Gold Star Lesbians: what about trans* individuals?

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Gold Star Lesbians: what about trans* individuals?

nori nori
Hey!

Just a quick question of the eden community. I consider myself a gold star lesbian- Since I have never had sex with a male identified individual.

For some people, the fact that one of my previous partners was a transwoman no longer makes me a gold-star.

What do you guys think?
Can you still be a 'Gold star' lesbian (Or gay man!) If one of your partners identified as trans?
09/23/2013
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nori nori
I posted this in the incorrect subcatagory! This was supposed to go into Trans* Issues - my apologies.
09/23/2013
matbug matbug
I think the whole concept of gold star lesbians to be really shaming and gross to be honest. But in answer to your question, a trans woman is still a woman, so you are still a "gold star lesbian" if you like that term. Anyone who says otherwise is a transphobic arsehole.
11/08/2013
friendswithfangs friendswithfangs
yeah i agree with matbug completely. aside from the fact that obviously if you've only had sex with female-identified people then you havent had sex with a man, WHO CARES. the whole goldstar lesbian thing is a super grody idea to be prided for. stupid.
11/10/2013
gothikstars gothikstars
I agree with the previous posters: the gold start thing is gross. Who's keeping score anyway? If it makes you feel better to call yourself a gold star lesbian, then do it. But don't let your value as a person reflect on a silly term.
Jan 1, 5:51 pm
Vagiscrumptious Vagiscrumptious
Quote:
Originally posted by nori
Hey!

Just a quick question of the eden community. I consider myself a gold star lesbian- Since I have never had sex with a male identified individual.

For some people, the fact that one of my previous partners was a transwoman no ...
Agree with the others that I don't see why it matters and its frankly pretty offensive. What if you've never been with a man by choice but were raped, does THAT make you somehow less of a lesbian?

I know the LGBT community can be so much judgemental than it should be about so many things (like dear gosh I can't tell you how many times I have been completely ignored in a bar or the LGBT community center or even friggin pride because I don't "look like a lesbian" or even had people openly express complete surprise in those kinds of environments to hear I'm gay. And then oh to be a femme who is generally into other femme women, apparently that's not supposed to happen either...) but gosh, how is it we are begging for equality if we judge on so many insane stupid levels about gender expression, attraction, who we've slept with or loved? Why is it okay for LGBT folks to judge other LGBT folks but if a hetero person judges one of us for the same darn things that's discrimination?

The fact that one of your previous partners was a Trans woman is nobodies business but yours and hers.
Oct 9, 5:20 pm
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