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Contributor: Katie Douglas Katie Douglas
So ive been married to a great guy and am completely happy but i want more.

when i was in middle school i had two different girlfriends ( separate times) at first it was sleep over with a little spooning, but as i got older i started getting turned on when it was bedtime and i could tell the first one i had, anna, was too, so one night were spooning and i turn over to face her, boobs touching legs wrapped around each other( it was a small bed) her hand slipped from under he pillow and landed on my breast she got nervous and apologized and i said its okay it can stay there, and bam its on .

so now its been quite a few years later i havent had a female relationship in years, like i said married now. Ive told my husband that i want a female relationship just like a fuck buddy on the side and he says he doesnt care as long as it sjust women, no other men. but for some reason i just dont trust that he would be completely kosher with it. We both work alot and opposite shifts so we only see each other like 3 hours every day it doesnt help that we dont even have any days off together!

Anyhow, my question is should i persue trying to find a play mate?
03/07/2014
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Contributor: Andykh Andykh
go for it but be careful not to ruin ur marriage because of it
07/06/2014
Contributor: Gr8tmommy Gr8tmommy
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Originally posted by Katie Douglas
So ive been married to a great guy and am completely happy but i want more.

when i was in middle school i had two different girlfriends ( separate times) at first it was sleep over with a little spooning, but as i got older i started getting ... more
Just because it is a woman doesn't mean you may not fall in love. You wouldn't be the first woman to fall in love with another woman while in a heterosexual marriage. Having a chance to "play" may answer a lot of questions for you, but you need to continue to communicate what is going on with your husband. FULL disclosure,
07/16/2014
Contributor: TexasBrat TexasBrat
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Originally posted by Gr8tmommy
Just because it is a woman doesn't mean you may not fall in love. You wouldn't be the first woman to fall in love with another woman while in a heterosexual marriage. Having a chance to "play" may answer a lot of questions for you, ... more
I know this is an older post, but I'm going back and reading to update myself on as much as I can.

Personally, I think that more relationships have this happen than most people would admit.

Say it's curiosity, or maybe you're bisexual, either way, it's there.
I will have to agree, you must keep open communication.

Many men would think that it's ok, since there's no other man, some wouldn't really consider it cheating......unless you fell in love with the woman, and then they'll change their minds. Sex with someone other than your spouse is not "forsaking all others", and can cause issues, no matter how much the other one says it won't (unless you're open swingers, and even then it can when feelings get involved).

Remember, women are more emotional creatures, usually, and usually have emotions come up when we're intimate with someone.
07/18/2016
Contributor: Gr8pumpkin Gr8pumpkin
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Originally posted by TexasBrat
I know this is an older post, but I'm going back and reading to update myself on as much as I can.

Personally, I think that more relationships have this happen than most people would admit.

Say it's curiosity, or maybe ... more
As a former shift worker, I can symphasize with the lack of together time you speak of. My previous relationships all suffered in the bedroom because of the simple lack of available time to get amorous. It is interesting how your prior same sex experiences unfolded. I feel that females often find themselves in similar situations. It may be partially because girls are just more comfortable hugging or getting close physically than guys. It is much more common to hear of girls having sleepovers or pajama parties then boys. Also, when you think of it, monogamy is an un-natural model in most of the animal world, so if you find yourself a playmate that may be just normal. Given that, I would be remiss to not mention that any sexual relationship outside your married life is fraught with chances for blowing up that union. I think many men secretly fantasize about having their SO getting freaky with another female, myself included. So if you want to be sure beyond question that any dalliance will not trash your main relationship.
07/21/2016
Contributor: LoveTois LoveTois
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Originally posted by Katie Douglas
So ive been married to a great guy and am completely happy but i want more.

when i was in middle school i had two different girlfriends ( separate times) at first it was sleep over with a little spooning, but as i got older i started getting ... more
yes, but to not make him feel left maybe extend and invitation, even if you don't want him to have sex with another women, maybe have him watch, make him feel included somehow and if he says "no",then have your play toy, but don't fall for them or over do it, in fear you lose your husband
07/24/2016