Bisexual with an opposite-sex partner?

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Bisexual with an opposite-sex partner?

Kkay Kkay
Anyone else in a long-term monogamous relationship with an opposite-sex partner? How do you feel you relate to the QUILTBAG community?
07/25/2011
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BlackxxxRose BlackxxxRose
I'm in this situation. I've always preferred girls over men but somehow my partner managed to finagle his way into my life and now he's my longterm partner that I'm planning on marrying *hopefully* next spring. I've never really been "bi" per se because I've found myself attracted and in relationships with several transgendered people. I'm probably more pansexual than anything else because I don't seek out certain genders to date or form relationships with. Finding myself in a long term relationship with a man though has actually helped me fit in more with my gay and lesbian friends. Somehow they see me as "more right" now that I've settled down with someone, regardless that he's a straight man. I'm just glad I have the freedom to choose who I want no matter their sex or sexuality.
07/25/2011
AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
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Originally posted by Kkay
Anyone else in a long-term monogamous relationship with an opposite-sex partner? How do you feel you relate to the QUILTBAG community?
Ok, don't laugh at me if this is a stupid question. But, what is the QUILTBAG community?
07/25/2011
Chaotic Rantings Chaotic Rantings
QUILTBAG is an acronym. It stands for Queer/Questioning, Undecided, Intersex, Lesbian, Transgender/Transsexua l, Bisexual, Allied/Asexual, Gay/Genderqueer. It is meant to be a more inclusive term than GLBT/LGBT and to be more pronounceable (and memorable) than some of the other variations or extensions on the GLBT/LGBT abbreviatio
09/04/2011
PassionCpl PassionCpl
We're a bi couple, openly bi to each other. We play occasionally with others but only with each other present.

And why does it appear that there's an acronym for EVERYTHING these days? (No, that wasn't one... yet)
10/23/2011
PDXlady PDXlady
I (a cis-female) have been with my partner (a cis-male)for four years this month and I've never been with anyone else. I feel like that makes many people in the QUILTBAG community reject me. Not only am I in a hetero relationship right now but I've never had any sexual experience with anyone of the same sex. For some reason some people think this makes me less queer, obviously I strongly disagree.
02/09/2012
FleurDevereux FleurDevereux
I am a lesbian marrying a gay man, although we are not monogamous.
02/10/2012
KcKay KcKay
See what I don't understand. I have always sorta known I was bisexuals being women turned and turn me on more then men. But yet I never enter into a relationship with any women I had feelings for due to the fact that I never told my family until the night of my 21 birthday. But is it really cheating if u have sex with the same sex?
02/24/2012
xGOLDx xGOLDx
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Originally posted by KcKay
See what I don't understand. I have always sorta known I was bisexuals being women turned and turn me on more then men. But yet I never enter into a relationship with any women I had feelings for due to the fact that I never told my family until ...
I'd say so. Cheating is cheating, no matter the sex or gender or identity of the other party.
02/25/2012
Greenleaf Greenleaf
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Originally posted by PDXlady
I (a cis-female) have been with my partner (a cis-male)for four years this month and I've never been with anyone else. I feel like that makes many people in the QUILTBAG community reject me. Not only am I in a hetero relationship right now but ...
I'm in a very similar situation. I usually get "well you're just straight and saying that for attention!"

But really it's just that the ratio of straight men to lesbian/bi/pan/etc women that are willing to date a bi/pan chick is extremely skewed where I'm from.
02/25/2012
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
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Originally posted by KcKay
See what I don't understand. I have always sorta known I was bisexuals being women turned and turn me on more then men. But yet I never enter into a relationship with any women I had feelings for due to the fact that I never told my family until ...
I would clarify that with your partner. What some relationships consider cheating can be totally permissible in others. It really doesn't matter what other people think or do; as long as it's ok between you and your partner, it's no big deal
02/25/2012
MimiPhryxus MimiPhryxus
I'm a bi female and I'm married to a heterosexual man. I'm also polyamorous and he's very open to me having a girlfriend but we have a lot of limits when it comes to that in order to keep things safe and sane in our marriage.
02/28/2012
Faeya Faeya
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Originally posted by Kkay
Anyone else in a long-term monogamous relationship with an opposite-sex partner? How do you feel you relate to the QUILTBAG community?
I'm in a ltr with a cis-male, so I don't really have to worry about being "out" or noticed, so I am aware of having a high level of straight privilege. I do however, go out of my way as best as I can to be an ally and to be as out as possible, which is vital in the small town I live in. Fortunately (?), I've had past relationships with cis-women, so I have some "street cred" with people I know.
03/09/2012
kittenfacery kittenfacery
yep. well... semi monogamous. i'm poly and my Boy doesn't mind and has given me permission, i just haven't found anyone i'd feel comfy with.

i'm kind of... a lurking Bi. i suddenly pounce on my female friends and say things like 'OHGOSH YOUR BOOBS' and i certainly turn round to continue to look at pretty people, no matter what gender they identify as, if any. so i still feel entirely part of the QUILTBAG community. i think it's more to do with feelings than to do with actions.
05/06/2012
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