Tips on how to not masturbate?

michael scofield michael scofield
my masturbation is not in control. its ridiculous how much I do it. I been on 4 days now which is a miracle and the urge is too strong I dont know if i could last rest of day. I would like to go long as possible without doing it then do it once then try to hold out again would like to slowly stop it so i can have it under control.
11/25/2012
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PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I know this isn't the first post you've made like this one.

When are you noticing it's toughest? Are you watching a lot of porn or something else that's encouraging it?

I'm wondering if you're not doing enough in your day to distract yourself. Get a new hobby, leave the house when you're having a hard time and go for a long walk, do things that make your hands busy. I know a lot of guys play video games, but you could also try something more skillful like building models or something like that. Anything that takes a lot of concentration can be a good distraction.

It's okay to masturbate, even on a daily basis, but from what you're writing about it's become an issue for you. I admire you going four days without it, and think it's awesome that you're making steps toward getting it under control.

I think it's great that you are able to recognize that this is a problem, and are working on it. I think the best way to get on track is to really pay attention to what's going on when the urges hit. If you're noticing a pattern than it's time to figure out why you're feeling this way, during this time. Like I said, often times people do it out of boredom and lack of something mentally stimulating.

I don't know if I've helped or not, but this was just what came to my mind.
11/25/2012
michael scofield michael scofield
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Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
I know this isn't the first post you've made like this one.

When are you noticing it's toughest? Are you watching a lot of porn or something else that's encouraging it?

I'm wondering if you're not doing ... More
thanks. that is how i have been going 4 days without doing it cause i been keeping busy and distracting myself but the urge is becoming too strong I try and see if doing something that takes alot of concentration helps
11/25/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
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Originally posted by michael scofield
thanks. that is how i have been going 4 days without doing it cause i been keeping busy and distracting myself but the urge is becoming too strong I try and see if doing something that takes alot of concentration helps
While this seem to have turned into an addiction to you, I don't think you have to hold out completely. Most things in moderation are good for you. It's important to not deny yourself the things you enjoy entirely, but I also know that this is what you're choosing to do in order to balance things out a little bit.

If you ever need someone to talk with, need help figuring out patterns or anything, I'm here!
11/25/2012
Ryuson Ryuson
Maybe you could make yourself a deal, like you'll only do it once a day when you're in the shower. This will make it so that you don't get super frustrated going off of it cold turkey, but it will also give you a good 'rule' to follow.

It's great that you've realized that your masturbation habits were adversely affecting your daily life and are trying to get them under control!
11/25/2012
Rod Ronald Rod Ronald
Don't worry, it's actually healthy to masterbate. So jerk on my Brother!
11/25/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
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Originally posted by Rod Ronald
Don't worry, it's actually healthy to masterbate. So jerk on my Brother!
It is, you're right. However, it's become something that he feels he does too much. Masturbation is awesome, but if it's interfering with your every day life where you're not eating or sleeping, not wanting to leave the house, or things like that; it's become an addiction and isn't healthy any longer. He's trying to find a good balance between enjoying his body and not allowing it to consume his mind. Am I right, michael scofield?
11/25/2012
jr2012 jr2012
I know it sounds so silly, but work on a hobby. It just keeps you hands and mind busy, and usually gives you something tangible in the end.

I am a knitter, which I know isn't the most attractive hobby for men, but sometimes! May I suggest exercise or cooking?

Also...I hate to say it, but is visiting this site triggering you? Reading about everyone else masturbating and having sex may be putting you in the wrong frame of mind.
11/25/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
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Originally posted by jr2012
I know it sounds so silly, but work on a hobby. It just keeps you hands and mind busy, and usually gives you something tangible in the end.

I am a knitter, which I know isn't the most attractive hobby for men, but sometimes! May I ... More
Pretty much exactly what I was saying!

And I think it's super cool when guys knit!
11/25/2012
AishiteruYO AishiteruYO
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Originally posted by jr2012
I know it sounds so silly, but work on a hobby. It just keeps you hands and mind busy, and usually gives you something tangible in the end.

I am a knitter, which I know isn't the most attractive hobby for men, but sometimes! May I ... More
Knitting!
11/25/2012
peachmarie peachmarie
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Originally posted by jr2012
I know it sounds so silly, but work on a hobby. It just keeps you hands and mind busy, and usually gives you something tangible in the end.

I am a knitter, which I know isn't the most attractive hobby for men, but sometimes! May I ... More
LOL that is true, he's on a site promoting sexual health, masturbation and the like. But if masturbating is ruining his social, family or professional life then it turns from fun pastimes to problem. There are tons of activities you can turn to, I know that I enjoy masturbating when I have time, it doesn't consume me. But since I crave "actual" sex rather than simply masturbating "the itch you can't scratch" etc I do go and have a rigorous workout after work to burn off energy, I can't want sex if I'm exhausted and my boyfriend is in no state to be giving me regular sex with work stress, health problems, I could go on.
11/25/2012
Genderfree Genderfree
For me, when the urge hits it's usually in the most uncomfortable situations (friends over, etc.). What I usually have to do is a little bit of mind-body awareness. Basically, I try to become aware of what the rest of my body feels and it usually gets better. I flex my arm, I feel what that feels, I go with that, exercise also helps a lot because I usually have a lot of energy when I'm horny.
11/25/2012
RonLee RonLee
Heck I'd like to know how to orgasm more often rather than less often.
11/25/2012
michael scofield michael scofield
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Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
It is, you're right. However, it's become something that he feels he does too much. Masturbation is awesome, but if it's interfering with your every day life where you're not eating or sleeping, not wanting to leave the house, or ... More
yes your right!
11/26/2012
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