A lot of it comes down to the fact that in a healthy S/M relationship, there is explicit consent and nobody wants to push their limit. There are people who do S/M unhealthily, but they tend to have other issues already. Your professor is a product of older knowledge.
So, my professor today decided to tell the class that if a person is into S and M they automatically want to go out, rape/murder/beat nearly to death women and men. Not only that, sadism and sexual sadism is back in the books again as being a
So, my professor today decided to tell the class that if a person is into S and M they automatically want to go out, rape/murder/beat nearly to death women and men. Not only that, sadism and sexual sadism is back in the books again as being a "mental illness". What are your views on this?
That is a very closed-minded view of it. It's definitely possible to want to do sadistic things but only with a loving, consenting partner. My ex was like this, but he was very ashamed of it because of damaging depictions like your professor's. He thought there was something really wrong with him and I kept trying to tell him otherwise.
I have to admit, desire for causing/receiving pain creeps me out. This is something I would never want to try myself, even though I don't consider myself a prude. But people are different. As long as it is safe and consensual, people should be able to enjoy sex the way they want it.
If you are mentally ill, then you do things that are detrimental to yourself or others and it negatively affects your life. Anything taken to the extreme is a sign of mental illness. Just like someone who is obsessed with exercising and does it 15 hours a day has a mental illness where a person who works out an hour a day to stay in shape is not.
There are man different levels of sexual sadism and while it is proven that many murders and rapists have displayed sexually sadistic tendencies, this is most certainly not the rule. Most murders and rapists are men, but that doesn't mean that ALL men are murders and rapists.