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You ask. If they say they are 18, you have no reason not to believe them. I think it's pretty easy at times to tell the difference between a young teen and an 18 year old. I would hope as one approaches college/adulthood they would cut it with
You ask. If they say they are 18, you have no reason not to believe them. I think it's pretty easy at times to tell the difference between a young teen and an 18 year old. I would hope as one approaches college/adulthood they would cut it with the chat speak and OMGLOL IBieber stuff.
Should you ever meet in person or start cam sessions and suspect they aren't 18, the best thing to do would be to get up and leave or disconnect the chat and block their user names.
I would also like to think pre-teens and teens aren't hanging out on adult chat sites because their parents monitor their user history and internet access in general. That's probably not the case, unfortunately.
The implications would be the person lied about their age, you would spend a lifetime defending yourself against the charges and all of your chat history on every website you've ever been on will be picked over with a fine-tooth comb.
Yeah, my parents didn't monitor my computer use at all, even in middle school. I think it was good of them to give me privacy, though, and just teach me the importance of internet safety (don't go posting drunk pics on facebook, don't plaster your personal info everywhere, keep an email that looks official and another one for unimportant or possibly spammy sites, etc.)
I've seen 40-50 year olds using u, l8r, etc. (I even know one girl in her 20s who likes to type q instead of g whenever it's lowercase because it looks stylish.) I used those for about a year in the middle of middle school, then stopped. It's hard to judge someone's age by their typing mannerisms, though you can gauge their maturity level pretty well.
I'd hope that the government would blame the kid if they lied about their age. If the kid is very obviously much younger (like, 12), then I think you deserve some blame.
Asking questions about their schedule might help discern. For example, if they claim to be in college, ask what times their classes are and/or the class names, and then see if they kind of stick to that schedule as they log on. If you know what area they live in, watch out for stuff like "we had a snow day today" and cross-check with news sites to make sure that there were colleges out, not just middle and high schools. If they say they have a job, try to get enough info about the kind of stuff they do or how their shifts work to tell whether it sounds like a real job or just the classic teen image of what jobs should be like. None of these are foolproof, but it's generally pretty easy to break down a story about college and jobs when the person has no experience with those things.