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so I myself am simply a boring old bisexual female mind body and soul. when I was looking for roommates I specifically put LGBQT friendly in the ad. It's september 6th and I'm sitting outside with my IPAD and I start sharing an interesting
so I myself am simply a boring old bisexual female mind body and soul. when I was looking for roommates I specifically put LGBQT friendly in the ad. It's september 6th and I'm sitting outside with my IPAD and I start sharing an interesting article on female to male gender reassignment surgery. My roommate gets this weird look on his face like hes going to be sick or get mad. so I ask if he's uncomfortable and would like me to change the subject. he then informs me that Trans is just "wrong" and people "need to accept who they are at birth and not focus on simple 'wants' instead of needs and truths" do I even have to begin to explain what threw me about this? he then went on to talk about how he had to accept himself with all of his faults and wished that his family had been more accepting (he didn't tell me what the faults were) of them (more open minded perhaps?) i countered with "well who's to say whether it should be our minds or our bodies that should be changed?" "people spens so much time trying to change their minds, why not their bodies?"
anyway I'm writing this post because I need some advice. this issue is VERY important to me. Most of all because it is a major symbol of how important it is to me to be around openminded accepting people. what do I say next? how do i stop this from becoming an issue, hold my ground and yet remain amicable?
I suggest having a long conversation with him. Find out what kinds of experiences he's had and how that's influenced his views. Some people are ignorant but kind-hearted. Maybe showing him some trans-positive information or sharing your knowledge about the entire trans spectrum can expand his universe. Maybe just ask what's so wrong with being trans.
Maybe after the end of a long conversation about understanding and autonomy over our own bodies, he is being close-minded and mean. In that case, why live with the guy?
People don't have to have every single thing in common in order to live together. It depends on how strongly you feel about trans* issues what your reaction should be - and how respectful he is about his perspective.
If you have trans* friends, though, it'd be mean to them to foster an environment where they may be put in a position to be insulted or demeaned by your house.