If in a relationship..whos the dominate one?

Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
We are both equal and I like it that way!
08/12/2012
Contributor: ellieprobable ellieprobable
The word you are looking for is "dominant" not "dominate".
08/12/2012
Contributor: Princess Zelda Princess Zelda
I like 'wearing the pants' but its kinda hard when I have very little control over things.
08/12/2012
Contributor: Anne Anne
I'm forgetful a lot of the times, so I'm glad that my partner is there looking out for me.
08/14/2012
Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
Quote:
Originally posted by Master DarkWolf
I am the Master, my Baby is my slave, and I love and respect her as an equal spirit, caring for her and cherishing her from the bottom of my heart.
I like the way you put that. I am in a relationship where there is equal respect and we both see each other as "equals" in a sense (he's not better than me, I'm not better than him, we both have our strengths and our weaknesses), but I prefer him to be dominant, and he prefers that as well. He sees strength in my submissiveness, and I feel it in return. I've always loved taking care of another person by doing things for them--I'm a natural giver. But I've always wanted a firm hand to guide me (not control me--that's different), I've always wanted someone to make me feel safe and cared after, and I've always wanted to be able to be vulnerable without shame or fear of getting hurt, and the relief that comes with letting yourself go, and giving yourself over to another person--you know, sweet surrender and all that.

So he's dominant, and I wouldn't want it any other way. Some people are judgmental about that, and would think that I should be ashamed to admit such a thing, because I'm a woman and he's a man, but they don't get the dynamic. Submissive doesn't equal weak, and dominant doesn't equal tyrant.
10/10/2012
Contributor: Leather & Lace Leather & Lace
My partner is the dominate one. Always.
10/10/2012