I officially came out February-March ish and have been with my lovely, lovely girlfriend for a month and a half. Sexual experience as me? Not yet. But we kiss and cuddle! We've discussed it, though... I mean, we aren't gonna do it RIGHT NOW. But since I'm a noob and she's a gentleman-in-female-fo rm, we were casually talking about our comfort levels with sex n such. We don't like to do stuff unless both of us consent, y'know?
Is there an option for "Still Haven't?"
I consider myself to be bisexual, but I'm in a committed monogamous relationship, and I don't see that changing anytime soon. (We're tying the knot in 8 months!) So I don't know if I'll ever have a real experience with another woman. And right now, I'm okay with that.
I'm a little different, I'm a gay transsexual, it took me until I was 13 to start experimenting with my gender identity, and until 16 to come out. I always knew that I was attracted to males, but I didn't like being considered straight and I couldn't understand why for a while. I wasn't out to my first boyfriend, but everyone after that I was. But, I didn't have sex until I was 19, I wasn't comfortable with sex until I met my current partner who fully accepts me as I am.
I feel like I've generally known my sexuality for a long time, that it wasn't straight, since I was like 5. At the same time, I feel like settling on a sexual label is something that's constantly evolving for me, so I feel like in some ways I've already had a queer sexual encounter (for lack of ever thinking I'll have a ~same-sex one~~) without "knowing" my sexual identity. ("Knowing" meaning knowing something fixed/ set, which in turn makes me question what it means to know/ why I am treating it like knowledge is set, but idk.. You can know something about yourself for a while, then it's no longer a truth later on. Very difficult to say, for me)
How long did it take you, after you realized your sexuality, to have your first same sex sexual experience?
Hind sight is 20 20, and looking back there were signs from the time I was in elementary school. Despite that, I tried to be straight because I thought I would disappoint my dad.
I went to a gay bar in Jax Fl with my gay friends as a fruit fly, and proceeded to get hit on by an attractive mixed girl. We made out and from then on I KNEW!! This was in 2006.
I slept with a girl shortly after this, and we dated for a while.
After that, I tried to be straight a few more times thinking it was a phase, until I had my first serious relationship with a girl. I have not looked back since.