No. When My Man says something he means it. I do get him things for holidays, even if he says he doesn't want anything. But, I won't have a party if he doesn't want one.
His mother got angry at me, because when he turned 50, he said, in no uncertain terms, "DO NOT do anything for my birthday. I'd rather forget it. DO NOT."
So, I didn't. (Not like I had the money to do anything anyway.) The day of his birthday, his mother calls me and asks what I am doing for her son for his "special" birthday. When I said he didn't want anything, she starts in about what a "special day" this is (this is the woman who had not had guests over since her son graduated High School, because they "mess up the house" and has NEVER hosted an event or holiday since I have known him) I explained that he didn't want anything, and she threw a hissy fit.
I really wanted to ask her why she
didn't throw him a party, but her ass had left for Florida just in time to MISS his birthday.
The woman ain't right.
She acted pissed at me for about 3 months. No big loss really.
But, My Man was so relieved I hadn't done anything. We stayed home, I made him a pie, we ate it with the kids, and I picked up Gyros and we just sat around and watched a movie and went to bed early and fucked all night. That was all the "special" he needed, really.