenfantasys* edenfantasys*
(Research shows otherwise.)
09/16/2012
Contributor: Bill220 Bill220
BDSM isn't my thing, I don't "get it" and don't like to view it but for those who enjoy it, have at it. I don't believe that it's a mental illness.
11/02/2012
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
Most of the people at my SM club are the most safety-conscious, well rounded people I've ever met.
01/31/2013
Contributor: llellsee llellsee
I think both sadists and masochists can both be hugely misunderstood and it's sad to see them automatically put in a category of being crazy.
01/31/2013
Contributor: Genderfree Genderfree
My god, you need to talk to his professor to the university/college that you go to! This guy obviously is misunderstanding. We have a group at my university dedicated to clearing these misconceptions!
02/02/2013
Contributor: xxSuzakuxx xxSuzakuxx
What a professor.....
02/02/2013
Contributor: KinkyKatieJames KinkyKatieJames
My boyfriend and I are into S & M. Neither of us have even had the desire to truly hurt another person. Anything we do is with consent and safe words are always used.
03/15/2013
Contributor: karenm karenm
That is a very closed-minded view of it. It's definitely possible to want to do sadistic things but only with a loving, consenting partner. My ex was like this, but he was very ashamed of it because of damaging depictions like your professor's. He thought there was something really wrong with him and I kept trying to tell him otherwise.
03/28/2013
Contributor: BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
wow thats sad hun I think Being a Sadist does not make you mentally ill. and it is misunderstood.
03/28/2013
Contributor: SourAppleMartini SourAppleMartini
I have to admit, desire for causing/receiving pain creeps me out. This is something I would never want to try myself, even though I don't consider myself a prude. But people are different. As long as it is safe and consensual, people should be able to enjoy sex the way they want it.
04/01/2013
Contributor: Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
If you are mentally ill, then you do things that are detrimental to yourself or others and it negatively affects your life. Anything taken to the extreme is a sign of mental illness. Just like someone who is obsessed with exercising and does it 15 hours a day has a mental illness where a person who works out an hour a day to stay in shape is not.
04/09/2013
Contributor: kaylajoy89 kaylajoy89
well that's stupid.
04/09/2013
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
It's not something I'm personally into, but I don't think S&M necessarily correlates with violent behavior. Consent and all that.
05/13/2013
Contributor: evie.amor evie.amor
There are man different levels of sexual sadism and while it is proven that many murders and rapists have displayed sexually sadistic tendencies, this is most certainly not the rule. Most murders and rapists are men, but that doesn't mean that ALL men are murders and rapists.
05/14/2013