have you ever been in a relationship where the guy wanted kids and you didn't want any?

Nobody's trying to shut you down Kinky Girlfriend, it's just a helpful community.

My last serious relationship was like this. He wanted to marry young and have multiple kids before he was 30, and I'm leaning towards having one (if any) after I'm 30. I have my reasons for deciding this, and several more years to know for sure if that's what I want to do.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 11 1/2 years and we have two kids. I have had two rough pregnancies and two miscarriages and I dont want anymore kids but my boyfriend wants more. He wants one more and I feel like my baby days are over. Its an issue that we have been trying to resolve.

I didn't always want kids. I didn't want kids until a previous relationship where we both changed our opinions of wanting kids in the future. But after we broke up I got into another relationship. Of course I still wanted kids (still do eventually), but he wanted them sooner than me. His time clock was running much faster than mine. So it wasn't a matter of if we wanted kids, it was the timing of when we wanted them that was the issue.

My first long relationship was this way. He wanted kids, a few of them, and I want nothing to do with children. I don't think it ruined things, it never got to that point really.

I for sure want kids, and I've refrained from beginning relationships where the man for sure didn't want any. I don't want to go through life unfulfilled and I definitely also don't want a resentful partner forced into fatherhood. I've always felt like it's a huge lifestyle choice either way and sort of a dealbreaker if both people aren't on the same page.

I had a boyfriend who really wanted kids, but I didn't so I just broke it off.

Odd situation, actually.

I swore off kids. Not my thing. Then my current (and hopefully last) significant other explained his desire to have children with me (he has 5 of his own). After a few months, I kind of started to want it. And now, I actually desire being a mother.

Unfortunately, I have extremely bad PCOS, which means it'll be difficult to conceive. That's a whole 'nother story.

At 13, I worked at a day care center. That completely killed any desire of wanting kids. I still say it's the best form of birth control ever.

At 21, I met my ex-husband. He always wanted children. I warmed to the idea of having kids, and did lots of research. But we were never in a situation where we could afford to have any, and the marriage also made it clear that I would end up being the responsible one who'd have to take care of two children - our baby and my ex.

At 30, (while still married) I firmly decided that I did NOT want children. He said that I would 'change my mind later'.

At 33, we finally divorced without any, save for a Malti-poo and a huge calico - he got custody of the cat while I kept the dog. (Although it was cute how we referred to catfood and dogfood as 'baby food'. Used to freak out the grocery store clerks.)

So, I'm definitely not in the market for having children, and that will be part of the package for anyone else I'm with - they must understand that I will not have any. Of course it seems most guys do want children (or at least proof of their virility), so my options are very limited.