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Is it weird that I usually buy the presents in my relationship? He pays for them and i pick them out, his and mine (as well as for both our familys come holidays) He helps and its usually just things we've been talking about wanting for some time
Is it weird that I usually buy the presents in my relationship? He pays for them and i pick them out, his and mine (as well as for both our familys come holidays) He helps and its usually just things we've been talking about wanting for some time and just not splurged on (we dont have deep pockets and we stick to budgets)
Does anyone else do this or just think either I'm a control freak or he's lazy?
We do this very thing. We have for probably the last 15 yrs of our marriage. Really when it comes to buying presents for him, I know what I would like him to have. Usually he would not purchase those things for himself because he does not think he NEEDS them. My presents tend to be that of the pamper-yourself type and he just isn't into doing that by himself without me helping along the way. However, if he is wanting or longing for tools, then that is not really "present" material in my mind. He needs to go with me and pick out exactly what it is he wants and I will go to the register and pay.
When it comes to Christmas or my B-day it is really hard for me to tell someone what I want because truly, I have everything I NEED and if I WANT something (lately toys are the only thing on my wishlist on EF or otherwise!) I usually go get it myself or we shop for those things together since they are really for the two of us anyway. However, this past Christmas, JCPenny was having an awesome sale on sweaters which I desperately need more of, living in the Last Frontier. He went with me to pick out several. That way he was able to say, "I don't like that color on you (even though I did) and this is from me, so put it back."
You are not a freak. When you live within your means and on a budget you can't afford not to be practical!