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If I have sex will I bleed alot like in some movies or is that false and will it hurt alot?
Like a lot of people have said, it really varies from one woman to another, but I would say it's unlikely that it will hurt as much as you're afraid it will. If you've done anything like play sports, take dance lessons, use a tampon, etc, there's a good chance your hymen has already broken/started to wear away (incidentally, some women are born without one, so you may be worrying for nothing).
Based on personal experience, though, I would say whether or not it hurts has less to do with the hymen and more with the particular circumstances surrounding the act itself. I lost my virginity to a man who, to be blunt, was on the small side, and I wondered what all the fuss was about--I didn't bleed at all, and was only a bit uncomfortable at times. That being said, I later did bleed a little the first time I had sex with a larger guy; I was turned on but my body just wasn't used to it and I probably clenched up a bit. Even then, though, it was just a couple drops of blood, and it didn't happen again. If you relax, indulge in a lot of foreplay, use lube if you need it, it really shouldn't be too bad.