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I would like to know some coming out stories for gender variant people, and how your family/friends/coworke rs responded. I think it's interesting to read about people's different experiences.
I'm from the midwest (Nebraska, to be exact), and though I'm from one of the more populated regions, genderqueer isn't a term that many there are familiar with. When I started dating a trans guy my Mum freaked out a lot, probably because I had spent my early childhood and adolescence begging for racecars, to join the Hockey League and Boy Scouts.
I still haven't told her that I'm gender-queer, simply because it would likely change nothing. She wouldn't understand it and wouldn't likely respect a gender neutral pronoun. Besides, I'm certain she knows and is praying I don't ever start HRT. I've asked some of my friends back home what they think of gender neutral pronouns and much of their reactions have been adversary. They just "think it's silly" or unnecessary.
While I appreciate, respect and hold in high-esteem those that done these pronouns for themselves, I'm hard pressed not be culturally inclined to agree--in part--with my peers back home. I'm fortunate to attend a college that recognizes gender variance. In fact, coming here was the first time I was introduced to the concept of gender neutral pronouns. Thus, though I identify as gender neutral, I still go by female pronouns.
Perhaps in the future this will change. But as I believe much of language and perception is relative regardless, it just hasn't bothered me to a point I feel I need to assert my identity as such.
What about your experience?