How to get her to stimulate my prostate?

adirondacker adirondacker
I want to have my girlfriend start playing with my ass but she won't let me venture near hers because it is gross in her mind. How can I get her to at least get past her fear to try it on me? Any good toys for this that won't intimidate her or have her questioning my sexuality and attraction to her?
06/28/2009
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Raven Raven
What about telling her that not only would it be pleasurable to you, but that it would be very healthful for the prostate itself. I've read in more than one place that prostate massage is one of the best things a guy can do, other than frequent ejaculations, to keep his prostate in good health.

I know of a great prostate massager that has a little crook at the other end that works the perineum at the same time. It’s the Aneros SGX. I bought one for my husband and hoped he'd let me use it on him, but he is opposed to anything going up his ass. I have yet to figure out a way to change his mind.
06/29/2009
In Purrgatory In Purrgatory
Start with stuff that she doesn't have to mess around with, such as plugs or the aforementioned Aneros. If she sees that it enhances your experiences with her she might come around.
07/08/2009
Kinky Skier Kinky Skier
i first got my GF and now wife to try it with just her finger. toys can mean huge commitment, like "look at me honey, want to play with my ass, i already have a dildo!" that may seem a bit crazy to her. maybe ask her to touch your taint, touch around your ass maybe. Explain to her your dick is actually longer than what she can see, and ask her to rub it behind your balls, you know, inside you, in front of your ass.

it took me a couple times to get her to touch my ass, and she figured the rest out herself. Now she uses toys on me all the time, and is fine with it. It her ass thats gross to her.... hope that helps
09/23/2009
fishkiller fishkiller
If you get a prostate massager she may just catch on that it is something you enjoy. Get an anal douche, and use it, you really dont want any accidents while
experimenting. What may help is after you insert the massager, get her to sit on your face, (after she showers of course). Nothing like some dual stimulation for you, and she gets a good orgasm as well!! If she goes along with this, you may have to try to introduce her slowly, but each time you give her something good as well. Just my opinion. Good luck.....
12/23/2009
Classicvlasick Classicvlasick
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Originally posted by Raven
What about telling her that not only would it be pleasurable to you, but that it would be very healthful for the prostate itself. I've read in more than one place that prostate massage is one of the best things a guy can do, other than frequent ... More
Raven, How I wish I had you and he had a feather up his butt and we would both be tickled !
12/28/2009
eyeneerg1984 eyeneerg1984
I've been wondering the same thing. I actually told my wife, after much hesitation, that I wanted to experience a prostate massage and that it would involve anal play (which normally thinks is disgusting). Honesty, has paid off and she is getting me a butt plug or prostate massager for Valentine's Day. I would like to think that my frequent willingness to give her powerful clitoral and G-spot orgasms is paying off through my explaining to her my desire to experience a P-spot orgasm.
01/17/2010
Intrigued Intrigued
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Originally posted by adirondacker
I want to have my girlfriend start playing with my ass but she won't let me venture near hers because it is gross in her mind. How can I get her to at least get past her fear to try it on me? Any good toys for this that won't intimidate her ... More
Communication is always key in every relationship. Accepting each other and their sexual interests can lead to exciting adventures. Once she sees how excited anal play makes you, I'm sure it will also turn her on.

While going down on my husband, I discovered he was very sensitive in his perineum area. His encouraging sounds of pleasure enboldened me to lick lower and lower. We were both really surprised on how much we were both turned on we were. Licking and teasing was as far as we went that first time. We had a very awkward conversation after that was filled with honesty and curiousity.

Explaining exactly how you feel and how you respect her hesitancy will open an honest conversation. I would start by using your mouth and fingers first before introducing toys into the scenario.

If she's really against the idea, then let it lie for awhile. As relationships grow, we become more accepting of trying new things. Good luck!!
08/07/2010
himandher himandher
When I first broached the subject with my gf, I was surprised by her response... "Doesn't what we do now feel good?" I think that she incorrectly assumed that I wasn't happy with our sex life. Once we sorted out that I am thrilled with our sex life and just wanted to try this for some time, she was ok with it. I would recommend starting with a condom on her finger instead of any toys. Good luck : )
09/08/2010
ScottA ScottA
Get some latex "examination gloves" (as long as you can separate this use from any mood-killing medical flashbacks). They stay on much better than condoms, and she can use more than one finger. If she has long nails you can put some cotton in the tips to protect your insides.

They're also good for painting, some cleaning, and working with strong-smelling foods or hot peppers.
09/09/2010
Anally Fixated Anally Fixated
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Originally posted by adirondacker
I want to have my girlfriend start playing with my ass but she won't let me venture near hers because it is gross in her mind. How can I get her to at least get past her fear to try it on me? Any good toys for this that won't intimidate her ... More
My opinion is that you explain to her that you would like to open her up to the possibilities of anal sex and anal play and that you are willing to "sacrifice" yourself for the cause. Tell her that you want her to know that she is the not only one who will be anally penetrated. This tends to act as a very reassuring mechanism and makes the woman more relaxed about the possibility. Additionally, I suggest going to the website: link This website provides a lot of testimonials from women who were originally equally as disgusted as your wife about the possibility of anal play. It also explains quite well that anal play, when practiced correctly, is very pleasurable for both parties involved. Hope this helps.
09/15/2010
pollux pollux
I'm kind of in the same situation right now. I brought up the idea of pegging with my gf - who immediately recoiled at the thought of her having a penis. I dropped the subject for a little while and gave her time to think. She's definitely more open to the idea now and I've started showing her some of the anal toys that I've kept "secret" from her. I think my explaining that other people engage in pegging and other anal activities helped open her mind a bit, too.

I think the best way to approach this problem is slowly and with small steps towards the goal you are after.
11/28/2010
Ropeguy Ropeguy
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Originally posted by pollux
I'm kind of in the same situation right now. I brought up the idea of pegging with my gf - who immediately recoiled at the thought of her having a penis. I dropped the subject for a little while and gave her time to think. She's definitely ... More
I used to keep my toys secret from my g/f. Most certainly slowly getting her used to the idea of anal play was a key part of getting her to play with me in that way. She still is not even remotely interested in anal herself, but to each their own and at least she knows I am open to it if she changes her mind
12/05/2010
bsgs bsgs
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Originally posted by fishkiller
If you get a prostate massager she may just catch on that it is something you enjoy. Get an anal douche, and use it, you really dont want any accidents while
experimenting. What may help is after you insert the massager, get her to sit on your ... More
that sounds amazing
02/07/2012
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
You can stimulate the prostate externally..
02/07/2012
godweensatan godweensatan
i love when a chick plays with my butt. I should stop eating so many beans so they are not grossed out by the idea of rimming me bc im crop dusting entire stores all night long. its sick. im sick. what a disgrace.
02/08/2012
Boobs and Lubes Boobs and Lubes
tell her there is a twenty dollar bill up there
02/09/2012
PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
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Originally posted by Boobs and Lubes
tell her there is a twenty dollar bill up there
Since this was posted back in 06/28/2009, I think twenty dollars is not enough! Tell her there is a diamond ring up there!!!! She wouldn't stop searching until either she can't find it or your butt will be destroyed!
02/09/2012
Spilock Spilock
Get some gloves and let her know you'll take efforts to make sure it's clean. If you can make her believe that it's as clean as it probably will be during play, you should be fine.
02/13/2012
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