Lots of men are bi that don't realize it yet...

callsignhusker callsignhusker
Most of them are basically homophobes, no offense. Society conditions us to think in a certain way, there is far more pressure on men to steer clear of homosexuality so most bi men just ignore their other side I think. For many of them all this is actually subconscious, I know I didn't realize I was bi until I tried to work against social norms.
04/08/2011
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emiliaa emiliaa
Indeed, I agree. I sense my lover having crushes on guys every once in a while. But I wouldn't push him to try something he doesn't want to, so he'll probably never admit it.

(Though, I knew I was bi without having sex with either gender, I've known since I was 12 because I felt attractions.)
06/10/2011
Eucaly Eucaly
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Originally posted by callsignhusker
Most of them are basically homophobes, no offense. Society conditions us to think in a certain way, there is far more pressure on men to steer clear of homosexuality so most bi men just ignore their other side I think. For many of them all this is ... More
There are studies around (too lazy to google them myself but you shouldn't have problems finding them) that say huge numbers of men have had some kind of same-sex sexual experience, especially hand jobs, frottage, or blow jobs.

If I recall correctly, some studies are up to around 50% of all men.
06/10/2011
ashaxmarie ashaxmarie
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Originally posted by callsignhusker
Most of them are basically homophobes, no offense. Society conditions us to think in a certain way, there is far more pressure on men to steer clear of homosexuality so most bi men just ignore their other side I think. For many of them all this is ... More
i've seen this in my own life definitely...my partner is much older and has pretty much been conditioned to be somewhat homophobic & ultramasculine, but he definitely has sexual interest in men. i'm encouraging him to be more open to trying new things (and that it's totally okay to feel attraction to men) but it's hard when that conditioning has been a part of life for such a long time.
06/10/2011
daniel and frances daniel and frances
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Originally posted by callsignhusker
Most of them are basically homophobes, no offense. Society conditions us to think in a certain way, there is far more pressure on men to steer clear of homosexuality so most bi men just ignore their other side I think. For many of them all this is ... More
I agree.
06/10/2011
Noira Noira
Heck, I think lots of WOMEN are bi that don't realize it yet... it's just easier for women to be intimate with other women without raising alarms... men can't hug each other, even.

I do believe a lot of homophobic people are really just trying to hide attraction. I know I was... I used to be a burning rage of fire and doom against fags, until I reconciled me and my attractions to both the same sex, and the third gender.

Frankly, I think most people are bi until they prove otherwise, and there's a pretty big gray area between the two extremes of ABSOLUTELY STRAIGHT and ABSOLUTELY GAY, filled by people who may be 99% straight, or 95% gay, and just haven't seen the right hottie to trigger a brief bit of arousal. Sexuality is, in my opinion, determined by attraction rather than experience. Bi-curious is a ridiculous word. Just be bi, maybe a lot closer to the straight end of the scale, but bi.

In a world where people are confident about their bisexuality, relationships would be a lot easier, I think. I feel sorry for men who are conditioned by society to be homophobic and always ignore any underlying things, creating tension just for the sake of social norms based on gender stereotyping.
06/12/2011
kendra30752 kendra30752
I don't think homophobe means gay or bi. I know several who are just a bit insecure and not so knowledgable to the meaning or how gays are. They tend to freak out and go the opposite direction because they're under the impression that if they're around gays they might possibly look gay or maybe even "turn" gay. I think it's more fear than anything.
06/12/2011
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