Stereotype discussion: Threesomes

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Stereotype discussion: Threesomes

oldman oldman
Quote:
Originally posted by emiliaa
I'm curious how many bisexual people out there do not like threesomes. I don't *hate* them, but I find them fairly boring, and I would definitely not go out of my way to seek one out. I prefer intimate connection with a singular person at one ...
I am anxious to see the results. Some of the choices are confusing.
09/02/2011
RosesThorns RosesThorns
I have had 2 threesomes, both FFM and I just wasn't that into it.
09/14/2011
nori nori
I consider myself omni-sexual because I don't necessarily find bodies attractive, in any sort of coherent fashion. I find people attractive. I would be curious to try though.
09/15/2011
oldman oldman
Quote:
Originally posted by emiliaa
I'm curious how many bisexual people out there do not like threesomes. I don't *hate* them, but I find them fairly boring, and I would definitely not go out of my way to seek one out. I prefer intimate connection with a singular person at one ...
I don't think it matters if you are straight, gay or bi to have an opinion about 3somes. I have tried it many, many years ago and I did not find it fun. One of my roomies brought a woman home and we took turns...it was too strange to enjoy. I wouldn't want to repeat the experience.
09/16/2011
oldman oldman
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
I answered: Other, Hetero, and Female.

The reason I answered 'other' is because I didn't not enjoy the threesome experience but I have a serious, emotionally damaging hatred for one of the people involved at the time. It was ...
How serious are you 2? To me this sounds like an uncommitted relationship and, at least for me, it would be hard to take.
09/18/2011
Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
I have definitely been curious, but haven't actually done it. I'm not sure if I could do it when I am in a relationship, but then I have never been able to "let go" sexually unless I really care about someone. So, I'm not sure if I could actually do it, I'd probably get jealous in some way.
09/27/2011
Sally Forth Sally Forth
The way I voted was "I've tried & liked threesomes", "other sexuality"(I find the term bisexual too limiting... I'm more of an "equal opportunity lay"), Female.

Don't get me wrong, I've had three way sexual encounters I wasn't that into. Most of those, though were when I was young, F'd up all the time, and had very little if any planning involved. I have recently had the pleasure of trying it out again as a mature, sober (at the times of the encounters), queer woman with a few well established couples with whom I emailed, IMed, talked on the phone, etc. and discussed their boundaries, my boundaries, our individual and collective fantasies about the proposed encounters, and just what my role would be beforehand. All of these experiences were fantastic for me. One couple and I have an ongoing... sexual -and regular friendship.

I have never approached a three-way as part of a couple. I don't think I could do it with just any of my current partners. There are some who have requested some three way action that I just don't feel like it would/could work with. Some, I feel want it for reasons other than those I am comfortable with. I do have one lover with whom I am seeking a lady to join us, but it has taken months of us discussing where the boundaries would lie, what we'd each like to take away from the experience, and how we feel about our relationship to each other.

I think the most important thing about sex between more than two people (and this applies to sex between just two as well) is open honest communication beforehand AND as things are happening on the part of all parties to be involved. If that can't happen, it's probably gonna suck for at least one if not all of the parties involved.
09/30/2011
eroticmutt eroticmutt
Quote:
Originally posted by emiliaa
I'm curious how many bisexual people out there do not like threesomes. I don't *hate* them, but I find them fairly boring, and I would definitely not go out of my way to seek one out. I prefer intimate connection with a singular person at one ...
I am a bisexual female and enjoy threesomes but prefer two male partners or two females not a mixed group
10/26/2011
JGrey JGrey
I am bi women,i never tried it and don't have desire to... It is more like a porn movie or something... more of a man's fantasy
10/31/2011
pleasurehunter pleasurehunter
I've always been curious about this with male/fem/fem, male/male/fem, and male/male/male
11/03/2011
starklover starklover
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Originally posted by daniel and frances
I love intimacy with one person too, but sometimes it's fun with more too.
Agreed
11/04/2011
freshbananas freshbananas
These answers are super interesting
11/07/2011
mudpie mudpie
I've had some really positive experiences with threesomes, but I think it can definitely go bad. My most positive experiences were with a heterosexual couple who I was sleeping with semi-regularly for a while. The most important part of that dynamic was that we were all friends first before we started sleeping together. That made a BIG difference, because we all felt comfortable communicating, which took the awkward out of the situation. Instead of worrying about leaving somebody out or being left out, I could just say "What do you want me to do right now?" We would usually all take turns being the one who was focused on, like, two of us would team up to get the third person off until we were all happy. It also helped that the other woman and I were both bi, and the man was straight, so everyone was attracted to everyone else. I had such a fun time and although I never developed romantic feelings for them, it made our friendship so close and comfortable. We don't sleep together anymore because they moved away, but we never had any drama. Yes, the stereotype of "bi people must always want threesomes" pisses me off, but if you're with the right people, it can be a great idea.
11/09/2011
LilMissSub LilMissSub
It's a weird topic for me. I'm in a relationship with a man, and have been for 5 years. We intend to get married and have a son...but I am -not- attracted to other men. I've been physically and emotionally attracted to women for as long as my sexuality started to bloom. I've come across two exceptions in my life, my fiance being one of them.

We've discussed it, he loves the idea and I miss being involved with women but we're having a tough time finding someone. To be honest the ideal for me would be a serious relationship between him, myself, and another women. I have a friend who has that and it's just beautiful, I'm jealous, haha.

It's just finding where to start that's tough.
11/10/2011
NavyDoll87 NavyDoll87
I've had a threesome with two other women and I really enjoyed it.
My husband and I have talked about involving another woman because I'm bisexual and it turns him on, but the timing is never right or it just stays as a fantasy in our heads. We're still young and open to it, but we both agreed that we would be perfectly okay if it never left fantasy land. And it's not something we talk about all the time, so I know it isn't at the forefront of our sex wishes.
11/13/2011
PassionCpl PassionCpl
We're a bi couple. We've had a few threesomes - some have been a little blah but when we've really liked the person and developed a close bond (i.e. she became our g/f) it was wonderful and very romantic.
11/13/2011
Darklyvan Darklyvan
Quote:
Originally posted by emiliaa
I'm curious how many bisexual people out there do not like threesomes. I don't *hate* them, but I find them fairly boring, and I would definitely not go out of my way to seek one out. I prefer intimate connection with a singular person at one ...
My wife is bisexual and we have tried a threesome once and only once. She did not enjoy it because it brought up a feeling of jealousy. Though the feeling was unfounded, since she suggested the threesome and the girl was more into her than me, we chose not to have another. Straight Male
11/13/2011
MyPrettyPower MyPrettyPower
Quote:
Originally posted by emiliaa
I'm curious how many bisexual people out there do not like threesomes. I don't *hate* them, but I find them fairly boring, and I would definitely not go out of my way to seek one out. I prefer intimate connection with a singular person at one ...
I prefer one on one two. Its more intimate and less overwhelming.
12/11/2011
Nazaress Nazaress
I chose "not tried/interested", "bisexual", and "female". My boyfriend and I have talked about having a threesome (but I think I'd like to try a threesome with two other girls the most!).
12/18/2011
shcoo shcoo
I've never had a threesome.
I'm curious, but I think the experience would be too awkward and not enjoyable for me if it actually happened. I only completely trust my partner; it would be too difficult to build up that level of trust with someone else and involve them.
01/02/2012
Amelia Stone Amelia Stone
I just had my first mini threesome last night and I have to say as fun as it was it was kind of boring and well there we're other things wrong with it. But it was fun and I want to try again.
02/07/2012
succulenthunny616 succulenthunny616
Quote:
Originally posted by emiliaa
I'm curious how many bisexual people out there do not like threesomes. I don't *hate* them, but I find them fairly boring, and I would definitely not go out of my way to seek one out. I prefer intimate connection with a singular person at one ...
true. I was curious at first but after talking to couples it only causes trouble between them. I think it makes it okay to cheat and I am not down with that.
02/19/2012
corsetsaurus rex corsetsaurus rex
I've been in a threesome as a center and have to say I was a bit too overstimulated by all the limbs and goings-on to really enjoy it as much as I do one-on-one sex. That being said, it was an experience worth having; I'm just not sure I'd do it again.
02/24/2012
SaraU29 SaraU29
Sounds fun.....
02/24/2012
richsam richsam
Quote:
Originally posted by emiliaa
I'm curious how many bisexual people out there do not like threesomes. I don't *hate* them, but I find them fairly boring, and I would definitely not go out of my way to seek one out. I prefer intimate connection with a singular person at one ...
have never tried and never want to try a threesome
02/25/2012
SparkleRox SparkleRox
I think I'd be curious about having a threesome if I were the center of attention. I can't imagine being at a point where myself, my partner, and another person were all on the same wavelength about it though, and that would really be important for me. Everyone's gotta know what they expect/want out of the situation. Which can be difficult enough for just two people, in my experience! But you never know what could happen, and obviously YMMV!
02/26/2012
MimiPhryxus MimiPhryxus
I enjoy and am a Bi Female

I've had threesomes with my husband and my ex gf and our current one. I love them and find that if i haven't had one in a while i tend to fantasize about them and crave them actually. We all take care to pay attention to each other's needs each time and make sure everyone is satisfied emotionally and physically.
02/28/2012
LAndJ LAndJ
I'm curious, but don't know that I'd actually go through with it.
02/28/2012
MR Chickhabit MR Chickhabit
threesomes foursomes and more.

sex is like chocolate in that way: its great all by itself, but only gets better with more flavors mixed in.
02/29/2012
Lizzy Lizzy
3somes
03/01/2012
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