Why Be Bisexual

Mickey Mickey
Why be bisexual when, is it because you want a three-some or what.
08/30/2010
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Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
Being bisexual is a not exactly a conscious decision -- it is just a sexual attraction to both sexes. The person not only is aroused by men, but s/he is also aroused by women.

If you want a three-some, you are not necessarily bisexual. For example, a straight woman could have a threesome by engaging in sex with two men (you can apply this same situation to a straight man with two women) and a gay woman could have a threesome with two other women (you can apply this same situation to three gay men). Being bisexual and wanting a threesome don't necessarily have anything to do with each other.
08/30/2010
sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
Being bisexual is not just a sexual attraction to both sexes! It's an emotional attraction. I don't consider myself bisexual, but I have seen the other side. I have experienced bisexualism. I dated a female. It's not just about sex or threesomes. Because you're bisexual does not mean you will even have a threesome! Bisexual people can stick with one sex or the other at a time! They have the ability to be monogamous also. In my experience, loving a woman is so much different than loving a man. They are more emotionally attached. There seemed to be more cuddling and hand holding than with a man. It just all depends on so many things. Not just sex.
08/30/2010
Jenn (aka kissmykitty) Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
While I'm not bisexual myself, I hope I can speak for those who are--

Being bisexual is not about threesomes or group sex (though it can if you want it to be). It's simply about being attracted to members of both sexes. What's the big deal with that?
08/30/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
I have to comment, also, although I am not Bi. Straight people can enjoy threesomes, or foursomes or any combination, and it doesn't make them Bi. Being naked in the same room with someone doesn't make you GLBT.

Also, I know a number of Bisexual people and many of them have NEVER had a threesome. They are sexually attracted to all genders, and are able to have Life Partner quality relationships with all genders.

It isn't something one can choose to be or not be.
08/30/2010
verbalized verbalized
I'm not bisexual, however, I believe it more than likely about being attracted to both sexes. Correct me if I am wrong, but I don't think it's about threesomes, etc.
08/30/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
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Originally posted by Selective Sensualist
Being bisexual is a not exactly a conscious decision -- it is just a sexual attraction to both sexes. The person not only is aroused by men, but s/he is also aroused by women.

If you want a three-some, you are not necessarily bisexual. For ... More
What I was going to say exactly!
08/30/2010
clp clp
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Originally posted by P'Gell
I have to comment, also, although I am not Bi. Straight people can enjoy threesomes, or foursomes or any combination, and it doesn't make them Bi. Being naked in the same room with someone doesn't make you GLBT.

Also, I know a number ... More
Very eloquent. Thank you, P'Gell. I was about to lose my cool.
08/30/2010
*Buzzing~bunny* *Buzzing~bunny*
I don't think you have to be BIsexual to have a threesome or group sex.
sometimes it's hard to tell a person that I'M bisexual because of what i hear."they are unfaithful they are unkind and don't care about your feelings" and so on and so on the list is a mile long,I am so fearful that a person would think that of me with out even knowing who i am. it hurts a lot. I would not feel right lying to my partner or my friends and myself and my family . i can not stand it when a person say's he/she is bisexual, gay, lesbian or gender queer, just to get away with the fact that they are cheating with someone. not saying that having a threesome or group sex or being a swinger is bad, just don't use someone's lifestyle as a excuse
to disguise their true personality (being freaky in the sheets) . it is hard enough being any gender. everyone suffers when one person does wrong. so to make problems worse you use this. i mean we already have men and women competing against each other for everything. why add to the confusion.
08/31/2010
Trashley Trashley
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Originally posted by clp
Very eloquent. Thank you, P'Gell. I was about to lose my cool.
I was about to lose my cool too, man! I love being a bisexual, but I hate when people think bisexual means that I'm "greedy" or "selfish" or "slutty." I don't want more people than anyone else or am so desperate that I have to switch sexes. I find love despite the gender boundaries, because I think your head and heart is what matters, not your junk (even if I do love what both sets can do :])
09/02/2010
Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
I don't think anyone -- other than the person who started this discussion and has not even bothered to acknowledge the responses -- is even remotely implying that to be bisexual equates to a desire to be polygamous. Every single person who has posted in response to this discussion prompt has tried to dispel this rude and thoughtless assertion.

I found this discussion post to be offensive, but I tried to very simply clarify that one's sexual orientation is COMPLETELY EXCLUSIVE of one's desire to engage in a threesome. Anyone of ANY sexual persuasion could choose to either be monogamous or polygamous -- or even celibate, for that matter. A person's sexual persuasion has absolutely nothing to do with his or her desire to be monogamous, polygamous, or celibate. I guess that did not come across somehow in my original post.
09/02/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Selective Sensualist
I don't think anyone -- other than the person who started this discussion and has not even bothered to acknowledge the responses -- is even remotely implying that to be bisexual equates to a desire to be polygamous. Every single person who has ... More
I think that people were getting angry about the original question, Selective, your post was accurate and well said. I am not bisexual nor are either of my lifepartners but I have and will again have threesomes that are MMF as well as MFF. A person's sexuality has nothing to do with wanting more than one person in your bed at once.
Bisexuality is the ability, and desire to love both men and women regardless of your gender. That's all it is.
09/18/2010
Madeira Madeira
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Originally posted by Mickey
Why be bisexual when, is it because you want a three-some or what.
I'm not bisexual personally, I'm a somewhat flexible lesbian, but um, like most sexualities, because you were born that way.
09/18/2010
NightNight NightNight
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I think that people were getting angry about the original question, Selective, your post was accurate and well said. I am not bisexual nor are either of my lifepartners but I have and will again have threesomes that are MMF as well as MFF. A ... More
I think you mean to say a person's sexual orientation? Because a person's sexuality could definitely have something to do with wanting more than one person in their bed.
09/18/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by NightNight
I think you mean to say a person's sexual orientation? Because a person's sexuality could definitely have something to do with wanting more than one person in their bed.
Yup, sexual orientation or sexual preference, both would work. I am not Bi but I love threesomes and moresomes...with or without other women. I have known many bisexual people who thought I was absolutely crazy to want threesomes.

Definitely a person's sexuality would have quite a lot to do with whether they enjoy or desire group sex.
09/19/2010
Sir Sir
Not at all. Bisexuality, like being homosexual or heterosexual, is not a choice that someone makes.
09/19/2010
Jenniae09 Jenniae09
I am a bisexual NOT by choice. When I fall in love with someone they don't have to be of a certain gender I have fallen for more females, but dated more males but have had some on both sides.
Sadly I've had a lot of people believe the judgement that I am bisexual meaning I want threesomes. When my partner brings that up to me it's an instant mood kill and break up. Sure they can suggest it, but do not automatically assume it because you think getting with me will score you "two hot chicks making out in front of you in bed."
09/19/2010
SiNn SiNn
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Originally posted by Mickey
Why be bisexual when, is it because you want a three-some or what.
Being Bi sexual isnt just aboy the act of sex its more of the beauty of consenting adults who embrace thebody and sex as it was intended not some run of the mill romp shouldnt Look down on what you dont understand
10/08/2010
CutiePatootie CutiePatootie
These responses are interesting.... I started off having threesomes with the "you only live once" idea and also assuming I would never end up with the boyfriend I was "experimenting" with girls with. Obviously, he was all for it. 6ish years later, we're married and I went through a process of,
"I'm straight but I have sex with women sometimes with my man" then
"I'm bi-curious, I like both sexs, emotionally and physcially but I prefer men" to
"I'm bi, I think if I was in a situation where we got a divorce (doubt that'll ever happen) I would try dating women too.
I think the older I get the more my mind changes about various things, but for now, we do just have threesomes with another female and it's part of our relationship and we love it.
10/14/2010
SXEKAT SXEKAT
It wasn't my choice or idea that I wanted both men and women. It came naturally. I respect both the male and female body and there differences. To me in a relationship with either I find them the same looks and personality wise. I don't choose to be bisexual to have multiple lovers at a time. I'm bisexual cause I love the human body. I don't know if thats a good reason but I feel it is.
10/31/2010
kermi91 kermi91
Sexual orientation is hardly a conscious choice. Having threesomes, however, is a conscious choice that's made by hetero/homo/bisexuals alike. To imply that someone would chose to be bi-sexual simply to engage in a practice that occurs with everyone is slightly ridiculous, but highlights a common misconception that a lot of people have. Bisexuals aren't "greedy" or incapable of making a choice because again it isn't a matter of choice. It's a physical/emotional/sex ual attraction to both sexes.

Threesomes happen for all types of reasons and between various combinations of sexes. Three women can have a threesome just as easily as two women and one man or two men and one woman, etc. Just because you have an attraction to both sexes, however, doesn't inherently imply that you will ever participate in a threesome.
11/15/2010
lemony lemony
Of course, I base all the decisions I make on whether or not it may lead to a threesome. Hmm...do I go with the red shirt or the blue shirt today...which one may lead me to have a threesome?
11/26/2010
Lady Neshamah Lady Neshamah
I am attracted to both or all sexes. Even trans. For me, it's very much a part of who I am and what I am attracted to and love.

It has nothing to do with threesomes, even though I have had more than a few. But when I am in the mood to be with a woman, that's what I am wanting. When I am in the mood for a man, it's going to be a man that is with me.

Plan and simple.
11/28/2010
Tart Tart
I am bisexual because women turn me on just as much, and sometimes even more than men. I like that I can be open to experiment with any gender I choose, and fall in love with who ever I want to fall in love with. I find it freeing and exciting.
12/08/2010
beautifulpierced beautifulpierced
i find both men and women physically and emotionally attractive. And i love boobies. LOL.. I love the way a mans body looks and I equally appreciate a woman's body, the curves and contours it has. I feel I have a more emotional connection with men than I do women because the women I have been with tend to be catty and argumentative. If someone asks my orientation i say bi-sexual but in all reality im Try sexual. ill try anything sexual once to see if i like it. More if i do!!
12/08/2010
darkkitty darkkitty
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Originally posted by Mickey
Why be bisexual when, is it because you want a three-some or what.
I cant help whom or what I am attracted to. Why limit myself?!
12/08/2010
mariah mariah
umm what does this even mean? i live in portand and it seems like EVERYONE is bi sexual..sooo... idk? its just becuse.. some people like . boys and girls.. like if they see a boy they like.. they date them.. but then they break up.. then they see a girl they like then date them to! its just... idk.. why would you even ask that? haha sorry this makes no sense to me...
12/08/2010
mariah mariah
i really dont understand this question at all.. i guess im feeling judged? becuse all my friends are bi.. im not.. but ALOT of people are.. and saying they just want a three some.. its like.. saying im only stright cuz i want a dick in me...
12/08/2010
pinkzombie pinkzombie
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Originally posted by Mickey
Why be bisexual when, is it because you want a three-some or what.
I like what I like and I am not going to deny myself
12/18/2010
null null
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Originally posted by P'Gell
I have to comment, also, although I am not Bi. Straight people can enjoy threesomes, or foursomes or any combination, and it doesn't make them Bi. Being naked in the same room with someone doesn't make you GLBT.

Also, I know a number ... More
Very well put. I could not have explained it better.
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