I'm not sure
Would you stay with your wife/husband if they chose to get a sex change?
08/25/2011
Also, I just have to say, if someone goes the route of surgery or even social transition, it's not because it's a choice.
09/03/2011
I think my partner would make a beautiful woman.
I know that's not what I'm supposed to say here, but looking at him now- at the lines of his face, the fall of his hair, picturing it longer, his smooth hands manicured, the start of hips and breasts and the other changes that come from transitioning- I think she'd be beautiful, and that I would fall in love all over again with her.
I can't see him making the choice. He's comfortable with being referred to as male and prefers male pronouns, though the core of his gender identity is "I'm me", laced with confusion over why gender matters and what male and female really are. But if he did choose to transition, I would support him through it.
I know that's not what I'm supposed to say here, but looking at him now- at the lines of his face, the fall of his hair, picturing it longer, his smooth hands manicured, the start of hips and breasts and the other changes that come from transitioning- I think she'd be beautiful, and that I would fall in love all over again with her.
I can't see him making the choice. He's comfortable with being referred to as male and prefers male pronouns, though the core of his gender identity is "I'm me", laced with confusion over why gender matters and what male and female really are. But if he did choose to transition, I would support him through it.
09/12/2011
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Sad, isn't it, that some would not continue to accept their partner.
Originally posted by
Diabolical Kitty
Wow, the answers have really shocked me. I didn't realize that people wouldn't be supportive enough.
Although I am encouraged that there are those who do claim that they would be supportive. My view is that I love the person not the plumbing.
My own partner is mtf and I believe that if she decided to go back to "m" I would still be her partner.
09/25/2011
Sure I would. As stated by others one falls in love with the mind and soul not the parts.
10/02/2011
I would say it would have depend on how important sex specifically was in our lives. I'm a straight female, I'm not interested in doing sexual things with a woman. So if sex was a big part of our marriage, I don't think I could stay with them. However if sex wasn't a big thing at all between us, then of course I would stay with them.. I think.
10/18/2011
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This for sure!
Originally posted by
XzombehxbearzX
Wait what? What is wrong with your loved one getting to the person they are meant to be they were born to be? IF and might I say IF! If your wife/husband realize they are transgender its not their fault its something from birth. IF your truly in love
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Wait what? What is wrong with your loved one getting to the person they are meant to be they were born to be? IF and might I say IF! If your wife/husband realize they are transgender its not their fault its something from birth. IF your truly in love with them why would you leave them cause they want to become who they where born to be just weren't born in the right body? I thought love is supposed to be for the person on the inside not the outside and physical. What happened to true love for someone with who they are on the inside, why is everything based off physical?
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10/19/2011
I would stay if she (currently he) still wanted me.
10/20/2011
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Though it would be hard since that is what Im going through but yes. For her I would do anything.
Originally posted by
Diabolical Kitty
I want to know if you'd stay with your wife/husband if they chose to get a sex change?
12/06/2011
Probably, but he'd (she?) would have to be willing to open up the relationship. I could not possibly do without cock.
12/06/2011
I would try, but probably not
12/06/2011
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Not a chance. I love my wife, but we would not be together if she had a penis
Originally posted by
Diabolical Kitty
I want to know if you'd stay with your wife/husband if they chose to get a sex change?
12/06/2011
My boyfriend is transitioning and I met him before he identified as male and I have been supportive the whole way, although it is tough.
12/06/2011
No...i married a man!
12/08/2011
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This. This 100 times over. I can't believe some of the people in this thread. If you wouldn't love your partner anymore if they changed sexes, then you don't REALLY love them. Why would you marry someone that you "love" just because they're hot? That's sickening.
Originally posted by
XzombehxbearzX
Wait what? What is wrong with your loved one getting to the person they are meant to be they were born to be? IF and might I say IF! If your wife/husband realize they are transgender its not their fault its something from birth. IF your truly in love
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Wait what? What is wrong with your loved one getting to the person they are meant to be they were born to be? IF and might I say IF! If your wife/husband realize they are transgender its not their fault its something from birth. IF your truly in love with them why would you leave them cause they want to become who they where born to be just weren't born in the right body? I thought love is supposed to be for the person on the inside not the outside and physical. What happened to true love for someone with who they are on the inside, why is everything based off physical?
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12/10/2011
I love my partner, no questions asked. If he came out as transsexual, it would make no difference in how I feel about him/her, even though I'm not sexually attracted to women, I'd STILL be sexually attracted to my partner because they are the SAME person inside. It's so sad to see so many people on here saying that they "love" their partners but wouldn't stay with them just because of a sex change.
I can't believe how much ignorance is in this thread. Nor can I believe how many completely irrelevant questions are being asked, it's a simple question, it has nothing to do with your partner "being a freak" or "cheating" or "wanting someone else" or "becoming someone else". Transsexuality is a curable (surgery) mental disorder that people are born with and DO NOT CHOOSE TO HAVE, not "something that perverts/freaks do because they want to".
I can't believe how much ignorance is in this thread. Nor can I believe how many completely irrelevant questions are being asked, it's a simple question, it has nothing to do with your partner "being a freak" or "cheating" or "wanting someone else" or "becoming someone else". Transsexuality is a curable (surgery) mental disorder that people are born with and DO NOT CHOOSE TO HAVE, not "something that perverts/freaks do because they want to".
12/10/2011
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I agree with most things you said, but there's one thing I have to point out. Many would not agree that transsexuality is a mental disorder - many see it as a physical disorder that is cured through hormones and surgery(ies). I.e. why would it be necessary to say the body was "right" and the mind was "wrong" when the mismatch occurred, which is what mental disorder implies? We could just as easily say the mind is "right" and the body was "wrong" and thus that's the part that will be adjusted. Really, I think there's no right or wrong - just a mismatch of the mind and body and since it's easier to change the body than the mind, that's the one we adjust. Plus, the mind is our ESSENCE, what makes us us, more so than our body and thus it seems more ethical to change the body, not the mind - even if both were possible. This implies it is more ethical to view it as a physical disorder which can be cured through hormones and surgery(ies).
Originally posted by
butts
I love my partner, no questions asked. If he came out as transsexual, it would make no difference in how I feel about him/her, even though I'm not sexually attracted to women, I'd STILL be sexually attracted to my partner because they are the
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I love my partner, no questions asked. If he came out as transsexual, it would make no difference in how I feel about him/her, even though I'm not sexually attracted to women, I'd STILL be sexually attracted to my partner because they are the SAME person inside. It's so sad to see so many people on here saying that they "love" their partners but wouldn't stay with them just because of a sex change.
I can't believe how much ignorance is in this thread. Nor can I believe how many completely irrelevant questions are being asked, it's a simple question, it has nothing to do with your partner "being a freak" or "cheating" or "wanting someone else" or "becoming someone else". Transsexuality is a curable (surgery) mental disorder that people are born with and DO NOT CHOOSE TO HAVE, not "something that perverts/freaks do because they want to". less
I can't believe how much ignorance is in this thread. Nor can I believe how many completely irrelevant questions are being asked, it's a simple question, it has nothing to do with your partner "being a freak" or "cheating" or "wanting someone else" or "becoming someone else". Transsexuality is a curable (surgery) mental disorder that people are born with and DO NOT CHOOSE TO HAVE, not "something that perverts/freaks do because they want to". less
12/10/2011
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I'm bisexual anyway - no big deal to me
Originally posted by
Diabolical Kitty
I want to know if you'd stay with your wife/husband if they chose to get a sex change?
12/10/2011
I would definitely stay. It would open up a whole range of possibilities and I love him regardless of sex or gender.
12/10/2011
i believe I would, but it would be complicated and cant say for certain.
12/10/2011
i'm good with it, and i checked with him and he's good with it too. we could be a couple of gay dudes together and that'd be fine.
12/21/2011
Good question. I'm bi, but a sex change wouldn't really fall under either category for me. I'm a freak; don't get me wrong, but I do want some semblance of a family. A sex change for my girlfriend would make things too complicated for a guy that's already complicated enough.
12/22/2011
Kylie Harris
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Not sure if it's a product of my upbringing or if I'm just really lucky, but I find myself sexually attracted to people rather than genders. Male, female, androgynous or any gender in-between, it's all the same so long as they're still them, and between us we can find a way to pleasure each other.
Originally posted by
Diabolical Kitty
I want to know if you'd stay with your wife/husband if they chose to get a sex change?
12/22/2011
Being bisexual, this wouldn't be a problem at all for me! I'd be able to support him (or should I say her, in this instance?), and still be attracted to my partner! If he ever told me he was actually planning on transitioning, I would need a bit of time to accept it (because of the initial shock) but not long! And he would be in luck, since I have so many friends who are going through or have gone through this, I know every step he would need to take so I could help!
12/22/2011
I'm honestly not sure, but I think I would.
01/14/2012
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There is no reason to insult people. Different people have different needs, different desires and different things they can do. Some of us are hetero and could no more have sex with someone of the same sex than a gay or lesbian person could force themselves to have sex with someone from the opposite sex. Do you think lesbians who refuse to have sex with men are "sickening?" I don't but according to your post, you would.
Originally posted by
butts
This. This 100 times over. I can't believe some of the people in this thread. If you wouldn't love your partner anymore if they changed sexes, then you don't REALLY love them. Why would you marry someone that you "love" just
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This. This 100 times over. I can't believe some of the people in this thread. If you wouldn't love your partner anymore if they changed sexes, then you don't REALLY love them. Why would you marry someone that you "love" just because they're hot? That's sickening.
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Would you feel the same way and be as judgmental of others if a member of a gay or lesbian couple decided to change genders, thus rendering the relationship heterosexual? Now a lesbian woman would have to have sex with a man or a gay man would have to have sex with a woman or they would have to end the relationship. Would they be "sickening" if they ended the relationship because they couldn't force themselves to or enjoy having sex with a member of the opposite sex? How would that be different?
01/24/2012
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.... and this is why I you P'Gell
Originally posted by
P'Gell
There is no reason to insult people. Different people have different needs, different desires and different things they can do. Some of us are hetero and could no more have sex with someone of the same sex than a gay or lesbian person could force
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There is no reason to insult people. Different people have different needs, different desires and different things they can do. Some of us are hetero and could no more have sex with someone of the same sex than a gay or lesbian person could force themselves to have sex with someone from the opposite sex. Do you think lesbians who refuse to have sex with men are "sickening?" I don't but according to your post, you would.
Would you feel the same way and be as judgmental of others if a member of a gay or lesbian couple decided to change genders, thus rendering the relationship heterosexual? Now a lesbian woman would have to have sex with a man or a gay man would have to have sex with a woman or they would have to end the relationship. Would they be "sickening" if they ended the relationship because they couldn't force themselves to or enjoy having sex with a member of the opposite sex? How would that be different? less
Would you feel the same way and be as judgmental of others if a member of a gay or lesbian couple decided to change genders, thus rendering the relationship heterosexual? Now a lesbian woman would have to have sex with a man or a gay man would have to have sex with a woman or they would have to end the relationship. Would they be "sickening" if they ended the relationship because they couldn't force themselves to or enjoy having sex with a member of the opposite sex? How would that be different? less
01/24/2012
I would stay.
01/29/2012
I would love my spouse for more than just their anatomy.
02/15/2012
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I don't know for sure. I think I might.
Originally posted by
Diabolical Kitty
I want to know if you'd stay with your wife/husband if they chose to get a sex change?
02/15/2012