This is probably a dumb question about g-spots....

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This is probably a dumb question about g-spots....

KnK KnK
Okay, so I know that having a g-spot orgasm is supposed to be out of this fucking world. I know where my g-spot is, and I do feel it during insertion or when I play with toys specifically made for g-spot play, but I've never achieved a g-spot orgasm.

I'm not even sure how to have one. I think part of it might be that after awhile, if I'm playing by myself, I "chicken out" and can't stand the long-term stimulation enough to keep going. I think someone would have to hold me down and shove it up there for me.

I'm thinking maybe I haven't found the right toy yet, but I'm still curious. What does a g-spot orgasm FEEL like? How different is it from a clitoral orgasm or well any other kind of spasm-gasm? Part of me worries that I could very well have a G-spot orgasm one day and not have any goddamn clue that it had happened.
01/28/2011
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Tuesday Tuesday
From what I gather, they're different for different women. If you look at my poll about this, you'll see that they're usually much weaker than clitoral orgasms.

For me, when I first started having them, they were very weak. They were more like a slight wave of warmth. They were nice enough that I wanted to keep trying though. Eventually, through practice and lots of kegels, they're stronger now, but still weaker than clitoral orgasms, at least for me.

I encourage you to keep trying. You may be closer than you think.
01/28/2011
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by KnK
Okay, so I know that having a g-spot orgasm is supposed to be out of this fucking world. I know where my g-spot is, and I do feel it during insertion or when I play with toys specifically made for g-spot play, but I've never achieved a g-spot ...
For me to have an intense g-spot orgasm, I have to put a finger or some other kind of pressure on my clit to actually finish. Usually it's waves and waves of intense pleasure, but not the same as a (and I think this is a great term) "spasm-gasm."

They are intense when I do the combination clit and g-spot though. I get my spasm-gasm from the clit stim plus tall the exciting waves of pleasure from my g-spot. My Amethyst has been key to helping me discover it. As well as my Harmonia.
01/28/2011
Rockin' Rockin'
I think I'm in the same boat as you, Twisted Finger. I don't think your questions are dumb at all. I wish I knew the answers to them. I've never had a g-spot orgasm and I totally chicken out when I do g-spot stuff. I'm looking forward to other people's responses here
01/28/2011
Lucidity Lucidity
I think this is a great question. I'm excited to read the responses.
01/28/2011
Coralbell Coralbell
I don't think I've had a g-spot orgasm, but sometime I wonder if I actually have but they were just weak. I know when I started out with clit stimulation I was having really weak orgasms, but didn't recognize them as orgasms until I had had stronger ones and looked back. Sometimes when I'm using a g-spot toy my vagina starts clenching gently, like what I would consider to be a pre-orgasm clench when I'm using a clit toy. Maybe that actually is a g-spot orgasm?
01/28/2011
Angel deSanguine Angel deSanguine
I'm going to try to say this in a way that makes some kind of sense... I know the feelings but I've never tried to put them in words so if I don't make sense let me know and I'll try to elaborate further.

A clitoral orgasm is not a slow building thing for me. I get the tingling, the sensation a matter of seconds before I cum and I feel my body tensing up, my hips rising off of whatever I'm laying on, my legs drawing together and as soon as it hits it's a wall of intense pleasure. My arms flail back if I'm laying on my back and my body twitches and spasms. I have noticed that vocally I go up in pitch also.

A G-spot orgasm is, more often than not, a slow building thing for me. I feel it as soon as I hit my g and everything sort of spreads out and relaxes. My knees drop apart, I relax into the mattress, my head drops back, I am almost immediately significantly more wet and my vocalizations drop about an octave and instead of yelling I speak softly, often whispering. It's a warmth that builds, slowly spreading out from my g-spot, through my vag, then through my whole abdomen, then up my arms and through my body. Instead of reaching up for it I settle into it if that makes any sense. The orgasm is also a lot more prolonged- as long as I continue to stimulate my g the waves of orgasm continue to roll through me. After a g-spot orgasm I am in a warm blanket of blissed out relaxation. I feel like I'm sinking into the mattress and I have a big goofy smile on my face. It's much less of a sudden WHAM! of a clitoral orgasm and more of a continuing undulation that gets wider and stronger as it progresses.
01/28/2011
ToyGeek ToyGeek
Definitely not a stupid question! These can definitely sneak up on you, and have just as many variations in intensity as clitoral orgasms. I also don't think they're necessarily better -- the blended ones are more intense in my experience, and it's easier to lose focus if you're fighting for a particular type of experience instead of just having fun.

I've had the most success achieving intensity with the Pure Wand, the Amethyst, and the Jollies Firm, but there are many, many toys out there that get the job done.
01/28/2011
ToyGeek ToyGeek
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Originally posted by Angel deSanguine
I'm going to try to say this in a way that makes some kind of sense... I know the feelings but I've never tried to put them in words so if I don't make sense let me know and I'll try to elaborate further.

A clitoral orgasm is ...
Fantastic description!
01/28/2011
Annemarie Annemarie
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Originally posted by ToyGeek
Definitely not a stupid question! These can definitely sneak up on you, and have just as many variations in intensity as clitoral orgasms. I also don't think they're necessarily better -- the blended ones are more intense in my experience, ...
Yeah, I've never had a g-spot only orgasm. They've only been blended, but I'm not even sure if it was a clitoral+g-spot blended or an a-spot blended or an x-spot blended or whatever.

It just felt damn good and I want that again.
01/28/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by Angel deSanguine
I'm going to try to say this in a way that makes some kind of sense... I know the feelings but I've never tried to put them in words so if I don't make sense let me know and I'll try to elaborate further.

A clitoral orgasm is ...
Same for me
02/18/2011
ID42 ID42
I am a fan of my g-spot. She rocks hardcore. But like some of the rest of you, the orgasms tend to be a bit softer and not as quick or sharp as a clitoral spasm-gasm. Not that they can't be mind blowing, but mostly it's extremely slow building waves that start in my abdomen and roll over my body. From feeling the hair on my head stand on end, to making me clench my toes and I literally can't keep mine going alone. Clitoral stimulation added to this makes it almost unbearable for me which is why I would stop and give in. My husband always has to hold my legs open by force* to be able to keep going with stimulation to my g-psot and/or clitoris.

*disclaimer... all implied "force" is consensual in this house.
02/18/2011
MR.G MR.G
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Originally posted by ID42
I am a fan of my g-spot. She rocks hardcore. But like some of the rest of you, the orgasms tend to be a bit softer and not as quick or sharp as a clitoral spasm-gasm. Not that they can't be mind blowing, but mostly it's extremely slow ...
*disclaimer* I hear ya. In my TECHNIQUE - pg 1 of TRY THIS, I suggest HOLD HER DOWN and have been fried for such a misogynistic instruction. The suggestion is for those women who are reacting to an unknown and VERY intense buildup of feelings. It is for couples trying this for the first time - not some back alley rape. DuuuH.

Anyway ... the INTENSITY of a G-Gasm depends on so many things. No matter what is happening YOUR moods and hormone levels change. Your foreplay is either great or merely nice. Time factors. Other distractions. Generally G's build slowly but once they hit the greatest thing is you can just keep doing what you were doing to get there the first time and that G-Gasm will happen over and over and over again.

Many women, I think mistake G-Gasms for other types and report them as not nearly as intense as clitorals. That might be true for them but from experience and feedback from my TRY THIS thred ( link ) women who do experience directed or blended G-Gasms report that they are MUCH MUCH more powerful, all body and intense than clitorals AND you can keep them going unlike most clotorals where it becomes way too sensitive to continue stimulation after just one orgasm.
03/02/2011
*Huxley* *Huxley*
Quote:
Originally posted by Angel deSanguine
I'm going to try to say this in a way that makes some kind of sense... I know the feelings but I've never tried to put them in words so if I don't make sense let me know and I'll try to elaborate further.

A clitoral orgasm is ...
*like*

This is an amazing description and hits head on. I think a lot of people will be able to relate to your write up and maybe understand what is supposed to happen.
Thank you!
03/22/2011
REDRUM REDRUM
I have yet to flip the switch as well.
I cant even find mine, aghhhh. I think mine is very deep. I'm still trying to find the right dildo to hit the spot.
03/22/2011
Eden C. Eden C.
I have a G-spot and I enjoy it, but I can't have an orgasm from G-spot stimulation alone. I believe there are a lot of women like me. I read a study somewhere (I wish I had the link) saying that about 60% of women cannot have an orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone. You are not alone!
03/22/2011
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by REDRUM
I have yet to flip the switch as well.
I cant even find mine, aghhhh. I think mine is very deep. I'm still trying to find the right dildo to hit the spot.
The #17 is my favorite G-spot dildo, but I found it with the Amethyst. If you are interested in a vibrator to help you out, the Harmonia was great. I just also tried the G-Ki and it's FANTASTIC, plus you can use it for dual stim! *drool*
03/22/2011
Tuesday Tuesday
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
The #17 is my favorite G-spot dildo, but I found it with the Amethyst. If you are interested in a vibrator to help you out, the Harmonia was great. I just also tried the G-Ki and it's FANTASTIC, plus you can use it for dual stim! *drool* ...
I second your enthusiasm for #17. That toy is fantastic. It has a head that's not too big but is big enough that you can't miss your G-spot.
03/22/2011
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