hosting alcohol parties for teens

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hosting alcohol parties for teens

T&A1987 T&A1987
there have been PSAs against hosting drinking parties for teens and would like to know everyone's thoughts. While i get that it introduces teens to alcohol earlier on, preventing binging when they do start drinking, I'm personally against the parties. For one, the parents are liable for any teen that leaves drunk and crashes. Two, the younger a person is, the easier it can be to become addicted to alcohol, the age limits are there for a reason. three, I wouldn't want drunk, rowdy teens in my house. at worst, drunken, wild, protection-less sex parties, at best, loud obnoxious teens and their young people music tearing up my home.
01/08/2012
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Rossie Rossie
I don't like the idea of hosting drinking parties for teens. Just like your first and third reasons, I don't want any of that to happen. If a teen wants to experience alcohol, the best way is to try it with their parents, at least that's my take on the subject. My father allowed me my first sip of cognac when I was around twelve, while we were hosting a large family dinner. From then on, if I want to have a shot at dinner along with the adults, I'm allowed to do so. I've never been addicted to it, although I might sometimes have a shot just for fun. I think that was a good way for my parents to introduce me to alcohol, better than learning from outsiders.

We offered our 17 years old son to try wines and beers, he took a sniff at them and shook his head, he wasn't interested in any of them at all.
01/09/2012
Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
What!??! I didn't even know this happened. I'm pretty sure that it's illegal to provide alcohol to minors, right? I think it is okay to have your own teen drink alcohol at home within reason (a couple sips) and with adult supervision, but I don't think it's okay to provide alcohol to other teens or encourage drinking at parties.
01/09/2012
T&A1987 T&A1987
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Originally posted by Love Perpetua
What!??! I didn't even know this happened. I'm pretty sure that it's illegal to provide alcohol to minors, right? I think it is okay to have your own teen drink alcohol at home within reason (a couple sips) and with adult supervision, but ...
it is illegal to have these parties, they have public service announcements where i live that say people shouldn't do i because it's illegal. the issue i have is that illegality is a lame argument against something. A main argument(it's against the law) should apply to child rape and jay walking.
01/09/2012
Midway through Midway through
My parents allowed me to have alcohol at THEIR parties starting at age 14. It kept me from going behind their backs, because when my friends wanted to drink, it wasn't super cool to me anymore. I could drink any old time at the house. My mother kept wine coolers available after age 15 for me. It definitely prevented me from drinking. However, I don't think the parties themselves would be a good idea.
01/09/2012
Chirple Chirple
I'm all for parents exposing their children to alcoholic beverages in a sensible way. Letting a kid try a sip, letting young adults have a glass of champagne on new years - things like that. It shouldn't be a big scary secret.

But a drinking party ? Are you shitting me ? That's promoting all the wrong things. I highly doubt it's helping all that much, only creating bad habits and general cultural stupidity with parental consent.
01/09/2012
LilLostLenore LilLostLenore
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Originally posted by Love Perpetua
What!??! I didn't even know this happened. I'm pretty sure that it's illegal to provide alcohol to minors, right? I think it is okay to have your own teen drink alcohol at home within reason (a couple sips) and with adult supervision, but ...
agreed
01/09/2012
Katelyn Katelyn
My parents never let me or my friends drink but my best friends parents did. I think that all of our party's were incredibly safe and taught us how to be more responsible towards alcohol. I also see how this could be a bad thing with some less responsible kids.
Kind of a mixed bag!
01/09/2012
M121212 M121212
I'm not really sure about this current incarnation of drinking parties (hadn't heard of it), but done responsibly I think it's a good idea. It's true that if kyds don't learn to drink from adults they are just going to do it on their own and probably more recklessly. I know that I really appreciated that one of my friends' parents were OK with us drinking and such in their house. I think that we were safer and more integrated for having done so.
01/09/2012
K101 K101
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Originally posted by T&A1987
there have been PSAs against hosting drinking parties for teens and would like to know everyone's thoughts. While i get that it introduces teens to alcohol earlier on, preventing binging when they do start drinking, I'm personally against ...
I totally agree! I actually haven't heard of many who felt the same way. My partner and I were just discussing this with our 12 year old last month. Thankfully, he's seen not so healthy things happen previously due to drunk people. It's affected him very negatively and he has strong feelings against drinking. That does make me feel better that he'll be less likely to try it.

People think drinking is so harmless and while I did have my share in the past, things are out of control with partying these days. Also, I've seen too much of what happens when loved ones get drunk often and that was enough to make me want to stop. I don't drink and if I were to ever decide to have a beer, I would not do it in front of the kids. I would not allow parties of drunk teens at my house. I just can't let go of the risks, my values, morals and what not just to be a fun parent. I couldn't live with myself if something happened while allowing teens to drink at my house, especially something like what I went through at a drinking party in my past. Nope. I mean it might be nicer to know your kid is at your house doing it rather than at someone else's, but it doesn't change much of the risks and like you said becoming addicted and it does not take much! Another thing, alocoholism runs in our 12 year old's family as well as my partners so it scares me for him to ever even be introduced to it, for "fun" or not.
01/09/2012
Beck Beck
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Originally posted by Midway through
My parents allowed me to have alcohol at THEIR parties starting at age 14. It kept me from going behind their backs, because when my friends wanted to drink, it wasn't super cool to me anymore. I could drink any old time at the house. My mother ...
This is what my parents did to me also. I rarely drink and when I do I am at home and stop at 3 or 4.

I am not sure what I plan to do for my boys yet, I surely know I will not be hosting no parties, but I know what I did at that age and know that if there is a will, there is a way and they will get the alcohol from someone else.
01/09/2012
biancajames biancajames
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Originally posted by Midway through
My parents allowed me to have alcohol at THEIR parties starting at age 14. It kept me from going behind their backs, because when my friends wanted to drink, it wasn't super cool to me anymore. I could drink any old time at the house. My mother ...
I would prefer that my child drink with my supervision than get trashed elsewhere!
01/09/2012
Jul!a Jul!a
I can see valid points for introducing kids to alcohol in an environment that they can be completely safe in, but I don't see any good coming from having large parties where teens can drink. It was always one thing if I wanted to have a beer or a glass of wine with dinner at a family party but there was no drinking with friends until we were all 21. By the time I turned 21 and could go out and buy my own alcohol, it wasn't super exciting to me. My mom's theory was that she would rather we do it in her home where she could keep an eye on us rather than have us sneak around behind her back and possibly end up getting very hurt because of it.
01/09/2012
GenderSexplorations GenderSexplorations
I think it wouldn't be as much of an issue if the drinking age were 18 instead of 21. Come on, you can go off to war but you can't have a sip of alcohol? Of course teens are going to be curious about it then. Whereas if it's accessible at a younger age, I think more kids would be willing to wait until they turned 18 because then 'oh, it's not that far away' and underage drinking wouldn't be such an issue.

Look at it this way, from what I know alcohol related deaths are lower in countries with a lower drinking age. Because then irresponsible kids don't see it as as much of an 'adult thing' so they're not tempted by it as much.

But as for the parties thing, I think it places way too much responsibility on one parent to be able to keep track of things. But by the same token there are worse ways to go about exposing teens to alcohol. Like in unsupervised environments. So if it's a choice between a kid being exposed at an unsupervised party or rave with tons of alcohol available or a parental supervised party with a limited supply, I think the latter is better.
01/09/2012
El-Jaro El-Jaro
What's the average drinking age in European countries? I'm for that age.

I think the big issue should be parents teaching kids about moderation and responsibility. I think a 5 alarm hangover is more instructional than ANYTHING they can show teens in school...except maybe those "Faces of Death" type videos.
01/09/2012
married with children married with children
against giving your teen kids alcohol.
01/11/2012
spiceboy spiceboy
I don't understand encouraging teens to drink in any capacity. Offering them alcohol is just normalizing it for them. The goal should be to educate them on responsible drinking should they choose to drink on their own; not every teen does. I never encountered alcohol at home or among peers until college and by that time I could see what a destructive force it seemed to be and wasn't interested in trying it. If I'd accepted those shots and drinks my aunts passed my way at family gatherings it's more likely that I'd drink now because it wouldn't seem so foreign to me.
01/11/2012
GravyCakes GravyCakes
i don't really agree w/ letting teens drink. my parents didn't let me & my siblings drink at home (they let us take one sip of their drinks occasionally if we were curious about how it tasted, but for the most part, we weren't allowed to drink) & we never went behind their backs to drink. i didn't even try to start drinking till i turned 20 (which is still underage, i know, but i never made a huge deal out of it). it never seemed like a big deal to me. my parents weren't super strict, they just never made a big deal about drinking & told us that it wasn't that big a deal & that there was no need for us to get so excited about it when we did become of age. plus, there are numerous studies that alcohol at certain ages can mess w/ development.
02/07/2012
ddd masturbator(bye all!) ddd masturbator(bye all!)
I heard a very compelling story when I was in middle school about a boy who was killed in a drunk driving accident. He was in high school and he was the drunk driver. His parents allowed him to drink a beer at home and that led him to believe it was ok to drink outside of his home.

That is one reason I would never allow minors to drink in my home.

Parents shouldn't supply it, because it only tells the teens involved that it is ok to break laws.

I did supply alcohol to my friend when she was 19, but she lived next door and her parents were ok with it. She never drove anywhere after drinking, in fact she either would sleep at my house or she'd walk home. This was also at times when it was 4 or less people, definitely not loud crazy parties.
02/07/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
I don't agree with this whatsoever. It's like they're making a big production out of alcohol. I like the European approach where it's just part of the culture and kids start drinking a sip of wine or whatever with dinner at a very young age. That, to me, makes a lot more sense than hosting an "alcohol party."
02/07/2012
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