Penis Envy?

Sweet-Justice Sweet-Justice
Ok so I'm a pansexual women, and I'm in a relationship with another women. I constantly get told I merely have penis envy by people that don't approve of my "Lesbian Ways". Do you Believe penis envy is really something that exists? Or just bull.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Its Real I Have it(But I don't Want a Sex Change)
10  (16%)
Its Real I Have it(And I do want a Sex change)
2  (3%)
I would have it if I could have both
5  (8%)
Its not Real
25  (40%)
I think that either way its an insult to Transgendered People.
9  (15%)
Other
11  (18%)
Total votes: 62
Poll is closed
10/25/2011
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Kitka Kitka
I think it's ridiculous that people feel the need to utter things such as that. Why can't we all be more accepting of each other and just be happy that they're happy together regardless of gender, orientation, etc.?
10/26/2011
Beck Beck
I think that it is real and I totally have it. I do not think it is at all related to being a lesbian. I think most woman have it. We all wonder what it would be like to have one. Just like men wonder what it would be like to have a vagina.

I do think that envy is not the right wording.
10/26/2011
eroticmutt eroticmutt
Quote:
Originally posted by Sweet-Justice
Ok so I'm a pansexual women, and I'm in a relationship with another women. I constantly get told I merely have penis envy by people that don't approve of my "Lesbian Ways". Do you Believe penis envy is really something that exists? Or just bull.
I personally DO wish I could have a penis- yes I have penis envy really badly, but I wouldn't want to be a man- I love my feminine body and would really miss my vagina! If both were an option though I would totally go for it.
10/26/2011
chicken12 chicken12
People who say that don't understand what penis envy is (or supposed to be).

Freud conjured up penis envy as a way to explain the female-child side of his psycho-sexual stage theory.

According to Freud, little boys decide to follow the footsteps of their father because they're attracted to their mother. However, they can't overthrow Dad, so they just decide to be like him. If Dad can get a woman like Mom, then Son can if he acts like Dad.

Freud's theory for girls was a little bit different. He thought that little girls wanted to have sex with their fathers because they would obtain penises this way, and penises were considered signs of power. They couldn't get to Dad because Mom was in the way, so they acted like Mom to get to a man like Dad.


The theory is ridiculous, in my opinion, and most psychologists have written it off. Someone even came up with the theory of "womb envy" that men must have because they can't conceive children as a point of showing how silly it was.

So really, lesbianism would be the antithesis of penis envy because the actions of lesbians don't get them any closer to penises.
10/27/2011
Girly Girl Girly Girl
i don´t know
10/27/2011
Rawhide Rawhide
I don't know of anyone who has it (or would admit it if they did)

Personally, I like having a cock when it's on, but I also like taking it off when I'm done. It's about function- I can have all the function without the organ, so there is nothing to envy.
10/27/2011
Discreet Lover Discreet Lover
I don't think it's real.
10/28/2011
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
Sometimes I think it would be cool to have a penis but I don't think I'd want one long term.
10/31/2011
nori nori
I think i'm more curious about the sensations, than actual envy.
10/31/2011
zz1aag zz1aag
Quote:
Originally posted by Sweet-Justice
Ok so I'm a pansexual women, and I'm in a relationship with another women. I constantly get told I merely have penis envy by people that don't approve of my "Lesbian Ways". Do you Believe penis envy is really something that exists? Or just bull.
we always want what we cant have.
11/01/2011
PassionCpl PassionCpl
Quote:
Originally posted by Kitka
I think it's ridiculous that people feel the need to utter things such as that. Why can't we all be more accepting of each other and just be happy that they're happy together regardless of gender, orientation, etc.?
Agreed!
11/10/2011
vanillaSpice vanillaSpice
Quote:
Originally posted by chicken12
People who say that don't understand what penis envy is (or supposed to be).

Freud conjured up penis envy as a way to explain the female-child side of his psycho-sexual stage theory.

According to Freud, little boys decide to follow ... More
Freud had some issues, penis envy is ridiculous, and this is almost entirely tangential, but as far as "womb envy" goes... from what I remember of learning about the ancient Greeks they actually had something kinda like this going - it drove them nuts that they ultimately needed women to have children. Kind of puts Athena's origin story in a different light.

But yeah, penis envy is ridiculous, and people telling you it's why you'd be in a relationship with another woman is just stupid.
11/13/2011
LilMissSub LilMissSub
Don't get me started of Freudian theories. That man was crazy...even though he's technically the father of psychology, but only because of the fact that people took his research and built off of it.

Read the wiki on it, it's insane: link

There is a section in the wiki page that says that penis envy applies to female attraction to females, but that's silly. I mean I agree with the concept of being born with a sexuality and environment progressing that, but 'wanting a penis' is...ridiculous, and the steps in penis envy and getting over it is...weird. I don't want to do my mother or my father...ick.
11/13/2011
AmberM AmberM
i'm undecided.
11/14/2011
jessi2 jessi2
it is not real. I am in no way attracted to a real penis, but when my partner wears a purple dildo, I am totally turned on. I also love feeling her wet vagina rather than a penis. I love the feeling of insertion, but I get to choose size, shape and color!
11/14/2011
RavenWolf88 RavenWolf88
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Originally posted by eroticmutt
I personally DO wish I could have a penis- yes I have penis envy really badly, but I wouldn't want to be a man- I love my feminine body and would really miss my vagina! If both were an option though I would totally go for it.
Same here.
11/27/2011
Big Dog Big Dog
I'll give you mine. It's a pain in the neck.
03/09/2012
Faeya Faeya
Quote:
Originally posted by Sweet-Justice
Ok so I'm a pansexual women, and I'm in a relationship with another women. I constantly get told I merely have penis envy by people that don't approve of my "Lesbian Ways". Do you Believe penis envy is really something that exists? Or just bull.
I wish I could've voted for more than one option...honestly, if I could have both a penis and a vagina (or if I could find a way to switch between them...Detatchable Penis anyone?) I would definitely do so. However, I also agree with the poll option that the phrase itself is kind of insulting to trans* people. It's not penis envy. I don't envy people with penises. I would just like to experience it for myself.
03/09/2012
Lizzy Lizzy
Doubtful. Would be fun to shoot on bf's face a few times though. Just so he knows what it's like. haha hope he doesn't see this.
03/14/2012
wildorchid wildorchid
Quote:
Originally posted by Lizzy
Doubtful. Would be fun to shoot on bf's face a few times though. Just so he knows what it's like. haha hope he doesn't see this.
Haha, I'm sorry, I think this is great! No offense meant to anyone at all.
03/14/2012
Mia.The.Wonder.Slut Mia.The.Wonder.Slut
Not trying to be rude, but it's "transgender people" not "transgenderED" people.
03/17/2012
TheParrishism TheParrishism
I am transgender so that is a little different situation.
03/18/2012
Apirka Apirka
Don't think it is real. Sure, I'd like to have a dick just to see what it would be like to have sex with one or to jack off. But only for a day, I don't want one all the time.
03/26/2012
sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
Everyone just needs a hug and quit trying to put others down.
03/27/2012
Caus Caus
I think the term "penis envy" dismisses the gender dysphoria a lot of individuals go through. I tend not to take anything that people who disapprove of other people's personal/private business not very seriously or disregard what they say altogether.
03/27/2012
tigertiger tigertiger
Quote:
Originally posted by Sweet-Justice
Ok so I'm a pansexual women, and I'm in a relationship with another women. I constantly get told I merely have penis envy by people that don't approve of my "Lesbian Ways". Do you Believe penis envy is really something that exists? Or just bull.
holy shit how freudian. that is such an old-school line of thinking i didn't think ANYONE still believed that, but it's totally debunked so
03/28/2012
Tangles Tangles
"Penis Envy" I believe is how people who know very little about the queer community try to explain lesbians/transmen who like women. They can't understand how someone could like someone else of the same sex, so they try to rationalize it by saying that they just want to be men.
04/01/2012
XYCopperheadSly XYCopperheadSly
I have it sometimes, but not all (or most) of the time.
04/02/2012
c90 c90
I'm not sure on this, but weren't transgender men not recognized at the time "penis envy" was thought up?
Because I think that would explain it pretty well
05/31/2012
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