would u continue to masturbate by yourself to reach orgasm after ur male partner had already ejaculated?

Kcito Kcito
would u let it go or masturbate until reaching orgasm?
09/23/2010
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P'Gell P'Gell
Yeah, of course, but WITH HIM there. Or HE can do it for me. Sometimes he comes first, sometimes I do. I still get to Come.

Why is sex "over" for some when the man ejaculates?

My Man and I often have sex where one of us comes first, we keep going until the other is either had their orgasm or orgasms, or doesn't need to.

I don't usually go off and do it by myself. He was part of the process, he can help me come, even if he already has his. It's only fair.
09/23/2010
SomewhatSomewhere SomewhatSomewhere
Eh, it depends. My boyfriend always cums before me, but if he does, he asks me if I want to get off. It just depends. Sometimes I let it go, other times I want it. It all depends if I started on him, with intentions to purely pleasure him.
10/04/2010
DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
If I want to orgasm, my partner is happy to help me get there, every time, whether I came first or she came first.

It's only fair
10/05/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
If my partner finishes before and I really badly need an orgasm I will finish off on my own. I have invited my partner to watch but he has opted to watch tv instead, lol.

More often than not my partner is quite adamant that I orgasm before him unless I tell him I am not up for the effort and will be satisfied with the sexual act itself without orgasm.
10/05/2010
Dusk Dusk
I'll usually finish on my own if I really need to, but a lot of the time I'm not too bothered so I'll just lay with my partner and snuggle instead.
10/05/2010
ScottA ScottA
She better do something to finish - there's no way I"m letting her not orgasm!

Sometimes its masturbating, sometimes I just do my best to keep it up and have her ride to orgasm. Sadly I don't yet have the self discipline to keep going if I'm on top, so we do need to roll over.
10/05/2010
Pleasure Piratess Pleasure Piratess
Depends on how close I am. If I'm just aroused, I'll let it go. If I'm damn close, something has to be done! Sometimes hubby will finish me off. Rarely I will finish myself off in front of him. Sometimes I will wait til he goes to clean-up and do it privately, usually when I have already had one big O and was close to #2.
10/05/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Quote:
Originally posted by Kcito
would u let it go or masturbate until reaching orgasm?
I would if I had to, but that isn't the case usually. But even on the rare occasion that I don't orgasm, I am still very satisfied and don't feel the need to. I have done it a few times.
10/05/2010
Hot'n'Bothered Hot'n'Bothered
Hubby almost always climaxes before I do....He's able to stay hard enough let me get the job finished though..
10/05/2010
Jobthingy Jobthingy
It is rare that he lets me get myself off. If he finishes first he will finish me off by whatever means necessary
10/05/2010
lil ladybug lil ladybug
He almost always lets me finish first then depending on what he wants we either continue or I get him off.
10/05/2010
Victoria Victoria
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
Yeah, of course, but WITH HIM there. Or HE can do it for me. Sometimes he comes first, sometimes I do. I still get to Come.

Why is sex "over" for some when the man ejaculates?

My Man and I often have sex where one of us ... More
Same here
10/05/2010
Hannah Savage Hannah Savage
I've actually only orgasmed twice in my entire relationship with my guy. Because he is so emotionally sensitive, if I feel like I need to finish, I will elsewhere. Usually I don't, though.
10/05/2010
Alicia Alicia
It's rare that this even happens since he usually gives me a few orgasms during foreplay first, but the few times it hasn't I'll either let it go if I don't feel the need for the release, sometimes just the feeling of sex is enough and I don't need an orgasm right then, and if I am still wanting one he'll usually finish me off after his own.
10/05/2010
Liz2 Liz2
I usually need an orgasm prior to penetration. If he ejaculates before I orgasm again, I just grab a toy and continue.....
10/06/2010
Jenn (aka kissmykitty) Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
It's happened on occasion. There are times when I'm just not into it right away, and he goes first; or there are times when he gets off from being too excited, in which case I just take care of business afterward.
10/06/2010
Envy Envy
Yes because if I don't finish I get cranky, crampy, and generally crabby.
10/06/2010
ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by Hot'n'Bothered
Hubby almost always climaxes before I do....He's able to stay hard enough let me get the job finished though..
Aren't Kegels great? I'm starting to be able to do that too.

Ideally I'll move on to full multiorgasmic capability, but staying hard is a good start.
10/06/2010
tits only tits only
Yes because my parter will roll over and go to sleep on me sometimes lol
10/14/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Kcito
would u let it go or masturbate until reaching orgasm?
Sure if I wanted the orgasm and he's cool with it...generally they help me out but sometimes it's up to me.
10/14/2010
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
For my husband and I, our pleasure is aroused by pleasuring the other. We're not in it for ourselves, so if the other one doesn't finish (other than by personal choice to not finish and it does happen on rare occasions) we're not wholly satisfied in our pleasure. So we often hear of things like this and are completely baffled. I don't understand how a partner can be OK with getting theirs and not make sure their partner is just as satisfied. It sounds selfish, to me. Maybe I'm too narrow in my thinking, I'm not trying to offend anyone.
10/21/2010
SexyTabby SexyTabby
For years I simply stated the fact that I didn't marry hubby for his abilities in the bedroom. Luckily for me he's trainable. He's getting much better but more often then not I simply let him roll over and sleep while I leave the room to find a quiet moment to take care of me. I usually feel sorry for him cuz I'm aggressive and since he has physically demanding work he needs his rest. But yeah I need to be satisfied too. Haven't gotten to the point where I can relax enough to masturbate with him there not unless he's really out cold. It's one of my goals in my head.
10/21/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyTabby
For years I simply stated the fact that I didn't marry hubby for his abilities in the bedroom. Luckily for me he's trainable. He's getting much better but more often then not I simply let him roll over and sleep while I leave the room ... More
Sometimes, it's OK to just say, "You know, I'm not done. I didn't come, and I'd like to. Do you want to keep going, or will you just hold me and I'll do it myself with my Hitachi?"

IMO, sex doesn't end only when the guy with the penis ejaculates. (OK that was a dumb play on "It ain't over until the fat lady sings" but I tried.) You could offer him the choice between being there while you finish yourself, or being there while he keeps going and you get what you deserve. It's OK to say something. He isn't going to leave because you didn't have an orgasm in record time. If you give him the choice, couched in terms that he will be there with you either way then he'll realize, "Hey, she isn't finished. I'm a Man, I need to finish my Job."

My Man is in his 50s, he works hard, and I still will say something if I want to come and haven't yet. Sometimes, especially if I have had several orgasms in the previous 12 hours or so, we can have a quickie and I don't even need to orgasm. But, sometimes, no matter what the situation, I WANT to Come. I am not going to let him get out of the responsibility. Yes, I am responsible for my own orgasms To a point, only if I get the chance, though, but part of that responsibility is letting him know WHEN I am not done, so that he can do what needs to be done, or at least be WITH me if he's tired. A man with an exhausted penis can still provide oral or manual stimulation to you. He can still pleasure you, even if he's already had his orgasm.

I know it sounds cliche but it comes down to communication. Usually, My Man knows if I haven't had an orgasm and can tell, without my saying anything, that I want at least a few. But, sometimes he doesn't realize and I don't expect him to be a mind reader, nor do men (sorry guys) pick up on "hints" very well.

You have to direct and to the point with men. They aren't very subtle beings.

There's nothing wrong with saying, "I'm still horny. I want an orgasm. I am pretty sure I will have at least one if you/we....." whatever will work.

It makes me sad to see women sneaking off to have their orgasms alone, when a perfectly healthy, sound, good man lies there. TELL HIM!!

My Man and I went through a period where he was falling asleep DURING sex, often before I came. I was very very upset about it, so I TOLD him. I made some jokes and all he did was laugh and thought I was OK with it. I wasn't. I had to let him know, "My orgasms are better if you are with me. Please, stay awake long enough for me to get what I need." I cried a little, too. That seemed to help. He doesn't sleep during sex anymore. Really.

We also almost always get me to have my first orgasm first. Before his. That way, if he does conk out, it won't be me lying there in frustration. I can always do it again in the morning or give him a BJ in the morning, if I get what I need and then he checks out.

It's OK to talk about sex with him.
10/22/2010
ud328 ud328
Rarely do I let myself move on without giving her an orgasm. Like someone else said, I will do whatever I can; power through my orgasm to keep my erection firm, go down on her, use fingers or toys. She and I are pretty much on the same page. We both enjoy sex and we both enjoy getting off with each other. Sometimes she's okay, but I usually don't ask, I just keep going until she asks me to stop. I wouldn't say its a matter of whats fair but a matter of being considerate of your partner. You gotta talk, figure out what they want, and more importantly tell them what you want. Miscommunication should never be a reason for a disconnect.
01/13/2011
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by Hannah Savage
I've actually only orgasmed twice in my entire relationship with my guy. Because he is so emotionally sensitive, if I feel like I need to finish, I will elsewhere. Usually I don't, though.
I didn't see this post before. This makes me kind of sad. No relationship should be one-sided sexually (it absolutely will not survive). And no one should have to go without orgasm! EVER!
01/13/2011
CSEA CSEA
Yes I would! And have. I like our relationship to be open and not forced for each other. Sometimes he wants oral and I want to masturbate or vise-versa. I dont obligate him to always what I want want want, we give each other options. I like to have him watch though
01/13/2011
CSEA CSEA
And this rarely happens... I normally orgasm 3 or 4 times first!!
01/13/2011
freshbananas freshbananas
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Originally posted by CSEA
And this rarely happens... I normally orgasm 3 or 4 times first!!
I am the same way!
01/13/2011
BadassFatass BadassFatass
I would probably do it if I had to but...well, that never happens with my guy.
01/16/2011
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