Turned on by muscular guys?

sodapin sodapin
Hey, I wasn't sure whether to put this poll in the trans category or men who like men category, but I'm a trans guy and sometimes I feel slightly turned on by guys with really good looking physiques.

I identify as a straight guy so I'm wondering why this might be and also whether other people have experienced this feeling too.

Because I'm trans, I thought that perhaps it could be that it's a body that I don't have. Basically, I've seen a "female" body (my own) my entire life so male bodies are fairly different and exciting.

I have also been told that in general (not just in trans persons), it's common for people to be turned on or find enjoyment from looking at an ideal image of themselves (for example: muscular men, fashion models, porn etc) because they can imagine how hot it would be to look like that themselves or be in a similar situation.

Finally, it could possibly mean I'm attracted to men, but I personally don't feel like I could get into a relationship with one sexually or romantically :S so I have doubts about this.

Maybe the easiest way to word this is, I'm not sure if I'm turned on because I want to BE that muscular guy or whether it's because I want to BE WITH that muscular guy.

Thanks in advance for your feedback!
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I have also felt this way.
4
I have not felt this way.
2
I think it's because male bodies are more novel to you.
2
I think it's because it naturally turns people on to imagine being their ideal self.
10
I think it's because you may actually be attracted to men.
2
Other (please comment below).
Total votes: 20 (12 voters)
Poll is closed
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hanjonatan hanjonatan
it could be any of those things, i don't think anyone else can really answer that for you. you'll probably figure it out eventually, i wouldn't stress about it if i were you.

but it might be worth considering if it's possible that you are attracted to men on some level but are scared of entering into a relationship with one (or having sex with one) for reasons related to your being trans? obvs i can't say whether or not that's the case for you, and i don't know how far along you are in your transition, but a lot of guys kind of figure out that they're into dudes once they've started transitioning and feel more comfortable with their gender/body/etc.

it also seems likely that it's at least partly to do with wanting to look like those men, though.
09/08/2012
sodapin sodapin
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Originally posted by hanjonatan
it could be any of those things, i don't think anyone else can really answer that for you. you'll probably figure it out eventually, i wouldn't stress about it if i were you.

but it might be worth considering if it's possible ... More
Yeah I think I've realized that just because I'm aroused by certain things doesn't make me gay.

For instance, many lesbian women can only masturbate to gay porn :S weird, but yep :O. Same goes for all the other combinations I think I'm more assured.

I've been on T for over 1.5 years now.
09/09/2012
Roz W Roz W
I haven't had this experience but I think it's cool that you take into account that it could have many explanations.
09/11/2012
sodapin sodapin
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Originally posted by Roz W
I haven't had this experience but I think it's cool that you take into account that it could have many explanations.
Thanks yeah my transitioning process on a whole has consisted on a lot of self-reflecting, which can be positive but it's become mostly negative because I've been getting stuck inside my own head so to speak.
09/12/2012
eroticmutt eroticmutt
Hey, I am a gay transman so yes of course I love muscular men!

As for your specific situation, YES it is normal to want to see an idealized image of yourself. I think it could be two things: One, it could be that you simply admire the other man or Two, it could be that you're attracted to him.

Let me start out by saying that I have always been attracted to men and only men. I have no interest in and have never had interest in dating a female. I have had sexual experience with females, but only in the form of them giving me pleasure. I don't really have an interest in their parts and so have no interest in reciprocating.

Still, many many people do have more interests that come about later in life and especially so for transgender people. Maybe hormonal changes in the brain make us guys much hornier after a time than we were before, or perhaps we just get more comfortable with ourselves and do more soul-searching than other people do.

If you don't feel any attraction to the dude (ie wouldn't ever even want to have sex with him even in fantasy) then odds are you're really not attracted to him *at all!*

If on the other hand you think it might be kinda hot to mess around with him even without going all the way, you could be kind of attracted to only certain guys.

After starting T I began getting interested in women, but only to the degree that if I had a more functioning 'tool' down there, I would want to have sex with them. Since I haven't even had metoidioplasty, that's not an issue. Still not 'bisexual' for real because I would still be sort of selfish in that respect, but until now I didn't have fantasies or real desires for women even a bit, so that changed for me and for plenty of transmen it's the opposite- they start out attracted to women and come to find men more appealing than they used to be.

Only you know!
09/12/2012
butts butts
"I have also been told that in general (not just in trans persons), it's common for people to be turned on or find enjoyment from looking at an ideal image of themselves (for example: muscular men, fashion models, porn etc) because they can imagine how hot it would be to look like that themselves or be in a similar situation. "

I think you nailed it right there if you're not interested in a relationship or sex with men. This is entirely true, look at all of the model magazines that women buy and body building mags that men buy, they have information on how to look like that, and are largely example pictures because people like to LOOK at what THEY want to look like.
There's a difference in finding something aesthetically pleasing and finding it actually attractive. You might find a well built man aesthetically pleasing, it's something you want to look more like, and you enjoy the look of it, but it's not something you'd want to have sex with.
09/12/2012
sodapin sodapin
Quote:
Originally posted by eroticmutt
Hey, I am a gay transman so yes of course I love muscular men!

As for your specific situation, YES it is normal to want to see an idealized image of yourself. I think it could be two things: One, it could be that you simply admire the other ... More
Thanks for so much detail! Yeah I'm not sure if I'd ever want to actually get involved with another guy and if I did it would mostly be out of curiosity (example: how their genitals behave/function) and nothing sexual or romantic.

I can relate to only wanting to be involved with women if I had the "equipment" downstairs, which I find kind of hard to deal with considering I'm attracted to them D: yet I can't be comfortable doing anything with them.

Thanks again .
09/13/2012
sodapin sodapin
Quote:
Originally posted by butts
"I have also been told that in general (not just in trans persons), it's common for people to be turned on or find enjoyment from looking at an ideal image of themselves (for example: muscular men, fashion models, porn etc) because they can ... More
Thanks I'm glad I'm not alone in thinking this. I guess I was more unsure as to whether people who buy body building/fashion magazines experienced some sort of arousal like I do, but I suppose it's reasonable that they might otherwise those publications would be out of business xD.
09/13/2012
MJ7 MJ7
Ahh, this makes me feel normal! I was really in denial about being trans for so long, and was really confused. I AM definitely attracted to males, but also just looking at males and thinking about myself being male-bodied does turn me on quite a bit. I'm glad I'm not the only one.
09/14/2012
Zandrock Zandrock
Unsure
09/14/2012
sodapin sodapin
Quote:
Originally posted by MJ7
Ahh, this makes me feel normal! I was really in denial about being trans for so long, and was really confused. I AM definitely attracted to males, but also just looking at males and thinking about myself being male-bodied does turn me on quite a bit. ... More
Nice! Thanks for sharing this with me I'm not alone I suppose!
09/14/2012
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Unique posters: 7