Bi and married

Contributor: shepegsME shepegsME
you've got to make choices in life and stick to them. Seems like you still want to try more of the other fruit. Well, too late. Just as he had to give up other women, so will you...unless you guys go open, but I would not suggest.

I guess if my girl would be that attracted to women, I would not have a problem with her dating, flirting and possibly being active with other women. I admit, I'd be jealous, but I would prefer her getting it out of her system then later blaming me or feeling unhappy with me. I would not want her to get feelings involved in her dating though, but she's a woman so it's going to happen. In other words, if you love someone...set them free.
08/02/2010
Contributor: Timaree Timaree
Check out this great column written in response to a man dating a bisexual woman: link. It might give you some insights.
08/04/2010
Contributor: usmcwife99 usmcwife99
Ime bi and also married. It actually works out well currently. I guess ime more then friends with my one "friend" but my husband is to. He loves a threesome and I love a threesome to. So when it comes to sex its great.


Um I dont love her as i have a husband. Its my husband then her. I like her as a best friend and shes looking for a relationship and when that hapens we wont have sex its that simple.

So ime bi, but married.
08/15/2010
Contributor: CutiePatootie CutiePatootie
Like many of these posts say: Depends on the couple and what each of you want the ground rules to be.
I may have never met my "bi" or even sexually "wild" side if not for my now-husband combined with my kinky-hot best friend at the end of college. We have had a few threesomes in the 5 years we were dating and knew when we were marrying each other that it may slow down some but neither of us wanted it to change. I'm not allowed to have a girlfriend on the side, he's not allowed to have anything on the side, but we are allowed to have one together.
Recently we have met what seems to be the perfect girl for us, unattached, hot, interested in experimenting and we are so excited and thankful that we love to pamper her.
Not only has it been the best threesomes we've ever had, but the sex between just the two of us has quadrupled (and been better than the "usual"). We love it.
The dynamic may change if we decide we want kids (at my insisting I'm sure) but it has always been a wierd little part of how we are together. Having ground rules before marrige is really important though.
So, can anybody point me to some fun toys to use during FMF threesomes? Or do I just whip out the whole chest, add some things I've always wanted and go for it?
08/16/2010
Contributor: Evoluchun Evoluchun
I'm married and happy and have been for 10 yrs my husband knows and hes ok if i make comments of a woman on tv or in a magazine and so on he will either agree or disagree... we have a openminded relationship like that which i love but i would never be with anyone else as long as i love him and am married to him
08/21/2010
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
Married 14 years here, hubby came out 3 years ago as bi. We took a "leap of faith" when we opened our marriage, but he craved male companionship and friendship, something which he avoided during most of our marriage (now I know why!). He now has a significant friendship with a male, which isn't really sexual believe it or not, and that helps to complete who he is. His closest friends are all in the gay community and he has several gay siblings. People have asked us why we are together still and we reply "because we want to be together".

Opening a relationship can make or break what you have. We were fortunate to for it to work out. It's about letting others know that you aren't changing your situation, you are simply adding to it. We don't like hook-ups. We like friendships, but it's crucial and often difficult to find someone else who not only is compatible but has the same mind-frame.
08/21/2010
Contributor: Just Jen Just Jen
The man and I have been together for 6 years. We are not married. We have shared 2 women in those 6 years and don't plan on stopping. I would never go off and sleep with someone else without him there and neither would he, but we feel that if we are together doing it, that it's fine!
09/02/2010
Contributor: Hannah Savage Hannah Savage
I am in a long-term relationship and I am bi, and he knows it. We have talked about having a threesome, and although it is a pretty big fantasy of mine and a turn on for him, the emotional logistics of it all don't work for me. I believe he has had a threesome before, but I don't ask because I honestly don't care to know. Also, we have VERY different tastes in women, haha.

Would I like to explore intimacy with another woman? Yes, very much so. But would I do it whilst in this relationship? Absolutely not without him explicitly saying that he would be okay with it. If he wanted to play with another man, although he has never hinted at it, I would be okay with that. He has stated that he believes cheating is cheating, male or female, and I respect that.
09/02/2010
Contributor: SydVicious SydVicious
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
The way I look at it, just because you're bi doesn't mean you're repressed in a marriage. You chose to marry one person or be in a psuedo-marriage (unfortunately for the non-st8 people). When you go into a marriage, you should assume ... more
I have to agree with this. I like men, and I am married to a man. It would be the same as me saying that I like men too much and I need to be with more than one man, after I am already married. I don't know about everyone else, but my husband would not be Ok with that... and I shouldn't expect him to be.

Personally I feel like it's telling your partner that you have changed your mind about them and they are no longer enough for you. As Miss Cinnamon said: "a commitment is a commitment"
09/02/2010
Contributor: Love&War Love&War
We're married and bi, both with experiences prior to marriage. We did decide that once the vows were said, we'd stick to fantasizing. It's worked well and we couldn't be happier!
04/07/2011