Bisexual rant - Why do they think I want to sleep with them?!?!

DoMePretty DoMePretty
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I'm bi. For some reason evertime some straight girl ti D's out I. Bi she automatically assumes I want her. How conceded can you get?? I understand not all straight people do that but it erks me when they do! Sorry needed to vent please noon get offended! I'm open to any oppions on the situation.
02/06/2013
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SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
As a straight female I would tell you it's not about straight people. It's about ignorant people.
02/06/2013
Trysexual Trysexual
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Originally posted by SneakersAndPearls
As a straight female I would tell you it's not about straight people. It's about ignorant people.
well said
02/06/2013
js250 js250
It can be a factor of a person being uncomfortable with your life choices, media portrayal of bi women and also a bit of ignorance and fear of being possibly attracted to the same sex.

I am a very straight woman that has a lesbian friend, a bi friend and an on and off bi friend. I have had all three women let me know in no uncertain wording they would 'do me' if I was so inclined. I let them know that the compliment was accepted but the interest is not there. The subject was dropped and our friendships are still intact. Two of the times this happened, my friends were drunk and a lot more open about their lifestyle.

I was not threatened, but was a bit confused by why they brought it up knowing full well I have no attraction towards females--the one I was comfortable asking told me she just wanted to let me know in case I ever thought of reevaluating my preferences....she was not trying to convert me or hit on me. Just let me know that there was an option if I ever considered it.

One thing to remember--women have closer personal relationships and things can get misconstrued. Your friendship could be threatening to a straight woman who is not confident in her sexuality, who thinks that 'bi people are attracted to everybody' instead of the reality, and are ignorant of the fact that you can be friends with bi/lesbians and not have anything sexually in common. Just a good, solid and close friendship. I have gotten flack about being friends with my lesbian friend--but let me tell you 31 years of friendship is not worth tossing to the side over bullshit rumors.
02/06/2013
Violet October Violet October
When I first came out, I was soooo scared that all of my female friends would assume that I wanted them. Some did, but my close friends knew me better than that.

Too many people don't understand bisexuality, but at the same time they don't understand ANY sexuality and just have closed-minded ideas about all of them.

If someone makes an assumption about me, I try as hard as I can to not get angry or hurt and try to teach them. If they don't want to learn and want to keep the wrong idea they have well I just don't waste my time on them anymore.
02/10/2013
altheasmarnella altheasmarnella
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Originally posted by js250
It can be a factor of a person being uncomfortable with your life choices, media portrayal of bi women and also a bit of ignorance and fear of being possibly attracted to the same sex.

I am a very straight woman that has a lesbian friend, a ... More
good to hear!
02/27/2013
bog bog
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Originally posted by DoMePretty
I'm bi. For some reason evertime some straight girl ti D's out I. Bi she automatically assumes I want her. How conceded can you get?? I understand not all straight people do that but it erks me when they do! Sorry needed to vent please noon ... More
The same thing happens to some people if they mention that they're single, regardless of sexual orientation. The implication is that if there is a potential to be attracted to them, of course you would be, who wouldn't?
02/27/2013
Pastafariette Pastafariette
A lesbian friend of mine who came out of the closet first to me was afraid to for the longest time because she thought that I would be attracted to her! She's my best friend, so I've informed her well of the fact that just because I'm pansexual doesn't mean that I'm attracted to her just because of her orientation.
05/06/2013
peachmarie peachmarie
Lol I have a lot of straight female friends who I would not be interested in sleeping with lol. I wouldn't know why they would think I would want to right off the bat.
10/15/2013
friendswithfangs friendswithfangs
because the media portrays bi people as promiscuous polyamorous people with no self control who want to sleep with everyone and people eat things theyre fed all their life up easily without thinking critically about it.
so in a word: ignorance, but in another word: heterosexism
11/11/2013
AlaskanBeauty AlaskanBeauty
People are ignorant in general and stupid at times
Jan 28, 2:27 am
RonLee RonLee
That happens to me, a Bi Guy, as well. Not all, but many straight acquaintances as well as a few friends think that I MUST want to fuck them when they find out that I'm bi.
Jan 28, 9:16 am
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