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How did you know?

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When did you realize being Trans wasn't a "phase" or something temporary? How did you realize that it was you, a part of who you are?

I still struggle with doubt (because I'm pretty damned pessimistic) and I still question the validity of my own feelings. I try to logically reason things out and when that fails... I'm almost completely lost. Yeah something tells me it's right that it's me but I still doubt >_> because I need something I can mull over and compare and study in my mind besides just intuition.

So I'm curious if anyone else faced these problems and if so, or anything similar, how you overcame them?
03/28/2012
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Chirple Chirple
It wasn't until a few days ago that I felt completely sure.

My boyfriend and I stopped dating (we're still BFFs, nothing bad), and it made me really examine what I wanted from life.

It wasn't just that moment, but that was the biggest "switch". I knew it before, but in a relationship I became complacent and didn't think about such things as much. I let it be too much of my happiness and let it take over for some of my own problems, let it be a band-aid.

I knew it years before, but wasn't in a position to do anything and no one "believed" me back than, so I put it aside and tried to do what I could on my own.

The thing that cut into me the most was that I thought it was really odd, the idea of living a double life - a lie - and then I realised that's what I was doing.


It's okay to question, and to question for as long as you need to. If you can find a good therapist (since you need one to start HRT and such, anyway - if that's what you think you'd want), they can help you examine things in perhaps a more productive way, to help you find a conclusion naturally, but faster than you may have on your own.
03/29/2012
Voir Voir
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Originally posted by Chirple
It wasn't until a few days ago that I felt completely sure.

My boyfriend and I stopped dating (we're still BFFs, nothing bad), and it made me really examine what I wanted from life.

It wasn't just that moment, but that was ...
I've done the same with a relationship, used it as a mask to hide behind. Mine didn't turn out so well though, I was done and he wasn't so I had to be a bit harsh. (more than a bit actually I had to block his phone number x_x)


I've considered a therapist but that might also have to wait until I move out... my parents are highly conservative about things and they would NOT take the news well. At all. I've dropped generalized comments about the topic as a general subject and my dad was pretty scathing.

I've also done a bit research about resources in my area and there are next to none. Even groups I managed to look up don't seem to exist anymore. The only health center is about 3 hours away so I'll probably have to whittle a way through a general therapist. =o=

What was it about realizing you were living a double life that made you sure? It was just... kinda a realization that made sense? I've felt as though I were two separate people sometimes, two people that want two very different things... but that could just be me over analyzing. x_x
03/29/2012
TheParrishism TheParrishism
I realized that it wasn't a phase because, as time went on, my feelings never changed. They were extremely consistent, even getting a little worse.

But just because you are trans doesn't mean you have to transition.
04/04/2012
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